Dependancy: How Can Your Independence Be Enough?

This talk begins with a short story followed by quotes to support a deeper dive into the topic of dependency. In a world of duality, there is a great contrast to sift through in designing our lives. Humans thrive in community and connection, yet when you invest in yourself to know your values, beliefs, and capacities, there is empowerment like no other. Deep dive into creative reflection with Robert Halley to be inspired, heal and take your power back!

Transcript

Welcome.

I have a short story for you.

Some quotes to evoke self-reflection,

The inner landscape.

Allow these words to wash through you.

See what they spark in its reflection to your current life or maybe other lifetimes.

May you be stimulated,

Activated,

And refreshed because every word and story needs to wash through the belief system,

The values,

And your embodiment here and now.

So find comfort with some intuitive movement,

Whether you're laying down,

Whether you're seated,

Reclined,

Come as you are and with your breath let yourself arrive and hear these words with any visuals that come to mind.

Maybe the eyes are closed.

Maybe you sip on some tea.

Breathe in with me and let it go.

A colony of frogs was making its way through the forest when two of the group fell into a very deep hole.

The other frogs all gathered around the opening of the hole and seeing how deep it was,

Shouted down to the two that have fallen in.

You'll never get out of there alive.

You're dead already.

Don't even waste your time trying.

The two frogs in the hole,

However,

They ignored those calls and gestures and tried their utmost to get out,

To jump out.

After some time,

One of the trapped frogs felt it could no longer continue.

It was totally exhausted from all the jumping and giving into the advice from the frogs above lay down to die at the bottom of the hole.

The second frog,

On the other hand,

Did not give up.

It jumped again and again and again and again.

It jumped again and again and again and again and again,

Trying its very best to escape the hole despite the shouting and the gestures that were coming from the opening.

Don't waste your time.

Don't waste your time.

You're never going to make it.

You're never going to make it.

Don't waste your time.

You're not going to make it.

All of your efforts and suffering will come to naught,

To nothing.

Just give up.

Give up.

Give up.

And then with one huge effort,

The frog leaped out of the hole to safety.

Wow.

How did you do it?

How did you do it?

How did you do it?

The other frogs asked in amazement.

That hole was so deep.

How did you do it?

Answering them in sign language as if it was deaf,

The frog explained that it hadn't heard what they were shouting and had taken all of their gestures as signs of encouragement.

Breathe in.

Breathe out in the silence of breath.

We visit any moment of this folklore tale.

What was the most impactful that you heard?

What was an image,

An aspect,

A quality?

What was it?

Sometimes I read these stories and the end is like the cliffhanger.

It's like,

Oh.

And then I do feel like the lump in my throat.

Yeah.

I am.

.

.

It's very moving,

A lot of these stories and how we really do design our lives.

We're making it all up.

We are making it all up.

Honestly,

How does it move through you,

By you,

To you,

With you?

You can see propaganda right in your face.

Lord knows there's a lot of that going on with marketing.

And sometimes ignorance,

Sometimes the ignorance does help you because you're focused on your goal,

On your task.

Ain't nobody gonna sway you off that path.

So we have this story,

Two unfortunate frogs fell in a hole.

Everyone was looking down.

Oh,

You're a goner.

You're a goner.

But it was so deep.

And all these gestures.

One frog just,

They gave up.

The other frog,

They didn't really hear that.

They're like,

Come out,

Come out,

Come out.

You can do it.

Come on,

We believe in you.

We love you.

Come back.

We're gonna have so much fun.

There's food to share.

There's parties to share.

Come out,

Come out.

So that frog interpreted it like encouragement.

Encouragement,

The unwillingness to give up.

Yes,

It's about how we see and hear things.

Can you believe in your own strength even when it seems hopeless?

Can you trust in the miracle,

The capacity,

The grit,

The ancestral wisdom?

I personally could not even imagine the miracle and magic and capacity of the female body with the miracle of life,

Pregnancy,

Labor,

Birth.

But from talking to sisters and incredible women in my life,

Yeah,

Things may be a bit easier with medical advances,

But still,

Can you access that grit,

Access the ancestral strength?

Harness it.

Feel the angel's ancestors around you.

Tune in,

Tap in,

Turn it on.

No matter if Jesus is coming to save you,

No matter if the paramedics show up,

I did have a sister that delivered on her own in a bathroom with no one around,

But her spirit guides and her husband.

What is it like to know yourself without the dependency on people,

Places,

Things,

Services,

Handouts?

What would that be like?

Of course,

We are wired for herd mentality,

Community.

Yes,

Yes,

Yes,

And there's power in that.

That's actually part of the secrets of longevity,

Of vitality.

We're not meant to live alone,

But what is it like to be okay if we have these moments where you just depend on yourself?

That's the thing.

You're the sum total of the five people you hang out with.

Who are you hanging out with?

What are you watching?

Who are your teachers,

Leaders,

Guides?

It's a similar frequency that gets charged up.

Are you always the uplifter in your group?

You could be around some pessimistic people that believe it's impossible.

It's impossible.

It's impossible.

Have you heard it before?

Break that word down.

Impossible?

Really?

All that means is I'm possible.

Oh yes,

Oh yes,

You are possible.

It's possible.

If anything is possible,

Then that means I'm possible.

If anything is possible.

Stay strong,

Stay true,

Stay positive.

I'm going to do it.

Believing in what I can do.

Believe,

Conceive it.

And remember,

It starts in the invisible scape of eyes closed.

Visualize,

See it.

