I'm Solona Carlisle,
And this is another edition of the Everyday Bliss for the Modern Woman Weekly Transmissions,
Created for the woman who is wildly devoted to choosing herself and living her desired life now,
Instead of waiting until later.
So today I want to talk about the fastest path to where you want to go,
Which may not be what you think.
But let me start by saying,
If you're feeling disconnected from yourself in any way,
It can be a result of so many things.
But the ones I encounter in myself and my clients most often are some version of you're paying more attention to what's filling your space,
Rather than to the space itself.
You're listening to the outer voices more than to your inner wisdom.
Or you might be making yourself or your experience wrong and rejecting it in some way,
Rather than trusting that you're exactly where you're meant to be,
Experiencing exactly what it is you're meant to be experiencing,
Even if you have no clue as to why right now.
Or you might be growing increasingly impatient for direction and for the answers to some really big questions in your heart right now,
Which only makes you more constricted and unavailable to hear and receive them,
When what's actually being asked of you is to get even more comfortable and rest even more deeply in the not knowing,
Which requires getting underneath the restlessness and the agitation that will likely arise in that space,
Because we've never been taught how to embrace the void,
The unknown,
The emptiness,
Or so it seems,
And so our instinct is to avoid or get out of it as fast as possible.
But when you're willing to stay long enough to go underneath that initial anxiety that can feel so unbearable and intolerable,
What you end up cultivating is an even deeper strength than the one we think comes from always knowing what to do.
It's the strength that comes from expanding your capacity to be with all of your experience,
Both inner and outer,
Without needing it to change,
Without needing to get anywhere other than where you are,
Without needing to cling to or reject any one aspect of it,
Without needing to fix or transform or deny any part of it.
True growth,
Fulfillment,
And mastery isn't born out of being able to manifest whatever you want when you want it,
At least in my opinion.
It's in the recognition that there's nothing wrong with right now,
That nothing is missing here where you are,
And that this very experience is just as valid,
Just as worthy,
Just as precious and rich as any other experience,
Including all the ones you wish you were having instead.
So,
Back to where I started,
The fastest path to change is in not being in such a rush to change.
The fastest path to where you want to go is in not being in such a rush to get away from where you are.
It's in wanting all the time you need to fall in love with everything that's being offered to you exactly where you are.
Because life knows what it's doing.
Your soul knows what it's doing.
So if you gave yourself permission to trust that,
Who would you be here instead?
What would you allow yourself to feel,
To choose,
And to experience right where you are?
This suffering only ever arises because we've forgotten that we chose this experience on some level,
And because we've simply forgotten why,
And that we are free in every moment to choose who we're going to be in it,
How we're going to respond to it.
So what would you devote yourself to instead of what you have been doing that's not feeling good,
That's making it harder,
And that's getting in the way of you having the experience of yourself and your life that you so deeply desire?
Here's what I want you to know.
What you desire is on offer right here and right now.
But sometimes just knowing that isn't enough to choose it.
For so many of the women who come to me,
That hasn't been enough to choose it,
To embody it,
To let themselves truly have and live into it.
There's something that's still stopping them.
And this is the gap that I help my clients to close in their lives.
So if you've been struggling to make choices in the direction of what you desire,
Just know that there is another way that feels so much better,
And I'd love to help you find it.
