Confidence From The Inside Out: A 3 Principles Perspective

In this lesson we start to unpick what society has to say about confidence; that we can lack it, lose it or can get more of it. Let’s start to challenge the misunderstandings which have us all trying every tool and trick in the book to try and ‘get more confidence’ and still not feeling how we would like.

Confidence can seem complicated to understand. It can seem even more complicated to get. It looks like something we must look for endlessly. But once you understand how confidence really works, it becomes naturally abundant.

Have you noticed how confidence can suddenly emerge. Before you are doing the thing, anxiety is rising but when you step up and do it, the anxiety falls away. It's all about where your attention is. On thinking about the thing or doing the thing.

Do you feel like you are playing confidence hide and seek? Like it is there one moment and gone the next. Perhaps this is causing you to avoid things you would really love to do. Once you know that confidence is the constant and thought is the fluctuating part, all that changes.

We are all born confident. We learn some things which cover it up. Things which kept us safe at one stage. Things which are now getting in our way. We can unlearn those things. We can learn new ways to be, do and feel in the world. We just have to know it is possible.

This lesson is part one of three parts debunking the myths about confidence. In this lesson we debunk the myth that confidence needs beliefs or trust and that it has anything to do with a feeling of self-assurance or trust in ourselves.

This lesson is part two of three parts debunking the myths about confidence. In this lesson we debunk the myth that confidence manifest in various ways or that it can be built through our outside experiences.

This lesson is part three of three parts debunking the myths about confidence. In this lesson we reject the idea that confidence can be fragile and subject to fluctuations or that it is essential to cultivate it through endless outside activities.

Confidence can easily look anything but inherent. It can feel more like something which is fleeting and hard to keep hold of. But something huge happens when we start to look towards the inherent nature of confidence. That which is there in very small children but then seems to disappear. Once you see that your confidence is permanent, essential and characteristic, a whole new version of you can emerge.

If we believe confidence comes from outside activity, it can send us endlessly seeking when it dips. But if we see its inside out nature, it is easier to experience confidence more often.

The search for confidence can bring us 640 million results on the internet. That’s a lot to get through but it’s a simple result of the outside in misunderstanding. When you see this, you can stop looking out there and see that confidence is inside.

When uncomfortable feelings arise, they can often hold us back. But when we see the nature of feelings more deeply, we find we can move and do things despite their presence. This opens up the path to create the life we desire.

When we feel emotional discomfort in the body, it is very easy to end up avoiding following our desires. However, something truly amazing opens up for us when we do the thing despite the feeling.

Here’s an interesting lesson on a course on confidence. A lesson which says, “Confidence doesn’t really exist”. When we look at it from an inside out perspective it is easy to see how we come to this conclusion.