Honored Boundaries | Self-Honoring | Abundance Codes

A guided meditation and teaching session on self-honoring and boundaries. Begin with a grounding exercise using a 1-10 scale to scan your chakras and notice where energy is dense or free in your body. Explore the relationship between trauma and our ability to know our yeses and noes, with affirmations to help the body feel safe honoring its truth. Learn the barge-and-rollercoaster analogy for distinguishing your body's innate wisdom from your mind's fear-based responses.
Includes affirmations for embracing your wild, natural self, releasing the fear of embarrassment and being unlikable, and making a full commitment to self-honoring. Close with a contemplation on your essence and what it means to live unapologetically.
If you enjoyed this meditation, Jamie's next steps to deepen your boundary healing would be to take her courses on this app: Self Honoring | The Sacred Rebellion of Choosing You, Profound Healing Through Self Love, and 5 Days to Confidence Through Self Love.

Transcript

What we're going to do today is we're going to ground in. I'm going to teach you a new exercise first, Which is basically, It's a way on a scale of one to 10, However you feel in the moment you give a number to. So it fully allows you to have that experience and allows you to shift and move energy, Which is really cool. So we're going to ground in with that. So let's ground in, Closing your eyes if it feels good. Just gonna take a couple deep breaths and just kind of gather all of our energy into this space, Breathing into the belly. Breathing into the chest, Just long, Slow exhale. Just breathing in. Pause. Long slow exhale. One of the quickest, Easiest things we always have access to is our breath. Deep, Long, Expansive breaths move energy, Move life through our system. So deep breath in. We're going to do five of these. Slower out than in tells our nervous system we're safe. Expand. From Ruiz. Stuff guys. One more. Breathing in. And letting go. Shaking it out. Can we release any energy that isn't mine? I am me and only me. All right, We're just taking a couple deep breaths as we all gather. In release. This is really important. I am so excited to share the magic in this exercise I'm going to share with you next. It's important to not use your number to judge yourself. Okay, So I'm going to say to you first, On a scale of 1 to 10, So we're going to in this scenario, We're going to use 10 as like, I'm feeling so light, I feel love with life, I'm vibe and high, Having no tech issues that are rattling my insides. I'm a 10. I'm not at a 10 right now to tell you that much. I'm a one, Which is like, There's a lot of density in my system. I'm experiencing heaviness. I'm really anxious. I'm really, There's low energy, Depression, Anything, Right? Intense fear would be a one. All we're doing is letting our awareness notice it. And then letting the wisdom of the body send you whatever information it needs to send you to raise the number. So you're just noticing. It's very nuanced, So we're gonna practice this for a minute. Okay, So you can have your eyes open or closed or deep breath. On a scale of 1 to 10. 1 being dense, 10 being light and free. Where am I right now in this micro moment? And whisper it to yourself or say the number out loud that just pops in your head. I wish we'd notice. Minus seven. Minus four. Wherever you are. Does the body do what it knows to do about a 7, About a 2? This is how we allow energy to be without having to identify it or create a story around it. Gives us a little space to let it move. We're going to do this a few more times, So just keep taking deep breaths, Grounding in, Feeling your body on the ground. On a scale of 1 to 10, 1 dense, 10 free. How am I feeling right now? We don't do anything with the number, Non-judgment. You might yawn. You might take a deep breath. Shoulders might relax a little more. Magic. And we're going to stand down the body. Crown shock. Top of my head. 1 to 10. Where's the top? My head and above, One to ten. Just name the number. Non-judgment witness witnessing the number letting the body do what it knows to do about the number Good, We're gonna move down to the third eye, Which is the forehead, The sinuses, The ears, Eyes. Scale of 1 to 10. Where's my third eye area? This is a way we can balance our chakras. No effort. Good, I see some of you are sighing, Yawning, Swaying, Releasing energy. Scale of 1 to 10, Throat chakra. Where am I at? No judgment. A 1 is just as fine as a 10. Notice where we are so the body can know what to give you next. 1 to 10 Pro Chakra. Let whatever is rising rise. You're moving energy. You're doing so good. Heart chakra center of the chest for your awareness there is the heart dense is the heart free one to ten where are you at the heart chakra Just noticing the number, Letting the energy. Solar plexus, Two inches above the belly button. Belly area, All the internal organs, One to 10. And scissor light. Noticing the number, Light, Easy, Non-judgment, Breathing, Allowing. The awareness does the work. Awareness does the work. Sacral chakra two inches below the belly button reproductive organs hips pelvis 1 to 10. That's light and free. Root chakra, Base of the spine, Legs. 1 to 10. This number pops into your head. Where am I right now on this scale? We're going to come back one more just to this last question. We're behind our eyes. We're in our body. Deep breath. Her body is on the surface, Grounding and calling all of her energy back. Letting the wisdom of our body recalibrate for us as we just notice what's needed. Neutral observer, We ask again. Best overall. In my body in this moment. One to ten, Where am I now? One light, I'm sorry, One dense tan light free. And whenever you're ready, Take more deep breaths. And open your eyes coming back to the space. When it comes to living a life of inspiration, Living a life of following our