The Weight of Resentment

Peace and blessings,

Everyone.

It's me,

Dr.

Sabrina,

And welcome back to Soul Speak,

Conversations for your healing journey.

And this Soul Speak really is conversations between all of you who have entrusted me with your questions and allowed me to take all of my years of experience as a therapist,

As a human,

As a peace builder,

As all the things,

As a woman,

As everything,

And to answer them in a short window of time to the best of my ability.

So today's question comes from MJ.

And MJ says,

Dear Dr.

Sabrina,

I am so angry with my family.

No matter what I do,

I just can't move past the past.

What is your best suggestion for me to move forward with my life?

That's a good question,

MJ.

And I want to remind you by first validating for you that you have experienced heartache.

And our families,

They betray us.

Our families break our hearts.

Our families harm us.

And that is true.

And my question for you is,

While you've had this injury to your heart,

This heart is also the doorway to your healing,

To your liberation.

And so I'm going to ask you,

MJ,

Like I asked so many of my clients and so many of my friends and also myself,

Who,

What would you be without your resentments?

Think about that question.

Who would you be without your resentments?

What would you be doing differently?

How would you be living your life?

What would it smell like in the air that you breathe?

What dreams would you be making come true if you weren't trapped in the resentment?

So my best action for you in the glorious summer air is to take steps to liberate yourself from the bondage of the poisonous venom of chronic resentments.

Now in Chinese medicine,

Resentments sit in the liver,

Which is why I always tell people don't drink alcohol globally,

But also don't drink alcohol when you have a resentment.

All it does is add fuel to that fire that's sitting in your liver.

And to minimize your sugar,

MJ,

While you're trying to move this resentment through you,

But to move your body,

To bring the Chinese healing sound of Qi Gong into your liver and your heart.

It sounds a little bit like this.

Shh.

I wonder MJ,

What would happen if you woke up every morning with one hand on your liver,

The other on your heart and just said,

Shh.

And then only then can you listen with the ear of your heart around what your next step should be.

Now,

Just recently,

I encouraged someone to go to the water because we did an imagery exercise in which she talked about cleansing.

And so my invitation to her was go to the water,

Take a roll of toilet paper with you,

Write down all of your resentments,

Each on a square.

You hear me?

Each on a square,

Write them down,

Throw them in the ocean.

I said toilet paper so you don't create an issue with the environment.

Make sure it's compostable,

Biodegradable,

Throw them in the water.

That's symbolic of your liberation.

If you don't want to travel to all the way to the sea or the ocean,

Throw it in the toilet,

Flush it.

It's symbolic of you letting go,

Releasing it.

Another way is to write it on paper and make a bonfire and burn it.

But make sure when you write this resentment list and you got all these people in your life,

Make sure you include yourself.

Make sure you include yourself.

What are the resentments against myself that I need to be liberated from?

Is it a decision that you didn't make,

A money-making thing that didn't happen for you,

A degree that's still not yours?

Write it down.

Liberate yourself from the bondage of shame and regret so that when you leave this earth,

MJ,

Like we all will,

You will rest with ease.

Rest with ease,

My friend.

So I hope that little tidbit helps you.

And I also hope for all of you that are listening to go ahead and seek some guidance,

Get into a community,

Get into a group,

Sit with a healer,

Sit with a guide,

And relinquish yourself from this bondage.

Thank you so much for your questions.

Thank you so much for your trust.

And I can't wait to hear from the rest of you.

And I can't wait to have our guests come in soon and give us their feedback,

Their support on your liberation.

I can't wait to be with you.

Have a glorious week.

Peace and blessings.