memberplus
How To Accept What You Cannot Change?
4.8
6-Tage-Kurs

How To Accept What You Cannot Change?

Von Rianna Hijlkema

Beginne Tag 1
Was du lernen wirst
Transitions are a period in which you change from one version of yourself into another. These transitions can be planned (such as getting married, buying a house, moving abroad, or becoming an entrepreneur) or unplanned (such as a divorce, death or loss, health issues, or a pandemic). Many transitions are being experienced as a disruptive storm. They can be very challenging due to the big amount of changes that are involved, the feelings of loss of control over the situation, and the increased levels of stress. People kept telling me - you have to accept. But how do you do that when it’s not something you choose? I figured it out and in this course guiding you through my A.C.C.E.P.T. model™.

Rianna Hijlkema

Antigua Guatemala, Guatemala

Rianna is a full-time traveler and multi-passionate serial entrepreneur who has been building businesses since 2011. Currently based in Mexico, though never in one place for very long, she has spent the past 15 years traveling the world while running multiple ventures. From an early age, she was told to “pick one thing and stick with it.” She...
Lektion 1
Step 1: Acknowledge The Situation
Acknowledging that all endings are also beginnings (which we just don’t know in the moment) is the first step of acceptance. The moment I acknowledged that this is the situation I’m in, this is what I need to deal with and that I’m doing the best I can with all that is in my control, I started to feel more calm. I found that acknowledging my situation felt way much easier than to have to accept it. I was not ready for that (yet).
Lektion 2
Step 2: Control The Controllable
Once you’ve acknowledged the situation you are in, you start looking at the things inside of your control. This is an important principle to follow because it allows us to prioritize our efforts and resources towards achievable goals, instead of wasting energy on things we cannot change. By focusing on what we can control, we can reduce our stress levels and increase our sense of agency and empowerment.
Lektion 3
Step 3: Create A Calming Routine
Have you ever wondered how many decisions we make each day? Is it 1000, 10,000, or even 30,000? In fact, on average, an adult makes over 35,000 decisions daily. However, excessive decision-making can lead to stress, triggering cortisol levels to rise, and after 20 minutes, it can even damage our neurons. To reduce stress, it's essential to simplify our lives and minimize decision-making. By creating a routine, we can alleviate some of the pressure, which can help us set the tone for the day.
Lektion 4
Step 4: Expectations With Compassion
It is easy to fall into the trap of having unrealistic expectations and being overly critical of ourselves. We set the bar high and expect perfection, leading to disappointment and self-blame when we inevitably fall short. We forget to be gentle and kind to ourselves, treating ourselves with the same compassion and understanding we would offer to a dear friend. It is important to remember that we are only human and allow ourselves the space to make mistakes and learn from them.
Lektion 5
Positive Feelings Before Positive Thoughts
Which positive feelings resonate with you? Perhaps it's happiness, joy, or gratitude. Remember, these are emotions that are felt in the present moment, not just thoughts about the future. To cultivate positive emotions in your daily life, start small. Take a moment to bask in the warmth of the sun on your face or appreciate a small improvement in your daily routine.
Lektion 6
Tribes Improve Your Life
Going through major life transitions are the most challenging parts of your life. During these times you are transforming from one version of yourself to another. An African proverb says: ‘If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.’ support is critical when going through challenging times. Find a group of people that is understanding and supportive, but also challenging you to keep moving forward. You don’t accomplish anything in this world alone.

Neueste Bewertungen

4.81
496
Laura Gonzales
Laura
September 27, 2025
This really helped me to reflect on what things are important and what I can do in my own little circle of the world.
Stephanie
Stephanie
August 29, 2025
Loved this meditation. Just what I needed to restore my inner peace. Thank you!
Yvonne
Yvonne
July 15, 2025
Interesting course & personal journey and life. I will focus on my tribe and have been working on releasing people that no longer serve me. I’m also releasing thoughts of the past and the future currently working on being present. I’m looking forward to finding joy and the little things that Life can bring the simple things. I will trust the...
Cindy Barhoff
Cindy
June 12, 2025
Thanks for yet another wonderful course...it was absolutely amazing!
Karen Searle
Karen
May 23, 2025
Fantastic! Thanks so much and you seem like you would be a great person to be in a tribe with!
Tim Roderick
Tim
May 3, 2025
I really enjoyed that course and your open and honest way that you talk about your own life and experiences. Sometimes these huge things that we have to find a way to navigate can be really difficult to accept and manage but your positive outlook is something I can really relate to as I had a similar thing where lots of very challenging things all...
Mabel
Mabel
April 13, 2025
Fantastic breakdown of the necessary steps to come to acceptance. I particularly appreciated Rianna’s real life examples. Rianna’s willingness to be vulnerable helped me let down my guard and trust her method. The content of this course serves as a valuable tool in my journey to acceptance. Thank you, Rianna.
Corey Walker
Corey
April 1, 2025
Great course with practical and easy to understand action steps.
Louise
Louise
March 24, 2025
I have made a huge change in my life. I often feel unsettled by it. How did I get here? Are my choices sound? I am thinking about what is good for me more than I ever have. It feels strange and also freeing. I have also struggled with organising my time and this course has given me some clarity. It is time to DO what makes me happy! Thank you!
Gerard Pernot
Gerard
March 20, 2025
Really great course . The presenter really feels and has felt what we are all going through and that’s so helpful . Hope I can figure how how to generate those positive feelings before thoughts !
Jessica
Jessica
January 1, 2025
Loved the story illustrations. Good tangible writing exercise.
Jenny
Jenny
December 30, 2024
A practical and insightful short course with huge benefits. I did it in one sitting. Will do it again. Thank you!
Jean
Jean
December 2, 2024
Thank you for putting honest flavor to the topic of Accept, and navigating life with a clear perspective on working through struggles, transitions, and finding happiness. Well crafted.
Jamie
Jamie
November 20, 2024
This was a great experience for me, I appreciate the stories and insights into living a great life. I also like having a diary of this for a quick reminder when I need it, thank you🙏
Trisha Like Gilbert
Trisha
October 17, 2024
Amazing class to do in one day amazing advice , clarity , guidance & suggestions. I love your tone , it inspires and soothes. Ty so much I needed this at the starting point of divorce. I struggled w infertility 8times luckily 9th time was a charm but I had all the same feelings as you…. I will say it’s a flip side after having a baby older but...
Robin McCarthy
Robin
August 29, 2024
Thank you so much for your honesty and kindness, and sharing your story. I really benefited from this course.
Bryn Robertson
Bryn
May 7, 2024
Incredible and very helpful and thought provoking. It bring a lot of clarity and hope to me
Bobby
Bobby
April 26, 2024
This is a wonderful course that helped me in my journey of letting go of past trauma and finally seeing that I can fly.
Shannon Cochran
Shannon
February 25, 2024
I just got laid off and this course was so helpful! Very practical steps. I wish there was a button to repeat the course right away because that's what I'm going to do.
Charlie
Charlie
January 18, 2024
Enjoyed - control what we have control of. Very little, but important. Accepting & letting go with self care & routines of wellness in all areas of life. Thank you

Rianna Hijlkema's Collection

Trusted by 35 million people. It's free.

Insight Timer

Get the app