Welcome,
I'm James Davis,
A coaching psychologist.
I specialize in helping people navigate midlife,
Improve their well-being and create more fulfilling lives.
In today's session,
We're going to explore the power of positive affirmations and how the way you talk to yourself can influence the way you approach your day,
Your relationships,
And your life.
So this is for anyone who wants to develop greater confidence,
A more positive mindset,
Or simply start their mornings feeling a little bit better about themselves.
I'm going to share some of the psychology behind affirmations and give you a practical exercise you can start using every morning.
Now you don't need any previous experience with affirmations,
Just bring an open mind and a few minutes for yourself.
Are you ready?
Okay,
Let's get started.
Let me start with a question.
When you wake up in the morning,
What's the first thing you say to yourself?
And I don't mean out loud,
I mean that little conversation that starts inside your head before you've even got out of bed.
Is it something like,
Oh no,
Another day,
I've got so much to do.
I'm exhausted.
I can't be bothered.
Maybe you're already thinking about the emails,
The meetings,
The problems you need to solve,
The things you haven't managed to get done.
If that sounds familiar,
You're certainly not alone.
But here's something I'd like you to consider.
What if you could change the way you start your day simply by changing the way you talk to yourself?
The language we use with ourselves matters.
Our thoughts influence our emotions,
Our expectations,
And ultimately the actions we take.
If you constantly tell yourself that you're not good enough,
That you're behind,
That you're getting too old,
That you can't do something.
There's a good chance you'll start behaving in ways that reinforce those beliefs.
The good news is that the opposite can also be true.
When we deliberately practice a more constructive and encouraging internal dialogue,
We can begin to change the way we approach challenges.
I'm not suggesting that you stand in front of the bathroom mirror telling yourself you're amazing 50 times and suddenly everything in your life changes.
If only it were that simple.
But that's not how psychology works.
Affirmations aren't magic.
They're a way of consciously directing your attention towards more helpful and constructive beliefs.
And when you combine those beliefs with action,
An important part,
They can become a useful tool for rapid personal change.
So I'd like to give you a simple morning exercise.
It takes just a few minutes before you get caught up in the demands of the day.
So take a moment,
Sit comfortably,
Take a slow breath.
And think about the person you want to be today.
Not the person you think everyone else is expecting you to be.
Not the person who's trying to please everybody.
But the person you actually want to be.
Perhaps that's someone who's calmer.
More confident.
More patient,
More focused.
More willing to take a risk.
Or simply someone who is a little kinder to themselves.
Now I'd like you to consider these statements and you don't have to believe every word immediately.
Just allow yourself to consider the possibility.
I am capable of handling the challenges that come my way.
I don't need to be perfect to be successful.
I am allowed to put myself first sometimes.
My past does not define my future.
I have strength,
Experience and wisdom that I can draw upon.
I'm becoming more confident in who I am.
Today,
I will focus on what I can control,
Rather than worrying about what I cannot.
Finally!
I deserve to feel good about myself and the life I am creating.
Take a moment with that last one.
Because I think a lot of us spend an extraordinary amount of time worrying about whether we're good enough.
Good enough at work,
Good enough as a person even,
Good enough as a partner.
Good enough compared with somebody else.
And somewhere along the line,
We forget to recognise.
But we've already achieved that mountain of achievement that we're standing on.
So here's my challenge for you.
For the next 7 mornings,
Before you pick up your phone,
Check your emails or start worrying about the day ahead,
Take 3 minutes for yourself.
Choose three affirmations that resonate with you and say them out loud if you can.
Then ask yourself one simple question.
What's one thing I can do today that will make me feel good about myself?
Doesn't need to be something enormous.
It might be as simple as going for a walk,
Having that difficult conversation.
Finishing that thing that you've just been putting off.
Or simply giving yourself permission to slow down.
Small actions build evidence and that evidence helps strengthen our belief in ourselves.
So remember,
You don't have to wait until you feel confident to start behaving like someone who believes in themselves.
Sometimes the behavior comes first and the confidence follows.
So I'd encourage you to try this little morning practice for the next seven days and notice what changes.
Be curious about it.
Thank you for spending this time with me.
I hope you found it useful.
And if you enjoyed today's lesson,
I'd love you to join me again for another practice here on Insight Timer.
Until next time,
Have a great day and remember to be a little kinder to yourself.
Take care.