Reclaim Your Attention

Join world-renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel for a quiet, honest check-in on the quality of your attention. She traces the invisible thread between presence, desire, and purpose, and shows why all three live in the body, not the mind.
A short, grounding invitation to come back to yourself.

Transcript

How do you know that you've lost your presence?

And how do you reclaim it?

So let's just first do a little check-in,

Right?

You wake up.

Do you take a moment to open your eyes,

To look around,

To notice the room,

To notice if there is someone next to you,

How they're doing?

Or is the first thing that you do,

You grab your phone?

And for many of us at this moment,

The last thing that we hold and we stroke and we touch before we go to bed is our phone.

And the first thing that we hold and embrace in the morning is our phone,

Not ourselves,

Not someone else.

So leave the phone for a moment and just notice waking up any morning that you wake up.

And you are not in pain and you're not attending someone else's pain is a very good day,

By the way.

Then from there What is the quality of your attention during the day?

Are you listening to a song fully?

Do you listen to the end?

Do you find yourself suddenly in the middle of a conversation and the last 10 minutes you didn't listen to anything?

Do you space out?

Kind of,

But not in the form of daydream,

But spaced out,

Like there but not present.

And when you are there but not present,

You don't have a sense of purpose.

There is a connection between desire,

Presence and purpose.

Between being in a space that becomes a place that becomes a present.

They all connect to each other and they are intensely physical,

They are embodied experiences.

They are sensations,

They are feelings,

And they are thoughts.

And all of these are embodied experiences.

Reviews

Simple acts of awareness and abracadabra you get your life!

Thank 🙏you
💕Jesse

Insightful and empowering. It’s funny… I had to listen three times. The first two I “spaced out” during the part where you addressed “spacing out”! Thank you Esther Perel! 💗🪽♾️🎼❤️✨

I love the trinity shared in this. I don't want to spoil it for others by naming it in the review. 😁

So true about phones… as a clinical hypnotherapist I spend so much of my ti e tring to get people to connect back to their inner experiences rather than external distractions

Powerful

May we Be Present 💝

I licked it.

Thank you, wise words x

Sooo insightful and definitely will be working on not embracing my first thing in the morning and last thing at night. Thank you! 😊🙏🏽

Thank you 🙏🏽

Thank you, my friend! 🫶🙏🏻 You know sometimes, it’s the little realizations that open our eyes the widest, and this sweet, two-minute reflection of yours was not only beautifully written but perfectly executed (and timed, arriving as it did right before bedtime)!

Fantastic. Cuts to the quick. Healing.

So true! Thank you Esther. 🙏🏼🩵

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Wonderful !

My new favourite teacher… Don’t know what it is, but I really resonate with you

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Love listening and learning from Esther. She says so much in such a short time. Look forward to hearing more!

Such a great reminder that how you start and end your day is so important. I’m taking those moments throughout the day as well really appreciate this gentle reminder and the beautiful way she presents this information.

This talk reminds me to hold space for purpose in each moment. Purpose is a key for presence and desire. Aha! ✨