Lesson 1
The Voice You Talk To Yourself With
This opening lesson introduces inner speech as a real, examinable phenomenon with genuine linguistic structure, distinct from emotion or sensation. It explores three common functions of inner speech, planning, evaluation, and regulation, and explains why its content reflects learned habits rather than objective facts. Listeners are guided through a practical exercise in listening to and recording their inner speech in their own words, laying the foundation for the tools covered in the rest of the course.
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Lesson 2
When The Voice Turns Against You
This lesson identifies three common triggers for harsh inner speech: mistakes, comparison, and uncertainty, and explains why the response is best understood as an overcautious alarm system rather than an accurate report on personal worth. It teaches listeners to recognise absolute language, always, never, completely, as a built-in warning sign of an inaccurate, exaggerated verdict, and offers three practical tools for responding: spotting absolute words, tracing the harsh statement back to its actual trigger, and finding a more measured, accurate alternative.
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Lesson 3
The Power Of Your Own Name
This lesson teaches the well-studied technique of using your own name, or the word you, instead of I, when speaking to yourself during difficult moments. It explains why this small grammatical shift creates measurable psychological distance and calmer emotional responses, and offers a three-step process for practising it: choosing your preferred form, starting with low-stakes situations, and applying it specifically when harsh inner speech arises. Listeners are guided to rewrite a recent harsh thought using this technique.
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Lesson 4
Speaking To Yourself Like Someone You Love
This lesson builds on the pronoun-distancing technique from the previous lesson by focusing on warmth itself: the actual content and tone of self-talk. It identifies three qualities of warm self-talk: accuracy, proportion, and forward direction, distinguishing it clearly from both harshness and false positivity. It teaches a practical friend test for generating warmer self-talk in the moment and shows how to combine it with the pronoun shift from Lesson 3 for a fuller, more usable response.
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Lesson 5
The Difference Between Noticing And Believing
This lesson teaches the foundational skill of distinguishing between noticing a thought and automatically believing it to be true. It explains why thoughts are normally filtered unevenly, accepted instantly when distressing and dismissed easily when trivial, and offers a three-step process for restoring a deliberate gap: reframing the thought as I am having the thought that, asking whether it is being chosen or simply arriving, and practising the skill on low-stakes thoughts first. The lesson connects this skill directly to the tools covered in earlier lessons.
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Lesson 6
Looking Outward To Quiet The Noise
This lesson introduces self-transcendence, a technique that quiets self-critical inner speech by deliberately shifting attention outward rather than working with the voice directly. It clarifies the technique as a deliberate redirection rather than suppression or distraction, and offers three practical approaches: noticing someone else's experience, widening perspective beyond immediate personal concerns, and performing a small act of usefulness for another person. The lesson explains when this tool works best, particularly when other techniques have left a harsh voice still looping.
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Lesson 7
Rehearsing The Voice You Want
This lesson teaches a practical method for deliberately rehearsing a calmer, warmer inner voice, drawing on tools from earlier lessons. It explains why rehearsal works best in calm, predictable moments rather than only attempted under real pressure, and offers a three-step process: choosing a fixed, reliable moment for practice, rehearsing backwards by rebuilding a recent difficult moment, and rehearsing forward by preparing for an upcoming one. Listeners are guided to choose their own fixed moment and begin using it today.
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Lesson 8
The Voice During Difficult Decisions
This lesson applies the tools covered earlier in the course, specifically to difficult decisions, where inner speech often loops in a demand for certainty that the situation cannot provide. It teaches listeners to recognise the specific shape of decision-related looping, apply the noticing-versus-believing skill to thoughts demanding certainty, and use the own-name technique to address the decision directly. It also introduces a practical limit-setting exercise to end open-ended deliberation and addresses the residual discomfort that can persist even after a well-made decision.
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Lesson 9
When The Voice Won't Stop Talking
This lesson addresses repetitive, looping inner speech specifically, distinct from harshness, explaining that repetition often signals an unacknowledged thought rather than genuine, ongoing processing. It offers three tools: externalising the thought by writing it down, distinguishing genuine new thinking from mere repetition, and scheduling a deliberate return later rather than engaging continuously or suppressing the thought entirely. It also challenges the common, persuasive feeling that stopping a loop would be irresponsible or uncaring.
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Lesson 10
A Voice You Can Actually Trust
The final lesson of the course takes the longer view, returning to the opening idea that the way we talk to ourselves is a reshapeable pattern rather than a fixed trait. It clarifies that the aim was never to silence inner speech permanently, but to change what happens once it turns harsh or repetitive, and it walks through the new sequence of noticing, questioning, and responding that listeners now have available. The lesson encourages settling on two or three favourite tools to carry forward, and closes with a final reflection and a warm send-off.
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