Hi,
How are you doing?
I'm happy to record these words for you.
Let us set apart a few minutes so I can show you what you can do to have more friends and to get to that special person who will accompany you in your life.
Before we start,
I want to ask you to put aside all the worries that you have at this moment.
If you deem it necessary,
Write them down on a piece of paper or on your cell phone so you can focus on this moment and listen to the dialogue I have for you so you can relax.
Very well.
The first thing I want to say is that we are social beings and it is normal to have friends in a love relationship.
We all need each other.
That's how we were designed.
That's how we were born.
You may find it hard to socialize or having a partner because maybe in the past someone betrayed your trust.
I'm interested for you to consider that this doesn't necessarily have to happen again.
You can take it as a lesson to use more caution in the future and don't be an open book to everyone.
Don't reveal your whole being from the get-go.
There is a treasure in each person.
There's a treasure in you.
Allow people to earn the right of getting to know you,
To marvel at the things you have to offer.
If,
As I said before,
You were treated badly,
Betrayed,
Maybe bullied,
Or something similar,
One of the things you can do to overcome these and that will help you to heal those emotions is to write a letter to each of those people.
It doesn't matter if they're no longer alive.
The letter is not for them.
The letter is for you.
In that letter,
Express all the pain,
Mistrust,
Disappointment,
Any feeling you have towards that person,
And if there was something positive to,
Write it down and give thanks for it at the end of each letter.
Write a big thank you because you learned something from them.
They were your teachers,
Maybe in a painful way,
But you gained new knowledge which will help you to continue in life.
And if any of those experiences were too much and you think you won't be able to face them alone,
Please consider relying on a professional,
Someone who can guide you with proper tools and can show little by little how to heal these wounds.
Now,
I'm going back to those experiences.
If you got bullied,
If someone didn't believe in you,
Or got in the middle of their goals,
If they made fun of you,
I want to tell you that nobody can define who you are.
The only person who can do that is you.
You define your identity and it is on you to allow or reject these criticisms and abuse from defining you.
So don't let anyone choose what type of person you are.
Don't let anyone stop you in developing your potential and defining how far you will go.
That power belongs only to you.
In this new purpose of making friends or having a partner in your life,
Show others how they should treat you and that has to be inspired by a perfect reflection of the value,
Love,
And respect you give to yourself.
If you treat yourself well,
If you love yourself,
Others will follow suit.
If you don't put anyone above you and realize that we are all equal,
That is the result you can expect.
I want you to know that there is nothing wrong with you and the only thing is that you need to have a little bit of patience.
Don't try to force or impose yourself to potential friends or couples.
Certainly with some people who will arrive to your life,
There will be an instant click and things will flow very fast,
But don't expect it to always be that way.
Learn to interpret how much people approach you,
How much they look for your presence,
And don't always be the one looking for others.
Let it be reciprocal.
Remember you have to learn to love,
Value,
And respect yourself.
Let others see that self-worth in you.
Some friends and couples are like wine that takes time to mature and reach its full potential,
So don't be afraid to wait.
This will be worth it.
In this process of loving and respecting you,
It is important to know your own virtues and qualities.
For this task,
You can get help from someone who knows you and who can be impartial in case you can't tell what these are by yourself.
It's good to know we'll have our strengths and weaknesses,
Some sort of balance,
A yin yang.
Even though for many of us it is difficult to socialize or finding partners,
I can assure you it's not as difficult as some may think.
There are literally millions of people that share your interests,
That are looking for the same things you are,
And if it is hard for you to meet people face-to-face,
You're in the best time for humankind.
We are connected through social networks.
There are countless of groups whose themes are the interests you're looking for.
It's a very good way to meet people and eventually have face-to-face gatherings.
See that as great opportunities.
Something I would like you to also consider is that it is very common to wear masks before society,
Maybe to protect us from being harmed or to avoid others to see our sensitive side.
Many people around you may have the same obstacles or the same shyness to start a conversation with new people.
Some may even struggle to approach you and they can't master the courage.
A weapon that you can use to overcome that for you and them is a smile.
A smile can be more powerful than a thousand blows from a hammer to bring down a wall.
Now that you're deciding to meet more people and even have a love partner,
Don't forget that nobody's worth more than you and that we all make mistakes.
Even the most revered and admired people in the world have their failures and are also human beings who need food,
Rest,
And company.
You have the right to choose who your friends are and who is going to be your partner and it goes the same way for others with you.
So don't be discouraged if someone doesn't want to be your friend.
You have that same power and it is a blessing because nobody can force you to be in their lives.
And on the other hand,
Understand that it is very common for us to judge by appearances.
I remember when I was in college.
For some circumstances I started being around some people more frequently and one of them told me she thought I was very arrogant.
But because circumstances quote-unquote forces to hang out,
She learned to appreciate me and we ended up being good friends.
This can happen to you with others.
Try not to judge by appearances.
You don't know what's going on in everyone's mind and the things they face while growing up.
I assure you that there is no person in the world that is loved by everyone and it's good to know that.
So don't try to change who you are to please others.
Just be honest with yourself and with what you want and you will see that you're going to find people who think alike and with whom you'll get along very well.
And now,
Speaking a little bit about having a love relationship.
After interacting with people that are entering your life or when you find someone special that you like,
Let everything go at its own pace.
Don't allow all of the sudden for your life to revolve around that person.
Remember that you are an individual.
You're a unique person.
You were not born stuck to anyone and love is something that grows little by little.
One of the most beautiful types of love is the one that evolves from friendship by hanging out with someone,
Perhaps without pretending another thing.
It bloomed from closeness to affinity and then to falling in love.
These are usually beautiful relationships because you had an opportunity without the pressure of wanting to captivate or be captivated by someone.
To hang out during a good and bad times.
To know sincerely what they like without anyone needing to pretend.
Allowing both to get closer,
Overcoming little by little more barriers and letting everything flow naturally.
Don't feel you have to force something with your love interest.
Let love grow at its own pace and if at the end you realize that you just want a friendship,
That's alright.
As I told you before,
There are millions of people with whom you have affinity and many opportunities to discover them.
But most importantly,
If you want to have more friends and that special someone you long for,
Remember you need to love,
Respect and value yourself.
And if you feel that way about you,
Others will also see that and treat you in that way.
I hope these thoughts help you realize that this is not difficult.
It's just a matter of having a little patience and understanding that others are in their world doing their own thing.
And that eventually you can have new friends without needing to force anything and without feeling a void,
An urgency to change your life.
For your world to change,
You have to change first.
Open your heart to yourself first and you will see others reaching out to you too.
I want to thank you for listening to this audio.
I hope it helped you a lot.
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And until next time,
I hope you're having a great day,
Take care and receive many blessings.
