Heal Anxious Attachment: Embody Security, Confidence & Self-Love (Part 2)

Have you researched endlessly about Anxious Attachment? Do you understand why you have an intense fear of abandonment in romantic relationships? Do you continue to repeat the same unhealthy patterns anyway?

This is common. You may be deeply aware of why you have an Anxious Attachment style and how you’re “supposed to” change it. But in practice, you just can’t seem to shift it.

Since attachment is formed in the first 2 years of life, our styles are set PRE-VERBALLY through touch, smell, posture, gestures, and other body movements.

The way we remember a caregiver being aggressive may be through their accelerated advancement towards us, or the way they forcefully picked us up when we refused to listen.

We do not remember WHAT they said when they made us feel unsafe. We do not know the exact words they used. We remember, non-verbally, the visual picture and bodily sensation that we experienced when they walked away while we were crying and begging for attention.

Our bodies remember.

This is why so many people struggle to heal their anxious attachment patterns. Because they are trying to change it with words or verbal information; but as preverbal children, we did not form our anxious attachment style in words. We formed them with our bodies.

It may be helpful to talk about your anxiety in therapy, repeat affirmations for feeling secure, or journal about your thoughts. However, these cognitive-based techniques are not enough to shift anxious attachment into secure attachment.

The body must adopt a new way. Neural pathways must be rewired in the non-verbal brain, so we can stay present and respond instead of react. We must learn how to literally move in ways that lead to more security (i.e., keeping eye contact and leaning in for a hug even while we have debilitating anxiety about getting hurt).

Movement is where true change begins. If you truly want to heal the wounds that feed your anxious attachment patterns, then you must engage your body in a process that allows your entire physical being to feel secure in all types of relationships and interactions.

In this course, you’ll be introduced to this movement-based process and start to feel some of the embodied shifts that are necessary to truly heal anxious attachment.

Lección 1: The Difference Between Love & Attachment

In today’s lesson, we’ll identify the difference between love and attachment. When you’ve related to others with anxious attachment for your entire life, it can be very difficult to know if you truly love someone vs. need them from a fearful place. You may even notice initial shifts from anxious attachment to secure attachment, and wonder, “Is this an anxious attachment pattern, or am I desiring or longing in a healthy way?” Knowing this difference will be crucial to building healthier, secure relationships without self-sabotage.

Lección 2: Stop Overgiving

Today, we are going to address one last pattern that is common amongst those with anxious attachment: Overgiving. We may overgive to try to keep our partners around for longer, make them "need" us, and prevent abandonment or rejection. Unfortunately, this pattern of overgiving may have the opposite desired impact and push partners away. Additionally, it can drain our energy and prevent us from having the love and relationships we truly desire. In this lesson, we'll learn how to stop overgiving, stop abandoning ourselves, and embody deeper self-love. That way, we can have deeper, more fulfilling relationships without feeling resentful, angry, and depleted.

Lección 3: Embody Secure Attachment

Today, we are going to take everything we learned in days 1 - 4 and embody it more deeply in one last movement meditation. By the end of today’s lesson, you may feel more confident than ever to approach your relationships in a secure and healthy way. This lesson will help you further integrate what you've learned in this course, so that you can meet your mind's intention with actual embodied intention. Whether you want to speak up more assertively, open your heart with less guardedness, or receive deeper love without self-sabotage, you can begin to make this a reality in today's lesson!

Reviews

I loved this course! Very practical awareness building, embodied wisdom 🌸 Thank you 🙏

This is another great course from Orit who presents the learnings in a clear and relatable way which helps your mind to easily understand how this relates to you. Criticality she then leads your body through movement meditation to help embody and integrate the learnings so your body believes it. The course has helped identify things to work on with me anxious attachment which has seen improvements in my relationship with my partner already.

You are award winning. I will be revisiting this class as a continual practice. I can't believe I found something so helpful. The is breakthrough territory for me. I never knew movement could be useful for this. I am excited to move forward.

Thank you!!!

Thank you so much for sharing the depth of knowledge and life experience you have through this course. This course has been the right information at the right time for my emotional growth and healing, and i appreciate it very much. I will be go through the course several more times to reinforce my learning and remind myself of the steps I need to continue to take and practice. This course and your presentation has given me what I need to take the next steps in my life and relationship. Thank you 🥰

Exceptional

As a counselor and teacher, being in this space can sometimes bring shame, blocking my ability to help myself or make sense of what I am experiencing in ways that are productive.
Thank you for walking me through this and assisting me in showing up as I would like to in my relationships with friends and lovers.

What a gift in my life! Huge blindspot blown wide open. So greaterul!

Loved part two just as much as part one. I needed this course and Im so grateful tk have these new insights. The most impactful section for me was the meditation going back and forth between attachment sensations versus love sensations in the body. This is a tool I will continue to use daily. Thanks again!!!

Excellent and insightful course. Worth repeating. 🙏🏻☯️🌸

Amazing!

🥰

It’s an amazing 5 day course about anxious attachment and find ways to use your body, and not just your mind to move oneself to a more secure attachment style. It’s an amazing teaching and moving with your body; allows my entire being to feel and understand what it takes to move from anxious to secure.

Great job of presenting this topic. I have gained new knowledge about attachment versus self awareness and love 💕 Thank you for sharing your experience with others and educating me.

Absolutely recommend this course as it gives solid tools to heal anxious attachment rather than just talking about it.

This has been a really wonderful course and I’ve learned so much about myself and how to identify and work through this anxious attachment. Thank you so much. I’ll definitely be coming back to this when I need support.