Being in the human journey.
Comes with experiencing emotions.
And notches.
Positive emotion.
But also negative emotions.
And those are very challenging for most of us to experience.
Reject them,
Re-deny them,
Re-disown them,
Re-try to fix them,
Somehow try to.
Not feel them.
Right,
Subconsciously.
Or consciously.
And I want to share something with you here that is not going to feel.
Good.
It's actually.
.
.
Going to feel like dying.
And it simply is.
Fully.
Sitting with this part inside of us that is in pain.
Fully welcoming.
The emotion.
Which is simply being fully present with it.
Before doing anything else.
And for me,
What I've found is That is the only way.
That emotion can flow through,
Can integrate,
Some would say it can heal.
But it doesn't feel nice.
Because it does come with a lot of internal pain.
Feeling anger,
Anxiety,
Grief,
Loss.
Fear.
Sadness.
Grieve.
In a very big measures or a very small wave,
A very small trigger.
Still very unpleasant,
It's very painful.
It's one of the most challenging things we can experience.
Being human.
Negative emotions,
Emotional pain.
The only more challenging thing I would say is physical pain.
But emotional pain is also very challenging and we're so conditioned to move away from it,
To numb out from it,
Not to feel it,
To reject it,
To say it's not there.
And we have so many coping mechanisms just so that we don't need to feel what we're actually feeling.
We're overeating,
Overworking,
Over distracting ourselves with.
Social media or romantic relationships.
And then there sometimes might even come the spiritual aspect and suddenly It's also wrong to be feeling that.
Suddenly,
The only way to be is to be in love and in happiness.
And we shouldn't be feeling anger or sadness.
We should be high vibe all the time,
Right?
I shouldn't be feeling what I'm feeling right now.
This is not good.
I need to get myself into another vibration.
When actually nothing is wrong.
With a negative emotion.
In fact,
It is such a beautiful opportunity.
It is an opening to become more present.
To become more aware.
By fully welcoming.
Whatever is there right now.
Befriending the anger.
Sitting next to the sadness.
Holding the hand of the part inside of us that is grieving.
Which is basically being fully present with it.
This part inside of us that is hurting.
Needs our attention.
Have a full awareness.
So desperately.
This is the only way it can really truly integrate when we a fully present within.
And maybe then this duality,
Right,
Of befriending it,
Holding its hand,
Even that might be dissolving then.
Simply what is.
But both is beautiful.
That it simply is.
Right now,
That this pain,
This emotional pain is there right now and nothing is wrong.
With it and we can just surrender to it.
Fully surrender to the present moment,
Surrender to this emotional pain.
And that's why it feels like dying.
It's so challenging because.
Our beautiful ego is resisting this so much,
Right?
It is resisting the pain.
It is resisting feeling it because it feels so threatening.
It feels so painful.
And it's almost like consciously choosing.
To die,
To surrender.
When we choose to fully be present.
With a negative emotion to welcome the anger.
To sit with the pain.
The sadness,
The fear.
This is so,
So,
So.
.
.
Powerful.
And so challenging.
And let me explain for a moment.
What or better how to practice this how it resonates with me and I invite you as always to see and pick whatever resonates with you and leave whatever doesn't,
Right?
When I mean,
When I say welcome.
The emotion fully being present with the emotion I mean the physical sensation of it in the body.
And allowing that the thoughts are there.
But not believing them.
Right,
Because.
When we're experiencing an emotion,
It comes with a strong physical component.
We feel it in the body.
The anger,
The heat,
The sadness might be pulling them.
The grief might be pain somewhere in the belly.
And then we have in our head thoughts around it.
We have a story around it,
A past and a future.
Like oh this has always been like it this always happens to me people always treat me in that way i'm always being treated badly or it's always going to stay like this.
I cannot change it.
Nothing is going to ever change about this situation.
Those are just thoughts around it.
They're not necessarily When I say welcome the emotion,
Allow it to be there,
Being present with what is.
I mean.
.
.
Being aware that the thoughts are there.
Observing them lovingly.
But not necessarily believing them.
Not saying this is actually true.
And coming back to the physical sensation of it in the body.
Maybe there is heat,
Maybe there is tingling,
Maybe there is physical pain.
How does it feel in the body?
How does the negative emotion feel in the body?
Not the star in our mind but Can we allow and drop into this feeling?
And everything inside of us is resisting this.
For most of us,
Right?
It is resisting feeling this pain because it is painful.
But that's the only way it can.
Flow through,
Heal,
Integrate when we're fully present with this part inside of us.
Before doing anything about it,
Before reacting,
Before taking an action.
Maybe it's just two minutes,
Or maybe just 10 seconds,
Or maybe it's an hour,
I don't know.
Phooey.
Present with the physical sensation in the body.
And very practically it might help to say something like I am fully here with it.
I fully allow this.
I'm not going anywhere.
I welcome this and I'm here with you.
Or maybe,
At some point,
Even this might dissolve.
Whatever works for us in that moment,
Right?
And we can just,
Without any thought,
Without saying anything,
Just feeling the sensation in the body and allowing it to be there,
Surrendering to it fully.
Welcoming it,
Befriending it.
And by the way,
A very good pointer to know if we're fully surrendered to it.
To ask ourselves the question.
At least it works for me.
Do you see if it works for you?
If this feeling would stay forever.
Would I be okay with that?
If this sensation this pain,
This pain.
Emotion in my body would stay.
Forever.
Would I be okay?
With that.
And if you can truly say yes.
To that.
Then you know that you're surrendered to it.
That you have let yourself die.
To it.
And what has died there is a part of our beautiful Eagle.
It has dissolved because the ego is resistance,
Right?
So the resistance to it has dissolved.
And suddenly it's not so painful anymore.
Well maybe still painful but not we're not suffering from it anymore we can be with it it might still not be pleasant but we can accept it.
We can let it be.
And for me,
This is so powerful.
You are so beautiful.
Welcome whatever is there right now to let it be as it is to let the negative emotion be as it is the anger the grief the anxiety the fear Let it be there before doing anything about it.
And of course,
This might be.
A beautiful part and a very valid part of emotional processing,
Right?
To then go and take an action.
To go have the conversation,
To go take a shower.
To go and do the emotional processing,
The inner child healing or whatever resonates with us,
Right?
But to do it from the place of fully allowing,
Fully welcoming.
Nothing is wrong with feeling a negative emotion.
It's in fact a beautiful opportunity to become aware.
More aware.
To allow in the love and the presence.
You could say to allow in the presence and the love for all parts of us.
To fully surrender to the moment.
And that is in my experience.
How it flows.
Of the negative emotion.
Changes.
And integrate.
By allowing it to be there,
Welcoming it.
First.