Shifting Your Relationship With Boundaries

In this lesson, we will lay the foundations, reflecting on what ‘healthy boundaries’ means to you, what the costs are of not having healthy boundaries in place, and what the core of this is really about. It is also an invitation to the rest of the course.

This lesson is designed to help you explore your current relationship with boundaries, identify any internal resistance to change, and clarify what shifts you wish to make. You are invited to begin with a written reflection, followed by a guided visualization, enabling you to access different parts of yourself and gain a clearer understanding of where you are now—and what you want to transform moving forward.

We need to take ownership of ourselves to set and assert our boundaries. After all, we are the only ones who can change our boundaries. And we need to start at a deeper, more foundational level to find more ease with setting and asserting our boundaries.

When we create or understand the meaning of the boundaries we are putting in place, it makes far more sense to us – to our brains – which makes it easier to override the fears, narratives, or ingrained patterns that may not be onboard with our decision, and to be motivated to set, communicat,e and maintain them.

Now that you have connected with the meaning and have rooted your boundaries, we go on to what would be possible for you once you implement and maintain healthy boundaries that serve you, your relationships, and the work you have to do in this world.

In this lesson, we are taking it further by rooting deep in embodying a strong sense of boundariedness (I made up word I think, but let’s go with it!), so that your whole system knows this sense of agency, of self-assurance, and of confidence in living this, meaning you will be even more resourced. We will be bringing your body more fully into this work in a way that doesn't require mobility.

It is important to acknowledge that just because we may have developed well-embedded strategies for setting and maintaining healthy boundaries, it doesn’t mean that it will always be easy. So this lesson is an acknowledgement of that, and a sharing of things to keep in heart and mind.