Set Healthy Boundaries & Let Go Of People-Pleasing

What are boundaries? How do we know if we have them in place or not? In this lesson, we will venture into the different aspects of boundaries: physical boundaries, emotional boundaries, mental boundaries, material and property boundaries, time boundaries, and energetic boundaries. Becoming aware and conscious of these aspects is essential on the journey of becoming a confident boundary setter.

We will explore the spectrum of boundaries. There is more to it than whether we have a boundary or not. Boundaries fall along a spectrum; they can be thought of as healthy, rigid, or porous. We can fluctuate between these three boundary qualities depending on the situations we are in and the people involved. Don´t be too surprised if you gain insight and learn about yourself through the knowledge shared, the coaching questions, and the visualization process in this lesson.

In the process of learning how to set boundaries, there are blocks in the road. One of these blocks is our need to please others. It is a pattern rooted in fear, not compassion. Today, we will explore the signs and reasons why we people-please and explore the different fears that hold people back from setting boundaries. Many want to break from the people-pleasing pattern but feel stuck. How good would it feel if there is a way to break free, in a safe and natural way?

People-pleasing is a habit. A subconscious programming. A behavioral pattern governed by your beliefs, your attitude, your rules, your values, and your standards. They can be changed. Many people are trapped in the habit of pleasing others, not only out of fear, but because they feel “it is just who I am.”

Many want to be considered compassionate and kind. Understanding and loving. Accepting and non-judgmental. Patient and tolerant. This is prominent for many. The trap here is that we might become passive door mats. This happens when we lack knowledge and deeper awareness about what these virtues mean, and how to apply them in different contexts and circumstances. We will explore this in-depth in this lesson.

A guided meditation/hypnotherapy session for preparing your subconscious mind to activate the inner resources needed for you to make the needed changes in your life when it comes to letting go of people-pleasing and setting healthy boundaries. It's also designed to help your subconscious mind reinforce and integrate what we have covered in lessons one to five, in a safe, natural, and empowering way.

Choosing self-leadership and self-responsibility is key when it comes to boundary setting. What does it mean to take self-responsibility and self-leadership? How can we do that? Why is it essential that we stop taking responsiblity for other people´s emotions, behaviors, and actions? Why should we stop playing the “blame game”? What is victim mentality and victim behavior?

The topic of setting boundaries with family needed its own day. Many have messed up and toxic family relations, and don´t know how to set boundaries to change the dynamics. There is no universal law that says that we have to allow these toxic patterns to continue just because it is family. Do we just have to tolerate bullying, verbal abuse, physical abuse, or being mistreated and disrespected, just because it is family? Are we willing to stand up for ourselves when it is the right thing to do? We will explore these questions and more.

Being capable to set boundaries when faced with direct or indirect pressure from groups of people, our culture, the social consensus, or people and entities that we consider to be an authority — is of high importance. External thoughts, emotions, beliefs, and opinions carry an energetic charge that can have a strong influence on us. When we are heavily influenced by these external factors, the choices we make and the actions we take are not fully our individual and conscious choices and actions. Let’s explore this deeper.

This is the second guided meditation/hypnotherapy session for the deprogramming of disempowering beliefs, reinforcing empowering beliefs, and deep healing. Integrating and enhancing the learning, insights, and knowledge from days six to nine. Enjoy the journey.

We will explore how we communicate with our body language, with our tone of voice, and with our energy. This session is packed with practical knowledge and strategies on how to enhance your communication skills when it comes to setting boundaries.

For us to communicate our boundaries clearly, powerfully, and effectively — we need to have awareness of what that means and what elements that need to be in place. Kenneth will share a recipe on how to present a boundary effectively, as well as explore the language traps we can fall into that can make the process ineffective and cause more drama than necessary.

When we set boundaries, there will be consequences. People will turn to all sorts of drama behavior to “try” to sabotage our boundaries if they perceive the boundary as a “threat” to their feeling of security. Having knowledge and awareness about probable challenges that might show up in the process of setting boundaries — can help us be mentally prepared and physically prepared if the challenge arises. This has nothing to do with being fearful, worrying, or focusing on a problem. It´s more of a solution-oriented, resourceful, realistic, and optimistic focus.

In this session, we will continue exploring the common blocks and challenges that stop many from setting boundaries. The root cause is fear. Fear rooted in trauma. Fear that we have copied from others. Fear rooted in social and cultural mind programming. Sometimes, we fear something that we have made up to be “dangerous” in our minds, thus scaring ourselves from setting that boundary and standing by it. It is time to expand beyond fear.

How good would it be to have some practical techniques that can help you detach from internal and external negativity? Reducing the influence external negative mental and emotional energy can have on you. As well as neutralizing your own inner triggers, so that you can stand much more grounded in your power. Expanding our consciousness, becoming more aware, and knowing thyself, are key.

We constantly interact with external energetic information (non-physical information) and physical information that is around us. Other people’s thoughts and emotions can affect us to a great extent if we don’t have tools in place to handle this. In this session, we will go through some practical knowledge, tools, and techniques that can be of great support when you need to energetically protect yourself.

Many people, especially those on a more spiritual journey tend to suppress anger, feel shameful about being angry, and think that anger is bad and makes them less spiritual. Are these reasons aligned with objective truth, or are they symptoms of our subjective beliefs, and lack of awareness about how anger is an energy that can be transmuted to positive creational energy? Is the creational energy of anger sometimes needed to finally set that boundary?

This lesson is a self-realization journey. We can divide our self-boundaries and standards into four categories: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. Your level of self-awareness, self-responsibility, and standards will determine the boundaries you have for yourself or the boundaries lacking. You also will learn different self-coaching strategies for enhancing clarity and drive for setting boundaries.

In this guided meditation/hypnotherapy session we will be tapping into the power of your subconscious mind… integrating and reinforcing the learning, the insights, the knowledge, and healing that you have consciously or unconsciously experienced by committing to doing this course.

What is connection? How are boundaries and connection interconnected? How is doing inner work related to becoming more connected to yourself, Spirit, and Source? How are we potentially being distracted from true connection while thinking that we are already "connected"? How is 'committing to a life of constantly improving and expanding' paramount on the path of setting and holding healthy boundaries? All of this and more is the focus of this last session of this course.