Becoming A Safe Space For Self

So many of us hold shame around the very normal experience of being human - especially our emotional experience. We judge and criticize ourselves when we are anything less than 'happy'. We often fear, avoid or suppress our big or difficult emotions when they arise - only to have to deal with the repercussions of this avoidance in our day to day symptoms, stress levels, and relationships.

But what if I told you that there was another way to meet yourself? That there is a very good reason as to why we fear our emotional landscape but that with time and practice and self compassion, we can learn how to be the safe space we always needed and in turn process our emotional ups and downs with kindness, acceptance and ease.

This short course will guide you through a series of lessons designed to empower you with the knowledge and understanding of why we hold so much shame towards ourselves, provide you with a deeper understanding of why compassion is the antidote to self criticism, and teach you a very useful technique/practice for learning how to meet your emotions with less resistance.

Ultimately with time, consistency, and persistency, you will feel a shift in how you perceive yourself and your emotions. It will give you a greater sense of inner peace which will ripple out to positively affect your relationships, concentration levels, quality of sleep, and overall well-being.

Lección 1: Introduction

Welcome, and thank you for being here. This lesson is a short introduction to what you can expect over the duration of course and why it's so important to be able to meet our emotional landscape with more acceptance and compassion. After many, many years of working with humans I have come to realize that shame has become such a block to our sense of inner peace. Let's look at why that is, and how this course can help you.

Lección 2: Why We Respond To Our Emotions With So Much Judgement, Fear And Shame.

Before we look at the 'how', I always like to explore and understand the 'why'. As humans, we like to make meaning of things - it helps us to make sense of ourselves and the world and can be a catalyst for more acceptance, and change. In this lesson we look at why so many of us tend to avoid, deny or suppress our big or difficult emotions. I will talk you through a very brief understanding of how our childhood experiences, nervous system state, and societal expectations can each play a role in the resistance we feel to our human experiences.

Lección 3: When We Resist Our Experience Of Being Human

You may have heard the saying “what we resist, persists”... but what does that actually mean especially when it comes to our emotions? In this lesson we are going to explore the consequences of resisting our human experience. In our pursuit of 'perfection' or within our fear of not fitting in or being accepted, we will lean towards other ways to deal with the ebbs and flows of life.

Lección 4: What Compassion Is And How It Helps To Cultivate More Self Acceptance

Welcome to lesson 4 and one of my most favorite topics - self-compassion. More specifically, in this lesson we will be exploring why self compassion is so important when it comes to dealing with our big or difficult emotions. In this lesson you'll understand what compassion actually means and how to apply it to your day to day life.

Lección 5: A Simple, Transformative Practice To Learn To ‘Hold Space’ For The Big And Difficult Emotions Which Arise Within You

Finally we have arrived at the practice itself. A practice to help you meet your big and difficult emotions with more compassion and acceptance. This practice is similar to a guided meditation whereby we will experience the sensation of emotion and create 'space' to allow it to be there whilst simultaneously soothing our nervous system as we do so. For this lesson I invite you to set up your space as if you are preparing for meditation - get comfortable and have minimal distractions around you.

Lección 6: Being Patient And Realistic With Your Expectations Of Self

Before we part ways, I wanted to offer another reminder to please be realistic with your expectations as you learn to be more accepting and allowing of your emotional landscape. Things won’t change over night and your inner critic will still be quite loud for some time. You may also still cope with difficult emotions in an undesirable way for a little bit… This is all totally normal. This lesson invites you to practice the art of patience and trust (with a little metaphor to help you understand), and to set realistic expectations with your emotional healing journey.

Reviews

I loved the stray cat analogy. That was sooooo relatable! 💫🐈✨.

Phenomenal on every level, wow. Communicated in such a relatable, short easy way. I’m blown away. Thank you xx

Great course!! Nikki has a very gentle and kind voice that fits well with the lessons she takes you on in this course. Ultimately preparing you for the practice which she teaches on Day 5, which had a profound effect for me and relieving tension in my chest that has been sitting around for quite some time.
I know I have so much more to utilize this practice for and to carry with me so I can hopefully start to gain much needed ground on the traumas I have gone through up until now. Many of which were due to the lack of the knowledge taught in this course. As a nurse, I will look to carry on this tool in my kit and see how many I can help if the situation applies.
Thanks so much Nikki! You are a beautiful soul, keep radiating that positive energy!! ☺️🙏🏼🙌

Thank you, this course is exactly what I needed. I’ve always struggled with self compassion and the steps you’ve laid out are extremely helpful. It’s one thing to say practice self compassion, but when you don’t have the tools or guidance to do so, it becomes quite difficult to do. So Thank You for your guidance, I’ll be returning to this course again and again. 🙏❤️

This course was well done. Each day organically built upon the previous day. The lessons were very easy to follow and comprehend. Thank you for explaining things so clearly and the emotional scan. It’s a beautiful new tool that is absolutely needed.

Thank you for this course, for your compassionate approach and valuable lessons

This is a wonderful course. I found it to be insightful, contemplative, and curious. I really liked what you said on day six, the analogy of the stray cat is really a great perspective. Thank you.

So relevant and helpful for me. Thank you Nikki for sharing this course, tools, insight and compassion.

Exceptional class. I listened to all in one sitting, & look forward to re-listening daily, until I become one with the lessons. Very grateful for your insights. Thank you 🕯❤️🕯

Thank you for your wonderful words and tools that I and we can use on a daily to deal with my emotions and stress. 🙏🏾

Wow! Absolutely incredible. I knew a lot of this, but it’s so valuable to have in the form of a short, compassionate, informative course. Thank you so very much!

A beautiful course guided by gentle compassion 🕊️🤍✨🕊️🤍✨🕊️🤍✨🕊️🤍✨🕊️🤍

That was an excellent process to work through. When we started exploring how the body was feeling I couldn’t figure out what the emotions were. And when the emotion expressed itself with tears I was able to recognised the emotion and breath through it. Thank you 🙏🏻

Tha ks for the great course you offered. I learnt a lot about my emotions and I feel like my relationship with them has changed .

It resonates with me at a deep level. I can already feel the difference . Thank you ❤️

This course has made it easy to be with my emotions with compassion. I loved the stray cat metaphor. Slowly winning its trust :)

This is a great course that offered me some new understanding on my limiting beliefs, my fear around experiencing and expressing difficult emotions, and how I can open up space for myself to be more accepting toward these difficult emotions.
Thank you so much!

I loved this his course & would like to find more courses Nikki runs
Thank you 🙏

Gentle guidance to listen to what your feelings are telling you.

Thank you so much , very helpful and insightful!🙏💜