A Beginners Guide To Boundaries

Von Saskia Lightstar

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Most of us were never taught what a boundary is. What does a boundary even mean? How do I set one? And how do I respect other peoples boundaries too? Boundaries were never part of our education. We were just taught to behave. To say yes. To make everyone else comfortable. Even if it did cost us our own peace. But boundaries are not selfish and they are not wrong. Boundaries are the most loving thing you can do for yourself. Boundaries help you believe in yourself, step into your inner power and transform your entire existence. They are self-love in action. They are how you say to the world... I matter. My energy matters. My voice matters. My no matters. We’ll walk through everything you were never taught about boundaries step by step. Lesson by lesson. Through stories, healing practices, and raw real truth that will stay with you forever. And we’ll go even further that that, because it’s not just about your boundaries. It’s also about the boundaries of other peoples, that you’ve disrespected. The boundaries you didn’t hear, because you were stuck in your own head and in your own pain. The no you couldn’t accept because it triggered something old in you to hurt. We’re even going to heal that too. So if you’re ready to stop shrinking, stop people pleasing, stop explaining yourself just to feel loved and accepted. If you’re ready to reclaim the parts of you that you’ve been giving away for free. Then start this course. Give yourself the education you should’ve received at the very start of your life. The education that changes everything. The one that sets you free.

Saskia Lightstar

Devon, UK

Saskia Lightstar is a certified life coach, counsellor, spiritual teacher, and meditation guide with years of experience helping people heal from emotional pain and reclaim their self-worth. But her deepest understanding of boundaries didn’t come from training—it came from living most of her life without them. Raised in a family where her voice...

Lektion 1

The Childhood You Didn’t Know Was Teaching You About Boundaries

In this first lesson, we return to the house that built you... the voices, the rules, the dynamics that shaped how you show up in the world. You’ll uncover what you were taught about love, space, silence and compliance. And you’ll begin to understand that it’s not your fault you didn’t know any better, but now it's time for you to learn a whole new way. We’re going back... not to get stuck... but to rewrite the rules. So you can begin again, but this time on your own terms.

Lektion 2

Other People’s Boundaries Are Not About You

This is where most of us struggle... when someone else says no, or asks for space, and your mind makes it all about you. You spiral into stories. You take it personally. You feel rejected, abandoned, unworthy. But someone else’s boundary is not your punishment. It’s not about your worth, nor is it about your insignificance. Their boundary is about them - their needs, their nervous system, their limits. And when you can understand and learn to respect that (without needing to win, agree or like it) you unlock a whole new kind of real and unconditional love. A love that isn't based on control, manipulation, neediness or expectation - but on authenticity, truth, honour and respect. This lesson will transform the way you relate to others, and most importantly, transform how you respect yourself.

Lektion 3

Practising Your Boundary In A Safe Space

You’ve spent your life putting other people first. Making sure they felt okay, even if you weren’t. Saying yes, when everything in you was screaming no. But what if that changed right now? This lesson isn’t about theory, it’s about action. You’ll be guided into a safe, supported space where you’ll begin to practice declaring your truth. You’ll write down a boundary that’s real and important for you. And you’ll claim something you’ve been suppressing for far too long. It won’t be perfect. It doesn’t have to be. But it will be honest... and that’s the beginning of everything.

Lektion 4

The Boundary Hangover: Staying With Yourself After You Speak Your Truth

Nobody talks about how vulnerable it feels after you set a boundary... after you say the words you were afraid to say. You might feel shaky and nervous. Anxious or riddled with self doubt. Maybe even ashamed. You might wish you never said anything. You might want to take it all back. You might feel like you did something wrong. But you didn’t. That's just what happens when you finally start choosing yourself, and your nervous system doesn’t understand it yet, because you haven't done it before. In this lesson, you’ll be held through the aftermath. You’ll learn how to stay with yourself when the old fear kicks in. How to stop regretting your truth. And how to stop depriving yourself of your power. You didn’t do anything wrong. You just did something new. New can feel uncomfortable at first. But that’s what real healing feels like.

Lektion 5

Your Self-Boundary Declaration

You’ve spent your life honouring other people, but now it’s time to honour yourself. In this lesson, you’ll write your self-boundary declaration... a vow to protect your energy, speak your truth, and stop abandoning yourself in order to be loved and accepted. This is a very important moment in your life. One that could change the whole trajectory of your existence. A moment you can come back to anytime you forget how powerful and worthy you are.

Lektion 6

This Is Who I Am Now

This final lesson is not about learning more, it’s about integrating what’s already changed inside of you. Because this course isn’t just something you listened to. It's something you lived. You felt it. You chose it. And now it’s time to honour who you've become as a consequence of this journey. This is the moment you claim this new version of yourself. The one who doesn’t shrink. The one who doesn’t apologise for needing space. The one who no longer betrays themselves to be loved and accepted. You’re not who you used to be. You’re not going back. And you never will again.

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Fay

September 17, 2025

Exceptional. Thank you for this powerful offering, the clarity, the pathway to embodiment of "I know what I deserve and I know how to honor that."

Ciara

August 18, 2025

This is a great guide to exploring the reasons why boundaries can be so difficult for some of us. Very helpful!

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