pleasure, Following our desire, Living in this new frequency. We have to be in a place of self-honoring. We have to be aware of our boundaries. We have to be aware of our internal innate yeses and nos, Because we all have them. So what I'm gonna do is just start a short conversation about it and I want you to kind of notice and get curious. Huh, I wonder what's coming up for me between me and being able to fully deeply self-honor. Every time I feel a yes, Which is inspiration. Oh, I'm getting this Yes, This gives me life. I want to go in this direction, But I can't. That's just some sort of inability to self-honor or a no to meaning. I got to nap. I got to sleep. I can't go hang out with this person. I got to say no, But I feel bad about saying no. Why we're afraid to honor that too. Because that releases just us getting to know our yeses and nos and honor them meaning I'm aware of what this is and now I'm going to carry it out into the world of form. Clears so much excess energy, Which makes our channel clearer to even hear the joy and the desire and the inspiration. Another caveat with this, When we've had trauma, Which most of us in life have. We, To keep ourselves safe, One of the defense mechanisms is shutting ourself off from our truth. And part of our truth is our boundaries. Part of our truth is our yeses and our nos. So it can literally feel like I'm not even going to get to know my yeses and nos because they will be dangerous to my survival. So we're gonna start just by first letting the body know, Body. I can know my yeses. Hand on the heart. We'll just start with this activation. So repeat after me if it feels good. Body. I can get to know. My guess is in my nose. And not die. And stay alive. Just a sheer fact. Of hearing this internal thought. Of a yes or a no, My innate boundary. I can hear it. And still be alive and not die. Just from that. Awareness of a truth. I'll just breathe there for a minute. Wow, I can hear a truth in my head and not die. May sound intense. But our brain goes to survival. And the reason a lot of times we can't expand forward in our life is it goes to death. It goes straight to, I can't handle that, I will die, Because it was based on survival when we were young. So things like, Oh, Just being aware of a yes or a no and I'll, That won't actually make me perish. Oh, Upgrade to my system. Okay, I can do that. So letting our body know, So we're gonna out loud after me if you want, Body. I will give you all the time and space you need. To get to know your truth. Without needing to act on it until you're fully ready. So. The reason we do that is you can take six months, You can take a year just to write down a sense of, Oh, This feels like a no to me. This feels like a yes to me. I'm just going to jot it down on my journal to at least just get to know the dialogue of this because I'd shut it off because of survival for so long. And then if one of these feels good to start to implement. Just saying. I don't answer emails on a. . . Saturday and it starts to just feel safe to do that, Then I can start to honor and implement. I've heard the body doesn't understand negatives like not. In the universe, How I've learned it is God is an equal opportunity employer. So if we say things we don't want, We're calling forward things we don't want, As opposed to I want to be confident, Not I don't want to be shy anymore. So we say to our bodies, I can. Have whatever new experience I'm having and stay alive at the same time. This makes sense and what I would say first off the bat is pick one small thing you can do. And implement that for a few weeks till it feels like no big deal because when our needs weren't met. Doing all of these at once is going to make us do none of them at all. So yes, Ideally a year from now, Maybe even sooner, You're like, I would love to be that self-honoring. And give myself that many needs. But can we just start with looking at your list? What one feels edgy but doable? So starting slow with just one. So the nervous system doesn't go, Oh, This feels uncomfortable having too many of my needs met at once. I'm going to shut the show down. I'm willing to allow this feeling. Of wanting to experience nature more. This expansive, Oh my God, I might want to run away and not come back, Is a feeling. And I'm willing to allow it here. What if I just want my toes to run in the wilderness? I'm willing to allow that feeling. I'm willing to allow the wild woman to be present. Yeah, Just breathe her in. Okay. I can allow the wild woman and have wisdom and. . . Personal responsibility at the same time. Yeah. I can be wise and wild at the same time. I can let my hair down and let my toes run, Maybe travel for a bit, Taking care of my family too. I'd be smart at the same time. Yeah. I can do it in a non-reckless way. It is what is natural. Wild is just what is natural, What is real, What is raw. Our wild ways, Our feet in the grass, Our running, Our healthy aggression, Our emotions, Our crying, Our beauty, Our boundaries, Our self-honoring. What is who we are before we are socialized. That is wild. It's not crazy. It's not reckless. It's not too much. It's full expression of soul self through physical self. In the most natural way, Connected to nature. Wild. Hand on the heart, Beautiful souls. I am wild. I am wild. Yeah, I am a new upgraded version of Wild. I can be wild. And still alive at the same time. There we go. I can be wild and loved at the same time. I can be wild and safe at the same time. Wild is Natural. So repeating out loud after me, I can embarrass myself. And really feel the truth in this in your body. I can embarrass myself. And still be alive at the same time. I can feel the feeling of embarrassment moving through my bones. And it can be temporary. And I can stay alive and thriving at the same time. Wouldn't you know that phrase, Die from embarrassment? But it's okay, This is intense and I'm alive. That was just