Learn To Set Boundaries And Stop People Pleasing

In this lesson, we will define "fawning" or "people pleasing" behaviour, the origins of this response and the havoc it creates in our lives. You will develop insight and awareness into why you people please, and how it shows up in your life. This lesson is the foundation of the course because it acknowledges people pleasing as a protective strategy gone wrong.

Lesson two is an insight meditation aimed at enhancing your ability to pause before you take on too much. The power of pausing is that we gain the ability to experience ourselves. Those who people please struggle to figure out what they're feeling, and hide authentic expression by trying to "be" what they think everyone else wants them to be. This meditation will help you to build your ability to act in a way that's congruent with your values.

This lesson will explore and outline fundamental human needs, and the feeling states that arise when our needs are not met. Those who people please are often disconnected from their fundamental needs, and so experience feelings of fear, anger, pain and longing in relation to these unmet needs.

This meditation is an opportunity for you to reflect on your fundamental human needs. You will become more aware of your core human needs, and explore which ones you are meeting well, and which you are having trouble meeting.

This lesson will explore and define healthy and unhealthy boundaries. You will have the opportunity to reflect on internal boundaries (the way that you manage what's happening inside of you), external boundaries (how you manage what's happening outside of you), and the difference between porous and rigid limits. The most important takeaway of this lesson is that boundaries are dynamic!

This lesson will support your exploration of the hardest part of setting limits with your body, time, emotions and material possessions. The most difficult part of setting and holding our limits is the fear and worry that arise. Our discomfort with fear and worry becomes the biggest barrier to setting and holding limits. Knowing this will give you access to your courage, enabling you to communicate authentically.

This lesson will offer you two approaches to communicating your boundaries. The first approach is direct and straightforward, however, it assumes that you can comfortably hold the boundary. The second approach is softer and utilizes non-violent communication which reduces negative push-back from others.

This lesson offers you common examples of boundary violations with family, friends, at work, and physical touch. I'll give examples of firm and explicit boundaries as well as communicating using softer language. At the end of the lesson take time to write out boundaries that you'd like to share in different parts of your life.

This lesson will guide you through self-compassion instead of self-judgement and self-criticism. Practice this meditation as often as needed to inspire the ability to show yourself kindness when you struggle to set and hold limits. Your ability to show yourself kindness will ensure that you're able to continue the process of change!

This lesson wraps up our learning for the course by integrating key concepts. We will explore common barriers and key goals including authenticity, integrity and acceptance to encourage better boundary-setting.