You Are Complete

We are already complete—infinitely loving and wise. We simply need to befriend and trust our inner wisdom. When we bond to ourselves, we no longer seek someone to complete us. Premasudha speaks to Ruth about how a partner becomes a companion, not a missing piece.

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As you know, Like I think since one year I've been struggling with this partnership situation. Yeah and it was going on and off and like since two months it's completely over. And I'm quite struggling with it. I think it's hard you know when I know for me as a woman where you where you come like that there's maybe no safety with the opposite sex that there's no that you actually have the bond to yourself. That's what you're facing with and you know you might as well learn it now because our kids leave us. Yeah they do and not only that when they get older they go hey mom like why did you do this when I was five? It's like you know they've got all the stuff that they've got their garbage from the childhood. Do you know that they are then having to work out? So they're not sometimes our best buds. Do you know sometimes they're they're doing their own individuation. We have to let them find themselves. So I want you to learn this sooner than later. Yeah right you have a very very complete heart inside you. You are complete. You actually don't need anybody else. I mean ama you know but you you don't need any male. You don't. Yeah you're very complete and as you find that you're complete you'll attract a man who loves you for you and not somebody who walks off and then comes back and walks off. It's like this doesn't sound good sweetie. Ama's got this great story of there was this guy who was very in love with a woman called Pon Pon or something and he was so in love with her and she jilted him so he was put in a in a loony bin and and next door to him was the man who Pon Pon had said yes to and he'd gone crazy. So the guy who didn't get Pon Pon and the guy who got her they both went crazy. It's sort of like the solution isn't to be found in the opposite sex. You know they can be companions but you you have a very complete heart in there. You're very deeply loving and you're very deeply wise and you're scared to really feel how wise you are and to really make friends with it. So you're keeping this going with this guy.