I'm willing to bet that there are a lot of people watching this right now who can relate to what I'm about to say.
You've got a to-do list longer than your last grocery receipt.
And you're probably right now staring at the first of several tasks that you've identified as priority must get done today.
You know what needs to be done.
You probably even want to do it.
But somewhere between your intention and action.
Your start button seems to have wandered off and it's taken your attention span with it.
So if this all sounds familiar,
I want you to sit back,
Relax,
And take a deep breath.
Difficulty starting,
Organizing,
Estimating time.
Or staying on task,
None of those are character flaws.
They don't mean you're lazy.
It's just that for many of us with adult ADHD,
The problem is much less about knowing what needs to be done.
And more about being able to direct the attention and the action towards getting it done.
Today,
We're going to replace shame with strategy.
We're gonna replace guilt and self-deprecation with some practical ways to getting things done,
GTD.
First of all,
We're going to talk about five beliefs that I think are worth retiring.
And then I'm going to give you six principles for how you can manage productivity with your ADHD brain.
So first,
Let's talk about those five common beliefs.
First belief I want to retire is that,
Oh,
ADHD is a childhood condition.
It is not.
Symptoms can not only continue from childhood into adulthood,
But a lot of times we're not even diagnosed with ADHD until adulthood.
The second belief I want to retire is that ADHD means you can't focus.
Many people with ADHD can focus intensely when something is urgent.
If it's new or novel to them,
If it's interesting to them.
Or if it's rewarding in some kind of way.
The difficulty is being able to regulate that focus consistently,
Especially when the task is more routine.
If it's maybe not directly related to a goal.
If it seems vague to us or if it seems unrewarding.
The third belief I want to retire is that,
Well,
If you cared enough,
You would just simply do it.
Caring and doing are not the same neurological events.
Shame might create panic-powered outputs.
But it's a terrible system to rely upon long term.
One of the reasons is because the monthly subscription fee for that is your exhaustion.
The fourth belief that I want to dispel is that,
Oh,
Everyone's a little ADHD.
Everybody gets distracted.
Well,
It is true.
Everybody does get distracted.
But an ADHD diagnosis means that there is a persistent pattern.
Across multiple situations.
That creates a meaningful impairment to your daily life.
A symptom is not automatically a disorder.
I mean,
Going up two flights of stairs and getting out of breath does not mean that you have lung disease.
The fifth myth that I want to retire is assuming that just having the right planner will fix everything.
A planner can help,
Sure,
But only if it's simple enough that you'll use it.
And that you'll use it when your executive function is already tired.
Buying a seventh planner when the first six didn't work,
That's not productivity.
That's just stationary-based optimism.
Okay,
So what actually helps?
So besides professional treatment,
Which obviously is an option,
There are these six principles that I wanted to give you.
So the first principle is always,
Always,
Always externalize memory.
Do not ask your brain to be the thinker and the strategist and the storage unit.
So use one place where you're going to capture tasks,
Information,
What have you.
Plus a calendar for anything tied to a time or a date.
Then add alarms where you can,
Add visible cues where you can.
And the important word here is one,
One system.
Nine apps do not create a system.
They create just confusion and more of just a digital scavenger hunt.
The second principle is shrink the starting line.
For example,
Finish the presentation.
That's a project,
That's not a task or even a next action.
So a smaller action might be open the slide deck and write the title.
Make that first step so specific and so small that your brain really has little to argue with.
Then once your motion begins,
Continuing will become easier.
Number three,
Make your time visible.
What I mean is ADHD often distorts the sense of how long we think something will take.
Or even how long later will take to arrive.
So use a visible timer.
Work in short,
Defined sprints,
Maybe 10,
15,
25 minutes.
Followed by a brief break.
Always estimate the time you think the task will take and then record the actual time.
And over time,
After you do this a few times,
You'll gradually build more accurate expectations.
And remember,
That timer is not there to judge you or to bully you.
It's just there to give you time edges.
The fourth principle is change your environment before you try to change your personality.
Put your phone in another room.
Close all extra browser tabs except the one you're currently working on for your current task.
Keep your next task visible and ready.
Use headphones where you can.
Go to a quieter location when you can.
Block all websites if possible,
Except for the one that you're currently working with.
Write out your instructions or even look into workplace accommodations.
Number five,
Borrow structure.
Schedule a check-in.
Work quietly beside someone else,
Either in person or virtually.
Tell someone verbally,
Out loud,
What you plan to finish and by what specific time.
Join an accountability group if you can.
Join a co-working group if you can.
All of these that I'm giving you here have shown to be very successful in adults with ADHD.
Number six,
This goes without saying,
But being fatigued or even just a little bit sleepy will make your attention and self-control much harder.
And that's true for anyone.
Getting regular sleep,
Regular movement,
Healthy meals at regular intervals,
Routines,
And taking short breaks,
All of those help to support the brain that you're asking to do the work.
So they're not going to cure ADHD.
And no responsible person that I know would ever suggest that taking a short walk around the block.
Can replace necessary treatment.
So instead,
Maybe think of these as the floor underneath your productivity system and not the entire house.
Before we finish up here today,
I want to try a two-minute reset with you.
Want to turn this into something that you can actually use starting today.
So think of one task that you've been avoiding,
Just one.
Now remove any kind of judgmental descriptions surrounding that task.
For example,
Instead of saying,
I'm going to deal with my disaster of an inbox today,
Name one physical action such as,
I'm going to open my inbox and I'm going to respond to the oldest important message.
Or instead of saying,
I'm gonna finally get my crazy life together.
Try just saying,
I'm going to put tomorrow's appointment in my calendar,
And then I'm going to keep it.
Next,
I want you to choose a start queue.
So that could be after this talk ends.
After you have your coffee at 9 a.
M.
,
Whatever it is,
Just choose a time queue and then begin.
Then set a short timer.
Remove one obvious obstacle.
And then lastly,
Decide what done for now means.
So for you,
That might mean that you worked for 10 focused minutes.
Might mean that you completed one paragraph of your article,
Might mean that you made a phone call you've been avoiding.
Or it could mean that you put five items away where they belonged.
And then choose one small immediate reward or supportive check-in.
Because progress works so much better when it becomes visible now and not just when a distant project is completed.
I'm not trying to turn us into perfectly optimized productivity machines.
It sounds exhausting and it's just not even possible.
The goal here is to build enough support around your brain.
That makes the important things easier to start.
Easier to continue.
And therefore easier to finish.
So remember,
Externalize what you need to remember.
Make your next action small.
Give time visible edges.
Reduce friction.
Borrow structure,
Protect the basics,
And of course,
Seek professional help when and if the symptoms are truly impairing your life and your daily activities.
Remember that your productivity is not a measure of your self-worth.
I mean,
Really,
Not one of us needs more shame or guilt in our lives.
What we do need are strategies that fit the brain that we have.
So start with one task.
One visible next step.
And one kind decision.
That's all you need for today.
Thanks so much for taking a few minutes to listen.