There are seasons when your confidence just disappears.
Not with drama,
Not with some big breaking point,
Just quietly,
Softly,
Like it slipped out of the door while you were too busy trying to hold everything else together.
One day,
You're moving through the world with some sense of inner ground,
And the next,
Every step feels shaky.
Every choice second-guessed,
Even the things that once felt easy feel strange to reach for now.
And it's confusing because nothing major happened,
No obvious failure,
No sudden shift,
Just this slow,
Aching sense of disconnection from yourself.
You start wondering,
Where did I go?
Why can't I trust myself the way I used to?
And then the shame starts creeping in,
The stories.
Maybe I was never that good.
Maybe that confidence wasn't real.
Maybe I've lost something I won't get back.
But here's the truth I wish someone had told me.
Confidence isn't a personality trait.
It's not something magic you either have or you don't.
It's not earned once and then yours forever.
Confidence is a relationship.
And like any relationship,
It shifts.
It gets tired,
It needs tending,
It can break and it can rebuild.
Confidence isn't a sign of strength.
It's a symptom of safety.
And I don't mean comfort.
I don't mean avoidance or always feeling good.
I mean the kind of safety that says,
I can be with this uncertainty and not abandon myself.
I can move even when I don't feel ready.
I don't need to have it all figured out to take the next small step.
And that's honestly what changed everything for me.
I used to think I had to feel confident before I could begin and I searched for this.
But actually it's the other way around.
You begin,
You keep showing up to yourself and confidence grows inside the showing up.
Inside the mess.
Inside the I don't know if I can do this moments that you meet with even the tiniest bit of presence.
You don't need to wait until you feel certain.
You just need to stop abandoning yourself in the moments when you don't.
Confidence doesn't come from knowing.
It comes from staying.
From learning how to feel safe in uncertainty.
Not by making it go away,
But by holding yourself steady through it.
And that's not easy,
That's not comfortable,
But it is powerful.
Because then your confidence isn't performative,
It's rooted.
It's not based on how well things are going,
It's based on how deeply you trust yourself to keep going.
So if it feels far away right now,
That doesn't mean it's gone forever.
It means there's likely something in you that needs care.
Truth that needs room.
A part of you that's asking not for perfection,
But for patience.
You're not broken.
You are rebuilding.
One breath.
One honest moment.
One tiny act of self-trust at a time.
See you next week.
