Healing The Habit Of Self-Abandonment - by Kiran Patel

COURSE

Healing The Habit Of Self-Abandonment

With Kiran Patel

In this course, we explore how we may have learned in our early years to abandon ourselves to create connection and safety with others. How habits of people pleasing and over-giving can carry over into adulthood, and how we can neglect our own needs because we have not learned how to tend to them. Here we turn inward and return our attention to ourselves.


Meet your Teacher

Kiran is an artist, writer and creative mentor working under the name of Illustrating Rain. Both through her art and writing she investigates the relationship between the inner and outer worlds. She is inspired by the connection between the patterns and cycles found in nature and within the human mind. She is the author of the book The Creative Unlearning which has an accompanying podcast.

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4 Days

1.6k students

4.9 stars

13 min / day

Healing

English


Lesson 1

The Roots Of Self-Abandonment

We are much like trees; our habits have roots, and they are not random occurrences. What we see as our personality traits is very often historical. There was a reason those patterns in our personalities were born and why they persist.

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Lesson 2

The Signs We’ve Left Ourselves Behind

Energy is invisible, but it can be felt, and we notice when we are running low on it. It is an invisible force that allows us to notice where there are areas where our energy is leaking and not being utilised effectively. We can tell by the fact that we get tired or feel drained after interacting with certain people, having particular conversations, or participating in certain activities.

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Lesson 3

Reclaiming Your Inner Home

If you have been in the habit of people pleasing, then there will have been a tendency to focus more on others than on yourself. In a way, we leave ourselves behind to go and attend to others. This isn’t even a selfless act; it is an action we take so that we can acquire a sense of safety within ourselves. We feel as though we need to control the happiness of those around us so that we can feel at peace.

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Lesson 4

Living As Your Own Safe Place

Overnight transformations are very appealing. We are all accustomed now to witnessing stories of change that happened instantaneously. Going from self-abandonment to self-love as quickly as possible might seem alluring. The truth is that the majority of us will need to create a slow and sustainable route to transformation that is more grounded and gentle.

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4.9 (173)

Recent Reviews

Rachel

August 18, 2026

🙏💖🦋

C

August 13, 2026

Excellent ❣️❣️

Annette

August 6, 2026

I found this enlightening and it came along right when I needed it. Thank you.

Teresa

August 5, 2026

Thank you Kiran. Sending good wishes.

Max

August 1, 2026

Kiran this is a daily thing I gotta do.

Jamie

July 28, 2026

Very helpful , really enjoyed it

Jeanne

July 26, 2026

Thank you for this course that helps me remember that only I can give myself the love and attention I need to heal my inner child.

Mercedes

July 9, 2026

I found this incredibly insightful. I’ll be adding this to my daily check in with myself. I want to create that bond of trust. I want to listen and honor what my inner child is requesting. I’m realizing that they are usually basic needs. Needs I would instantly honor if someone asked of me. Thank you for creating this!

Amylouise

July 6, 2026

This was a beautiful and gentle course.

Treena

June 29, 2026

Thank you so gentle and helped me stop and accept today

Gretchen

June 28, 2026

A beautifully rendered teaching on the importance of making self-connection a priority. For those of us who have spent part of a lifetime more concerned about meeting the needs of others over oneself, it is a shift that is central to finding peace and clarity with our own needs first. Thank you Kirin for highlighting the need for self-connection and self-care in order to enjoy this one precious life we are given.💗🙏🏼

Rachael

June 25, 2026

Amazing course, gentle and powerful. Insightful exercises to put self love into practice.

Helen

June 19, 2026

A short but profound journey, which I will continue to travel

Jeanne

June 13, 2026

Thank you Kiran for this short but wonderful course that felt like a loving and caring parent giving me permission to attend to my needs first. In your articulate way you made it easy to understand that although we might not have received what we needed earlier we can gently give ourselves what we need now. This is well worth listening to again. Namaste🙏💕

Erica

June 13, 2026

Worth listening to more than once. Thank you!

Laura

June 5, 2026

I received great value from this course. Thank you.🙏

Fabio

May 30, 2026

Would have liked it to be longer and go deeper. I feel like it was useful but could have been so much more helpful than it currently is.

Chané

May 26, 2026

Beautiful. This arrived in my life at precisely the right moment. Thank you 🙏🏻

Linda

May 1, 2026

WOW 👌

Rainy

April 11, 2026

Hello Kiran, thank you so much for this short but powerful course. It really hit home for me. Many blessings to you for your informative work.🙏

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