Hi,
I'm Dr.
Denise Webb,
Clinical psychologist.
And specialist in childhood emotional neglect.
I've made two previous videos about childhood emotional neglect.
Having to do with parents.
And one was about authoritarian parents and one was about narcissistic parents.
But today I want to talk about emotionally neglectful parents in general.
And how it feels to grow up with emotionally neglectful parents.
All through your lifespan.
And I'm also going to talk about the three common dilemmas of having emotionally neglectful parents.
To define them,
They're basically parents who,
For whatever reason,
Don't manage to meet your emotional needs well enough.
They don't notice what you're feeling,
Respond to your feelings,
Talk with you about feelings,
Or help you learn about feelings enough.
And when you grow up with parents like this,
You end up basically experiencing it for your entire life because most emotionally neglectful parents don't change just because you grow up.
They continue to fail to notice your feelings and this makes it hard for them to get you to know you on a deep emotional level,
Which is what you really need from your parents.
If you grew up this way.
Three dilemmas that you likely have with your parents is that you play.
Feel too often let down and emotionally disappointed by them.
Maybe you've gone to them for help,
Maybe you've just apparently shown some feelings on your face and they haven't noticed it,
Or you've realized that they don't really get you on a deep emotional level,
And that is painful.
So you likely feel like you're living in a frequent,
Process of being let down and emotionally disappointed by them.
And secondly,
Your parents are the people who have known you the longest in your life,
So naturally you expect them to know you the best.
And that makes it extra painful when they don't seem to really get you or notice what you're feeling.
And the third challenge is just simply being around them,
Because every time that you're around them,
Or maybe most times,
You are going to feel that sense of disappointment and maybe be confused by your feelings towards them.
And how you maybe find yourself behaving towards them,
And maybe you blame all that on yourself.
So remember to validate your own emotions towards your parents and accept however you feel it's okay.
And prioritize yourself and protect yourself in that relationship.
All right,
Thanks for watching.
