Letting Go Of Control: An Allowing Practice For Calm

There is a kind of exhaustion that comes from resisting what is. Bracing against uncertainty, arguing with the situation, trying to think your way out of a feeling. Your body carries the cost of all of it. In this short practice you will settle into whatever is holding you right now, bring to mind something that has been sitting heavily, and practise allowing it to be exactly as it is. Allowing is one of the most underrated skills there is, and it asks nothing of you except to stop fighting for a few minutes. Useful when you feel stretched thin, when you are overthinking a situation you cannot control, or when you simply need somewhere soft to land.

Transcript

Can I offer you something for a moment? Just permission. Permission to stop fighting. Even if just for the next few minutes. Because so much of our exhaustion doesn't come from what we're doing. It comes from the resistance, The bracing. That quiet, Relentless effort of trying to make things different from how they are right now. And your body is so tired of carrying that. So allowing your eyes to close if that feels okay and feeling whatever is holding you right now. Perhaps your chair. The floor beneath your feet. Letting yourself actually land there. You don't have to hold yourself up right now. And now gently. And only if you're ready. Bring into mind something that's been sitting heavily. For worry. A situation that feels stuck. And something your mind keeps returning to You don't need to fix it right now and you don't even need to understand it but simply allowing it to be here alongside you like a cloud passing through the same sky you're sitting under. Placing one hand on your heart if that feels natural and okay. And softly saying to yourself Out loud or just in your mind. This is hard. And I don't have to have it figured out right now Notice in. Pin the tiniest shift. A breath that goes a little deeper, A shoulder that drops even slightly. That's not nothing. That's your nervous system beginning to trust that you're safe enough to soften. Allowing isn't giving up. He's not saying this is okay or that nothing needs to change It's simply saying I'm going to stop spending my energy fighting what already is So I have something left for what comes next. You deserve that. You really do. And taking one last breath together. In through your nose. And a long slow release through the mouth. Carrying this with you today. You are allowed to put down the weight. Even just for a moment. It will still be there if you need it. But you get to choose when to pick it back up. Be well.