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Loving Presence For Couples

With Simonette Vaja

The greatest gift you can give is your presence.. loving presence. This course is filled with heartfelt instructions and practices developed by Simonette over many years of supporting individuals and couples to thrive and experience full-bodied, wholehearted pleasure. This course is especially for people who have experienced trauma that has distorted their sense of self worth, for any one who feels anxious or uncomfortable about intimacy and for men and women who wish to re connect with their partner in a new and powerful way. This course will assist you to remain present when with your intimate partner, enjoying your body and feeling no shame, blame or guilt. Each lesson is designed to welcome and connect with all that you are, body, mind and soul. You are welcome to take this course on your own or to sit with a beloved and both drop into loving presence – together you can grow.

Trust in your senses to guide you in the direction of pleasure and nourishment.

10 Days

3.3k students

4.2 stars

15 min / day

English

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Simonette Vaja

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Sydney NSW, Australia

Relationships are our greatest teachers, and Simonette has been an ardent curious student. With a passion for guiding people who have experienced sexual or physical trauma in their lives to feel safe in their bodies, to remain present with their partners has been the focus of her relationship coaching with couples. This 10 part audio series is all about sensuality, feeling safe to experience this and taking the time to be present, share emotional experiences and enjoy each other. Simonette is a trauma-informed psychologist, mindfulness & compassion meditation teacher. With 30 years of experience contributing through her extensive role providing workplace wellbeing & mental health programs. A subject matter expert in psychosocial risk and safety frameworks for the legal sectors, advocating for preventive and supportive programs in vicarious resilience for people who work in health care, rescue, aged care settings. Grateful & inspired when in the beauty of nature.

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10 Days

3.3k students

4.2 stars

15 min / day

English

Lesson 1

Your Loving Heart Is Your Guide

There are many reasons why we abandon our body sensuality. For some it can be early childhood trauma, critical incidents that were painful and humiliating, or events that caused pain and shame. For others, they may live more comfortably in the world of the intellect. We live in a fast paced world where we often neglect our bodies, and can have a myriad of mindless encounters that completely miss the sensuality, love and nourishment that we deserve. This session is about bringing your attention back to the sensations in your body, especially with our beloved. You can form new experiences of pleasure through noticing and valuing body sensations and nourishing yourself in healthy ways. I believe intimate relationships are a spiritual path of great value. I offer you safe and easy practices to come home to pleasurable embodied experiences. Begin with your loving heart.

Lesson 2

Let’s Get Physical

Your body is a wonderland. Conscious breathing practice, and attention to the sensations in your body will help you build insight in recognising your body wisdom. In this lesson you will be bringing your loving attention to the practice of Body Focus, an important pre-requisite to the later practices. I encourage regular Body Focus practices, as this is a wonderful way to connect to the sensations in your body and be able to nourish your Self on all levels. Body Focus is a practice rich with gifts for you and your relationships.

Lesson 3

Sensual Delights: An Exotic Day Spa

During heightened states of awareness, beautiful visions, sensory impressions, feelings, sounds, and even heavenly fragrances can be evoked. Throughout this lesson you are invited into an exotic day spa where you will receive exquisite delights for your sense of taste, touch, fragrance and sight. This session is a deeply restorative and nourishing practice.

Lesson 4

Body Scan Meditation

During this lesson, we are seeking freedom to transform any shame or pain that you might have about your body image. We then endeavour to creatively transform this into acceptance, and ultimately, celebration of realising your true colours. The regular practice of bringing attention to each part of your body, with love and acceptance. You will grow new pathways of thinking and cherishing your body as a temple of pleasure.

Lesson 5

Healing Relationships - Masculinity & Femininity Into Wholeness

Many years of personal healing with the masculine and feminine figures in my life influenced this guided meditation. Archetypes according to Carl Yung, mindful inquiry from positive psychology, Shamanic teachings and my deep desire for wholeness and harmony helped to transform the qualities of loving relationships held within my psyche. In today's lesson, this guided meditation will reveal your own unconscious bias toward men and women in your life. During this inner shamanic journey you will discover a way to bridge the gap that separates and divides. This will arise naturally within you from you psyche and desire for Union. Reverence for the mystery and serendipity will allow you to go within and visit the landscapes and impressions of feminine and masculine. You will visit your sacred river, forever flowing inside of you.

Lesson 6

Infinity Breathing Practice For Couples

In this beautiful meditation, you will learn a breathing practice entitled "Infinity Breathing." This breathing practice is designed for couples, allowing you and your beloved to connect through your breath and to enliven your senses. This practice will expand your consciousness and create opportunities for deeper merging, as deep as the ocean of love. Sim's voice will guide you through, to ensure you keep mindful loving presence. Infinity breathing practice is a beautiful way to start your day and include into your morning routine. I invite you to include this practice for the duration of this program and beyond. Each time you practice and experience the bliss of merging into loving presence, you can be sustained throughout the rest of your busy day. Try it and let us know in our student portal.

Lesson 7

The Unity Of Consciousness

In our Seventh Heaven session, I will be today I will be sharing a poem I wrote during a silent meditation retreat. I invite you to notice the wonder of getting to know your body temple. You can lightly hold these experiences with a sense of Awareness and watch as your Awareness expands delightfully. Now, we can move into the depths of your experience of soulful union. Are you accepting yourself fully, opening yourself to another to see you for your true colours, for your richly diverse inner terrain? Activate your imagination, imagine an ocean inside of you and how this may connect to the depths of your emotions. I have found the wisdom of the ocean useful to describe and share how I feel emotionally, especially when feeling intense rage or grief. Sometimes, there are rough weather conditions, a huge surf making it difficult to stay afloat but remember, our love can be as deep and as wide as the ocean. You are the gift in the Present.

Lesson 8

Mysteries Unfolding

During this lesson, we will be courageous and dive into the shadow side of giving and receiving. This shadow side is illuminated from the relationships we have with others, particularly our intimate partner. During this session we will be open to the mysteries of love and shadow wrestling. How many times have you discovered that what you resist, persists? When we can remain open and courageous to receiving and giving feedback, this is when relationships are our greatest spiritual teachers.

Lesson 9

An Exquisite Meal Prepared Especially For You

In this lesson you are rewarding yourself with a romantic evening away in the Mountains, accompanied by the warmth of a fire place and an exquisite sensual meal. Here, you activate and enliven your senses of taste, smell, touch, fragrance and connection. When we can give ourselves treats and mind retreats, we are nourished and our lives become a celebration. In this session, you will be encouraged to write a love letter to your body, for all that you are grateful for and cherish about yourself. I would love to read your love poems, you can post them on our Insight Timer group “Exquisite sensuality!”

Lesson 10

Touching You

You and a partner will embrace and take the ultimate dive into the eyes of love. For those who are presently single, you can still play with the imaginative aspects of this beautiful practice. This lover’s practice will awaken and arouse your whole body, all energy fields buzzing with delight. Exquisite sensuality is yours to give and receive, and I highly recommend that you include this lovers’ meditation as your regular morning meditation practice. Remember your presence to each other is the greatest gift you can give. Mindful intimacy is a valuable tool for cultivating more than you could ever imagine.