Codependency: Stop Losing Yourself In Relationships

In this first lesson, you'll begin recognizing the subtle ways caring for others can become losing track of yourself. Through teaching and guided self inquiry, you'll explore automatic helping, accommodating, fixing, and people pleasing patterns without judging or trying to immediately change them. You'll leave with a simple awareness practice that helps you notice when you're responding to someone else before checking in with yourself. Music by Christopher Lloyd Clarke

Learn the difference between caring about someone's feelings and becoming responsible for changing them. This lesson introduces emotional differentiation and the Mine, Yours, Ours practice to help you recognize what genuinely belongs to you within a relationship. You'll practice staying compassionate and connected while allowing another person to have their own emotional experience. Music by Christopher Lloyd Clarke

Explore the automatic urge to fix, rescue, manage, or say yes before you've had time to decide what you actually want to do. Through the Sacred Pause practice, you'll learn to notice the impulse to help without immediately acting on it. You'll leave with a simple tool for creating more space between someone else's need and your response. Music by Christopher Lloyd Clarke

When you spend a lot of time anticipating what other people need, it can become surprisingly difficult to know what you want. This lesson helps you turn your attention inward through an Inner Listening Practice designed to reconnect you with your preferences, needs, and inner knowing. You'll practice hearing your own answer before automatically considering everyone else's. Music by Christopher Lloyd Clarke

Knowing what you want is one thing. Saying it without explaining, justifying, apologizing, or seeking approval can be much harder. In this lesson, you'll explore what may be underneath the urge to over explain and practice One Breath, One Truth, a mindfulness technique for communicating clearly while staying connected to yourself. Music by Christopher Lloyd Clarke

Someone else's disappointment can feel like evidence that you've done something wrong, especially when you're accustomed to keeping other people happy. In this lesson, you'll practice staying grounded when someone doesn't like your answer without immediately explaining, fixing, or changing your decision. Learn to let their feelings and your choice exist at the same time. Music by Christopher Lloyd Clarke

Bring the course together by choosing the three practices that will best help you stay connected to yourself while caring for others. Through the Three Returns practice, you'll revisit the skills you've learned and create a simple, personal approach you can use when old patterns of fixing, pleasing, explaining, or self-abandonment return. Music by Christopher Lloyd Clarke