All the Olympiads do it.

Your mental rehearsal.

You know,

Sometimes there's frustration when you can't get to bed.

Sometimes there's frustration when you get up too early.

Give yourself some grace and ease and have some mental rehearsal time.

See it,

Conceive it,

Feel it.

Make it so visual and active your mind won't be able to tell the difference.

Definitely definitely definitely.

It's always worth reviewing who you hang out with.

For sure.

All right,

Let's take a breath in and let it go.

Let's go on to some supportive quotes and see how they echo through us.

The greatest and fastest way to get something in your life is to not need it.

Hear it again.

Hear it again.

The greatest and fastest way to get something in your life is to not need it.

This is from James Ray from one of the principles of manifestation in the book The Secret.

How does that echo through you?

The fastest way,

The greatest way to get something is to not even need it.

So that's why it's Wouldn't It Be Nice?

I have a wellness oracle.

We have that card,

The daydreaming card.

Wouldn't it be nice?

Even if you want it so bad,

You need it.

Have it be light like a cloud.

Wouldn't it be nice?

You can even conceive it,

Feel it,

Love it,

Activate it,

Call it in,

But then be like,

Okay,

I know you'll come when you're ready.

All is well.

I'm eating,

I'm sleeping,

I have some water.

I have things to do today.

I can walk if my bike's broken.

It would be nice,

But I don't really need it.

In this moment,

What do you really need?

So interesting,

Eh,

To build that friendship with your mind,

The monkey mind that's constantly going,

Ah,

It's okay,

Let's make a friend soothe the mind space.

All right,

Let's see.

We have another quote.

Inside all of us,

There are empty spaces that we try to fill with reinforcements and feedback from our environment,

But only you can fill the internal empty spaces.

Your soul politely rejects everything else.

A quote from Yaron Golan.

Hear it again,

Personally with quotes.

I like to hear it once.

Let it wash through you,

And then hear it again.

Inside all of us,

There are empty spaces that we try to fill with reinforcements,

With feedback from our environment,

But only you can fill the internal empty spaces.

Your soul politely rejects everything else.

Wow.

Wow.

Wow.

We try to fill them with being affirmed,

Affirm me,

Love me,

See me,

Tell me,

Buy me the consumption.

Lord knows I've done it.

I still do it sometimes.

It's like I don't really need to go to the discount rack at Winners,

One of my favorite stores.

I don't really need to walk over there.

For some reason,

I walk out and I spend $40 that I didn't really need to do.

At the end of the day,

Only your soul will know and fill these eclectic,

Not eclectic,

These sacred spaces when you have the realization of the wonder and awe,

Of the worthiness,

Of your wisdom,

Of your beauty.

Can you see it reflect in the flower when you slow down,

When you eat properly?

Your soul will reject everything else.

Only you,

The authentic aspect of you,

Will be able to find those pieces and it fits.

I was whole all along.

Wonderful.

All right,

Let's have another quote.

If you don't design your own life plan,

Chances are you'll fall into someone else's plan.

And guess what they've planned for you?

Not much.

Wow.

Wow.

We definitely need to hear that one again.

If you don't design your own life plan,

Chances are you'll fall into somebody else's plan.

And guess what they've planned for you?

Not much.

Dang,

Yo.

If we don't design our life plan,

Chances are you might fall into somebody else's.

And guess what they've planned for you?

Not much.

Ouch.

So this can be taken many different ways.

You know how society and governments want to govern us.

Don't want to go down the rabbit hole with our few minutes left,

But maybe you've heard of the great reset or the greater reset.

Taxes,

Statistics.

There are rules and regulations,

Yes,

Of course,

To live in society.

But what is it like to conceive and dream bigger?

Even what your friends tell you,

Your siblings,

Your parents,

We all have not been brought up with complete open-ended learning and opportunity.

You're easier to control when you're boxed and you're quiet.

You didn't come here for that.

Rise up.

Be with yourself.

Move,

Groove,

Draw,

Express,

Learn the call of your soul.

You might not have a clear understanding of your purpose and passions,

But follow your curiosity.

Follow the curiosity.

There's something there.

There's something there.

For you have no control over what the other guy does.

You only have control over what you do.

You have no control over what the other person does.

You only have control over what you do.

You can filter your words.

People may not,

But you can filter your words.

You can take a breath before you act.

I bless you to reclaim your personal power moment to moment,

Breath to breath.

Of course,

We're not meant to live alone.

We thrive in community.

We're hardwired for this herd mentality.

We're safer that way.

Let's not give everything away.

Let's not discredit our intuition.

Discredit the call of our soul.

With that in mind,

I bless you.

I hold space for you to bring your breath with you.

Have that breath body connection to live your potential to rise,

For it's never too late to be yourself,

Even how your body changes.

It's never too late to decide in this moment,

I can do this.

I am doing this.

Sure.

Laugh.

Call me names.

It's me with me,

Me with my creator,

Me with my angels,

Ancestors.

Me with my breath and the pulse of life.

And so,

Breath that in and let it go.

Reviews

Thank you Robert . That was excellent. You manage to maintain your positivity even while you acknowledge some negative aspects of reality (i.e. the great reset.) I’m going to forward this to my sister. She really needs to hear this. Thanks again!

I just love how you took a conversation in one of your lives and turned this into a recorded guided meditation! It comes together so beautifully. So many important ideas to ponder and consider.

I love this story and the message it brings. Always fun and thought provoking when Robert shares a story with us 🙏🏼