energy moving through my body. I can be unlikable. And stay alive at the same time. So needing to be liked, I remember reading this and having my mind blown, Is a trauma response. It isn't wild, It isn't natural, It isn't innate to need to be liked. In a primal tribal society if we didn't have trauma responses. And we were all just living and somebody didn't like something we were doing or we spoke our truth and had a conversation, The energy dissipates. And so we don't, It's a, It's a, It's natural for us to allow that into our system that some don't like us, Some do, Some don't like moments. This feels softer on our system that's coming through right now. What if it's, Okay, What if we can upgrade to the level of consciousness where it's, People don't dislike me my whole life 100% of the time. They might dislike moments of things I say. But not me as a whole. I'm not unlikable. Someone might dislike a moment. And could I be open to that experience of life? There can be moments that are disliked in the whole of me. And I can stay alive at the same time. Let's feel into that in your body. Okay. Just breathing, Shaking it out. This was described to me this way once where, And this was helpful, So I'll see if it's helpful to you too. It's an analogy of a barge floating along a river and the barge is slow and peaceful and calm and a yes. So that way comes through the barge and I know not for you. And then sitting on top of the barge floating on this peaceful river is a roller coaster. And that's our brain, Right? The barge is like, No, This isn't for you. Yes. Acting is for you. And then our brains are like, Yeah, But I'm scared. Right? Most of us make our decisions in life based on the roller coaster, Not on the barge. So it's getting really quiet and taking time because sometimes we can't learn this language right away because we weren't trained in this language. So my career is a healer. I've always had. The barge has gone, Yep. Yep. My body has taken the craziest toll. All of my fears came up. My throat chakra, My chest, All my past life of being killed for speaking the truth. Oh my God, I'm talking about God and what the people are going to. . . But I knew to not listen to the roller coaster because I knew that there's just this. So the body going crazy to this that doesn't necessarily mean it's bad for me. There's always been a lightness. Yep. And then I've gone and done the healing that I needed to open my throat and open my heart and whatever I needed to do on my journey. It's nuanced, You gotta get quiet with it, You gotta feel into it, But maybe the acting, Depending on how you feel, Is the path and it's just bringing up fears, It's bringing up stuff to clear. You know? Do you have a sense of the barge? Do you have a sense of the, This is light, This feels good? And some relationships are like that too. We might be in a challenging relationship that we hear underneath and we hear, This shit's toxic, You need to get out. Or we might be in a challenging relationship and we hear, This is an opportunity to move past your patterns. This is healthy, But hard right now. And we're going to stay. So again, Just because it's not always light and rainbows up here doesn't mean it's wrong. So anyway, What do you hear after I shared that? So what I was going to say is self-honoring. Right? What comes up when you're like, I know I might not know all my S's or no's yet. I know I might not have all the boundaries implemented. But I want to choose my truth. I want to choose my path of least resistance. I want to choose the barge. What comes up when you're just like, Oh shit, But choosing the barge might mean. Choosing my truth, Choosing my self-honoring, What if I choose to fully honor myself? Is know what I need in every moment and carry it through. What might stop me from that. Just bring that into your awareness, Everyone. I want you to write that down, Whatever might keep you. From self-honoring, Right, That belief or that fear down. Do a little tapping on the chest. Thank you to this belief. Around self-honoring that's kept me safe. I ask for a miracle now. To see self-honoring in a new way. That is loving and life-giving. When I honor. Because I am part of the whole. Everyone is honored. When I honor me, I honor God. My life becomes a prayer. My life becomes an act of worship. So what I want you to do right now. Just write down a new belief. Not something you're bullshitting yourself about. What feels a little bit lighter, A little bit more true than what you wrote down from your adult perspective now. So as opposed to. People will leave me. What if it's like a new belief is? I'm committed to finding my tribe. And I'm always safe in God. I don't know, Something that, But maybe that doesn't resonate with you. Something that feels more true than what you wrote down and lighter. It's not as intense where we can slowly scoot to a bit more love. It just means knowing. What is. . . True to you and actually manifesting it in the world of form. Honoring as if you were a respected royalty. I honor you. I know that you want this thing in life and I will do whatever I can to give it to you. You are royalty. Baby to ourselves. How can I make sure your needs are met, Your desires are met? The truth is acknowledged. Alkanai. Parent you to have the most full life. Life possible. To be the healing you need, Sleep you need, The time in nature you need, Whatever it may be. And to me, Joy, Pleasure, And inspiration is in self-honoring, Which is why this was important to talk about today and heal and look through and live a life of joy, Inspiration, And desire. You know what? I don't know how. But I'm choosing to self-honor, And I'm coming back home today. Who is me? What am I offering? What is my essence? On a deeper layer, So that we can feel more unapologetic. This is me. This is my joy. This is my inspiration. And this is the way I'm choosing to live my life. Regardless.