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Working With Jealousy

With Sravasti Abbey Monastics

"Beware the green-eyed monster", warned Shakespeare in his play Othello, a classic study of how jealousy ruins our happiness and relationships. Instead of getting overwhelmed by this powerful emotion, join Tenzin Tsepal in this course to learn how to identify jealousy when it arises in your mind, and apply antidotes to subdue it well before it can affect your actions of body and speech and your relationships with those around you. By replacing jealousy with beneficial states of mind, you will develop a genuine sense of confidence that brings inner peace and fulfilment.

Develop confidence and inner peace by identifying jealousy as it arises and replacing it with beneficial states of mind.

10 Days

4.7k students

4.8 stars

13 min / day

English

About this course

Acceptance Meditation

Inner Critic Reframing Practice

Equanimity Practice (Upekkha)

Meet your Teacher

Sravasti Abbey Monastics

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Newport, Washington, USA

Sravasti Abbey is among the first of its kind—an American Buddhist monastic community where nuns and monks and lay students learn, practice, and live the Buddha’s teachings. While monastic training is the focus, lay guests are also welcome to experience community life, offer service, and experience the kindness of others. The Abbey’s network is much wider than our 300-acre property in rural Washington State. Through the web, we are interconnected with friends around the world. After receiving her novice ordination with His Holiness the Dalai Lama in 2001, Venerable Tenzin Tsepal studied Buddhist philosophy at Chenrezig Institute (QLD, Australia), where she served as the Western Teacher for 10 years. In 2016, she joined Sravasti Abbey Buddhist Monastery in Newport, WA where she currently lives.

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10 Days

4.7k students

4.8 stars

13 min / day

English

Lesson 1

Our Motivation For Working With Jealousy

Our motivation is what determines the value of our actions, and it will shape our experience of this course. Venerable Tenzin Tsepal talks about why motivation matters in whatever we do, and guides us to set a beneficial motivation for this course on working with jealousy.

Lesson 2

What Exactly Is Jealousy?

Buddhist teachings offer a definition of jealousy: “A disturbing emotion that comes from the depths that is an inability to bear another’s good fortune because we are attached to having possessions, opportunities, praise, reputation, and so forth for ourselves. It involves animosity and causes mental unhappiness.” Tenzin Tsepal explains what jealousy is and how to identify it when it arises.

Lesson 3

The Fuel That Feeds Jealousy

Living in a fast-paced, modern society, competitiveness and comparing ourselves to others seem to be normal, or even encouraged by those around us. Have you considered that such habitual ways of thinking might feed your jealousy? Venerable Tenzin Tsepal brings our awareness to the thoughts that lie behind jealousy and guides a meditation to relax the competitive, comparing mind.

Lesson 4

Stopping The Pity Party

Jealousy breeds self-pity, which can be so seductive. But where does thinking that we’re the worst, and the world is not fair, get us? Venerable Tenzin Tsepal uses humor to show us how to stop throwing pity parties that waste our time and undermine our confidence and potential.

Lesson 5

The Pain Of Jealousy

Once we see clearly how jealousy brings suffering to ourselves and others, we’ll naturally be motivated to overcome it. Venerable Tenzin Tsepal teaches on the disadvantages of jealousy and guides a meditation on how it affects our relationships with others and gets in the way of our highest aspirations.

Lesson 6

Good Enough, Dear

It’s hard for us to admit that we’re jealous, because at its core is the painful belief that we are just not good enough. Venerable Tenzin Tsepal shares how admitting to jealousy can bring a sense of relief, and guides a meditation on cultivating self-acceptance as the first step to overcome the jealous mind.

Lesson 7

Be Careful What You Wish For

The writer Oscar Wilde said, “There are only two tragedies in life: one is not getting what one wants, the other is getting it.” When we’re jealous of someone or overwhelmed by desire for an object we can’t attain, we don’t think about the problems that will come with getting what we want. Venerable Tenzin Tsepal gets us to expand our minds and think about the long-term results of getting what we want, which always includes problems in addition to the benefits we might imagine.

Lesson 8

Contemplating Cause & Effect

Venerable Tenzin Tsepal introduces the Buddhist concept of karma and how our present experience is the result of causes we have created in the past. With that in mind, we can learn to accept that others have created the causes to experience certain results. Instead of getting jealous, we can accept our present situation and focus our energy on creating the causes for beneficial future results.

Lesson 9

Rejoicing In A Meaningful Life

The most powerful antidote to jealousy is rejoicing. Venerable Tenzin Tsepal shows us how to practice rejoicing in what we have going well, and how we can rejoice even in the challenges and difficulties we experience. In this way, all our experiences become opportunities to develop our good qualities and bring meaning to our lives. With rejoicing, we no longer get hung up over all the things we get jealous about.

Lesson 10

Transforming Jealousy Into Joy

To conclude the course, Venerable Tenzin Tsepal shows us how we can rejoice even in the face of the challenges and difficulties we experience every day. In this way, every experience becomes an opportunity for developing our good qualities, making our lives very rich and meaningful. Using mind training techniques, we no longer get tripped up over all the things that used to trigger jealousy.