Alright,
Let's talk a pun.
Judgment when we're facing with the judgment of other people around,
Right?
We can feel it or we even hear them say judgmental things.
Towards us.
This is very challenging.
I get it.
It's not easy.
Easy to hold then.
Because we want to be accepted,
We want to be seen for who we really are.
And we have good intentions,
Right?
And we don't want to be reduced.
To whatever This other ego construct is reducing us too.
So I get the pain of that.
And at the same time,
Where are we trying to change?
I love one.
Where are we trying for the other one to be different?
Us to feel better.
Where are we trying for the other one to change,
So to not say or not think?
These judgmental thoughts about us,
Right?
So we feel.
Accepted.
And love.
You are already so accepted.
So loved.
It's all around you.
Who you?
You don't need it from this other person and it's also too high of an expectation because if the other person is stuck in their own ego construct I might not even be able to do that.
And that is okay,
You can do it.
Let that be there in that moment.
Where are we actually trying to change the other one so we don't feel judged?
And words actually.
Our own pain we need to feel that we do feel judged.
Why do we need to face the pain inside of us first?
I want to talk a little bit more about this ego construct thing because I think this is so important and so helpful to understand where these judgmental thoughts are coming from,
Right?
And what inside of us is responding to that so that we can become aware of that.
And catch in,
In the moment,
Bring awareness to it.
So when someone is judging us,
They're lost and caught up in their own thoughts.
In her own ego,
Which is putting things in boxes,
Putting labels on something.
This is good what they're doing.
This is bad what they're doing.
This is what they should be doing.
This is what they shouldn't be doing.
It is very black and bright.
Very right and wrong.
Right?
This is the core of a judgment.
Somebody is doing something that is wrong most of the time,
Right?
It could be also even like positive judgment.
But most of the time,
It's negative judgment.
So it's literally like their ego construct.
Looking at ours.
And making hours.
Be something.
When we respond to that like fully,
Right?
We agree.
We agree that we're this ego construct.
Which can be judged.
And can be labeled,
Can be seen as good and bad and right and wrong.
You are.
So much more.
Namaste.
In your essence.
You are pure awareness unbound.
Eternal the same awareness,
The same consciousness.
In this other person.
So you're assuring that you are one.
Not on the form level but on the deepest level.
You are one.
So can you let the other one be wherever they are at,
If they are really where you think they are at,
Right?
Maybe they are not,
And it's just our own judgment again.
Can you let the other one be where they are at?
Have their opinions about it.
You And know that this is not me.
Who you are at the moment.
The other one is imprisoned in their own judgmental thoughts.
And these judgmental thoughts are not just turning against your ego construct.
They're even more often turning against the ego construct of this person itself.
So this person is really in pain.
And that is okay.
You don't need to change them.
You don't need to fix them.
Just remember.
And you can let them judge you.
And know.
So deeply.
That this is not who you are This is not who you are.
Your awareness.
And on a deeper level,
This other person who's judging you.
Is also.
Awareness.
Now one last little disclaimer right that doesn't mean We need to let people treat us badly.
We can allow what is,
Be a non-resistant.
And be in love and still say no.
Sometimes the most loving thing we can do is to say no to dancing this pattern out again with this person.
