Worksheet
DEAR MAN DBT Skill
This DBT DEAR MAN Worksheet helps clients practice assertive communication grounded in dialectical behavior therapy. Clients learn how to express their needs calmly and confidently, stay focused during difficult conversations, and build positive relationships through mindful, respectful communication.
How to Use This Worksheet
This worksheet is especially useful for role-playing real-life situations, helping clients practice DEAR MAN steps—Describe, Express, Assert, Reinforce, Mindful, Appear Confident, and Negotiate—in a structured and supportive way. Therapists can use this worksheet in session or assign it between sessions to reinforce emotional regulation and conflict resolution skills.
Who It’s For
This worksheet is designed for clients navigating interpersonal challenges, including those in therapy for symptoms related to borderline personality disorder, anxiety, or emotional regulation issues. It’s especially effective for individuals learning to set boundaries, self-advocate, or build healthier relationships. Both teens and adults can benefit from the DEAR MAN technique in daily life, from conversations with family members to professional or romantic relationships.
Expected Outcomes
- Increased confidence in assertive communication
- Greater self-awareness during emotionally charged conversations
- Improved ability to express needs and set boundaries respectfully
- Enhanced interpersonal effectiveness and emotional regulation
Related Topics
References
Linehan, M. M. (1993). Skills training manual for treating borderline personality disorder. New York, NY: The Guilford Press.
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