Harvey Center for Relationships presents the Face Caress Meditation.
This is Taya Harvey.
Welcome.
This is an opportunity to commune with your partner and awaken your sense of touch.
It's an adventure designed for your unique enjoyment and was developed to increase your body's capacity for pleasure.
For this meditation,
No oils or lotions are required and the face doesn't need to be prepared in a particular way.
It's fine if the face is unshaven or is blemished.
Real hair adds variety and texture to your exploration.
Put down your phones and find your way sitting together comfortably on a sofa or bed.
Decide who will be the active partner and who will be the receiving partner.
Later,
You will switch roles.
Supported by a pillow or a wall,
The active partner will sit with their spine upright.
For the receiving partner,
Lie down on your back with your head resting on a pillow or on the lap of your partner.
Close your eyes and allow serenity to envelop you.
For the active partner,
Your eyes will remain open as you familiarize yourself with your partner's facial structure.
To build your partner's trust,
Resist poking them in the eye or catching the side of their lip.
Without touching their skin,
Cover their face with your hands.
Allow your hands to hover an inch or two above their face.
Sense the warmth generated between your hands and their skin.
Breathe.
Now with your fingers,
Gently start touching your partner's forehead along the hairline.
Feel the texture of their hair and skin.
Touch lightly so the skin does not move.
Continue to move the fingers and become intimate with the bone structure of their forehead.
Move down in between the eyebrows.
Gently brush your fingertips along both eyebrows,
Activating the nerve of each hair follicle.
Stimulate each hair follicle with your touch.
Stimulate your partner's sensitivity.
For the receiving partner,
Concentrate on your partner's touch.
Breathe in this luxurious experience and feel the sensation ripple through your body.
For the active partner,
Delicately skim the top of their eyelashes.
Glide your fingers along the soft flesh under their eyes.
Go slowly.
Using both hands with your fingertips and palms,
Stroke their cheeks in the same motion,
Moving up and down,
Touching and retouching.
What does your partner's skin feel like?
Is it smooth,
Rough,
Dry,
Or soft?
Do you feel peach fuzz or stubble?
Outline the shape of their cheekbones,
Tracing and retracing.
If you are receiving,
Remain quiet and focus on your face.
Reframe from assisting or giving feedback.
Just relax and take in the experience.
Allow.
Surrender to the sensations in your body.
Breathe.
For the active partner,
Touch for your own pleasure.
Explore.
Follow your curiosity and perceive through your skin.
Receive information through your sense of touch.
With one hand or two,
Take your thumbs and index fingers and move them along your partner's jawbone.
Now glide your index fingers along the length of their nose to the tip and down the sides to the cheeks.
Touch under the tip of the nose and around the nostrils.
Be mindful that your fingertips do not block the nostrils.
Press above and below the mouth,
Trace and retrace their face.
Make your way to their lips.
Very slowly outline the edges of their lips into the corners.
Notice the difference in texture.
Be careful not to touch inside the mouth.
Your partner's mouth may open involuntarily as you stroke their lips.
This is a natural response.
You are awakening their body's instinctual behavior.
Discover their chin.
Is it pointed?
Is there a dimple?
Mind the details.
Notice.
Pay attention.
Both of your experiences are enhanced by slow and gentle movements.
The surface of your skin has millions of sensory receptors.
Learn about each other through your flesh.
Move to the ears.
Do not probe deeply inside them.
This could cause injury and seem life-threatening.
Touch the outer rim of the ear,
The back of the ear where it meets the skull,
And caress their earlobe.
Feel the thickness between your fingertips.
Investigate carefully the outer folds of the ear.
Folded skin protects bunches of nerve endings that are close to the skin.
Explore the other folds of the ear and this very sensitive area of the body.
Glide your fingertips down to the neck and bring your whole hand to their collarbone,
Stroking and touching and caressing with interest and attention.
This gives your partner maximum pleasure.
You are awakening their skin with your touch,
Again tracing and retracing the neck and the collarbone with your fingertips and hands.
Shortly you and your partner will be switching roles.
Before you do,
Take this moment to discover the uniqueness of your partner's face and touch any area that you desire.
Perhaps their hairline,
Their lips,
Their cheeks.
Be mindful of their nose.
Cup your hands over your partner's eyes.
Hold them there.
Breathe.
And now release your hands.
This concludes this part of the meditation.
Take a moment to discuss what you both experienced during the caress.
Be specific about how you felt.
Speak kindly.
This is a valuable opportunity to learn about yourself and your partner.
After your discussion,
Switch roles and start the meditation from the beginning.
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