How To Let Life Guide You To Your Purpose

Do you ever worry that your life could be going in the wrong direction? Do you ever wish you knew how to find your way towards your purpose? What if I told you that life was giving you signs and signals every day? As a career and life coach in addition to my own life experience I've been compiling evidence to support the notion that Life is always guiding us.

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Do you ever worry that your life could be going in the wrong direction?

Do you ever wish that you knew how to find your way towards your purpose?

What if I told you that life was giving you signs and signals every day?

As a career and life coach,

In addition to my own life experience,

I've been compiling evidence to support the notion that life is always guiding us.

This is an understanding in how it works to follow our dharma in life.

The idea is that karma keeps us in check.

That is the force that is bringing us pain and resistance when we're veering off path.

Kriya is this idea of flow or feeling good and invigorated when we're following the correct path.

And only our soul knows what that right path is.

And I would say life itself knows what this right path is too.

So all of these events and experiences are being orchestrated for us to see and understand these signals.

So I'll give you an example from my own life as I started to figure this out on my own.

I was working in sales for many years and it was a good job.

It paid well.

My family felt good about it.

So,

You know,

All good,

Right?

Well,

The only problem was that this was not a rule that was aligned with my dharma.

I didn't know what my dharma was at the time,

But for years I felt an inclination to be of service to people,

To help guide people and help them achieve their goals in life and help them overcome their obstacles.

When I learned about the field of coaching at the age of 21,

It really rang true for me.

But I didn't honor and follow that truth because it seemed crazy.

It seemed far-fetched.

It just seemed,

You know,

Too far outside of a norm.

So I went into a career first in the biotech industry and after having a lot of frustration because that was not aligned with my dharma,

I switched into career in sales thinking that that might be better.

And it was an improvement in some ways,

But ultimately life gave me this big old signal of,

No,

This is not it.

And it came in the form of this arm pain.

And this wasn't the first time I experienced some of these signals.

When I was working in my previous career in biotech,

I was experiencing extreme boredom.

I had no energy and motivation and I took that as a sign to change,

Which was good.

I was starting to notice these obvious signals,

But I didn't take the time to really feel into the direction that was most alive in me,

Which at the time was still coaching and entrepreneurship.

So I settled for something that was not aligned with my truth.

And then these other signals started to manifest very soon,

Actually within the first 12 months,

This arm pain was coming on and I put band-aids on it,

Quite literally an arm band that allowed me to continue to mouse and type to get through the day.

And so the signals were there again and I chose not to listen to them.

So as time went by,

These signals just got stronger and stronger until one day I couldn't do any work.

I was able to get by and manage the pain for some time,

But then the pain was so intense that I had to stop altogether,

File a worker's comp claim and receive medical treatment.

But the medical treatment didn't do anything to help.

This is when the warning bells really started sounding.

It wasn't until I finally read the signs,

Honored the signs and took action and made some major life changes.

And intuitively I understood that I just,

I had to,

I had to follow my truth.

It had been 13 years in the corporate world at this point for me,

Not following my truth.

And it led to disaster.

A boring,

Miserable,

Painful life that I knew was not why I am here.

And so this is how it is for everyone.

We all come to this world with some sort of purpose in life.

For some people were born to be artists and make the world a more beautiful place.

Some people were born to be entrepreneurs and come up with clever ideas to make the world a better place and provide new services.

Some people are born to work with people and be nurturers and be caregivers and all these other different facets.

There are nine different archetypes.

They're called the Dharma archetypes that can be really helpful to understand.

Which one are you?

So I discovered recently that my Dharma archetype is one of the visionary,

One who is here to help people understand a new paradigm in life.

And so yes,

My work has been moving in the direction of this alignment with this purpose.

And as it has,

The Kriya,

The flow,

The good feelings have been following.

The pain has been lessening.

My body has been feeling much better.

And this is what happens with my clients as well,

Who come to me seeking to find their purpose.

Many want to change their career because it's out of alignment.

You know,

One guy was working as a teacher and his archetype is more of an artist.

You know,

He's very gifted as a writer and he's very creative.

So the moment he made that shift from this other archetype,

Teacher is another archetype,

That was not his Dharma.

Some people love being teachers.

He didn't.

This was not why he is here.

So he started moving in the direction of finding a career that will allow him to use his creativity.

And as soon as he did,

He started to notice this shift in energy.

Same thing that happened with a client who pivoted from also career selling IT software to helping people find their dream homes,

Because that is much more aligned with who he is as a people person who has a passion for real estate.

So the signals,

Guys,

They're meaningful.

We all have them.

And if your life is giving you daily signals of pain and resistance,

Take notice.

It's not going to go away unless you solve the root of the problem.

And the root being you're out of alignment with your purpose here.

And the root being you're out of alignment with your purpose here on the earth.

It's not going to go away with medical treatment.

It's not going to go away with adequate self-care.

You can do all the self-care in the world,

But if you're heading in the wrong direction,

It's not going to do anything.

I used to try everything,

Massage,

Meditation,

Yoga,

Breath work,

You name it.

But while I was still in that sales career,

It didn't do anything to reduce the stress and frustration and pain and resistance that I felt.

Each morning that alarm clock would go off,

I would groan and moan because I was feeling such strong resistance.

That's the more subtle signal.

It doesn't have to erupt in,

You know,

Some people might get intense migraines.

That's another sign or a signal or intense lower back pain.

But the earlier stages are just,

You don't want to get out of bed.

You don't want to go to work.

You don't want to really do anything.

That's a sign that life is telling you you're out of balance.

You're not following your path.

And the remedy is to find your path,

To move in the direction of your path.

This is the best thing you can do for your migraines,

Your lower back pain,

Your arm pain,

Your headaches,

Your,

You know,

Resistance to waking up each morning when that alarm clock goes off.

It's not any other clever quick fix.

It's changing the orientation of your life and paying attention to how that feels.

The answers lie within,

100% within you.

They're not from a doctor or a therapist or anyone else.

It's your own intuition.

And it's your body.

Your body is constantly telling you.

This is your subconscious mind sending signals.

And I would argue that your subconscious mind is,

That's the seed of your soul.

Your soul is in there and it knows what is best for you.

And it is not going to allow you to veer off track and feel good about yourself.

That's not its job.

Its job is to have you live the life that you were meant to live.

If you were born with these innate abilities to paint,

To draw,

To create,

And you're working as an accountant,

Your body,

Your soul,

Your subconscious mind and life itself is going to say,

No.

The red carpet does not get rolled out for you.

No matter how hard you study,

No matter how hard you work,

You're only going to achieve what you've been doing for a long time.

You're only going to achieve moderate success.

It's going to be like pushing a boulder uphill and you're going to be exhausted all the time.

So read those signals and pay attention because that's a sign that you need to make some changes.

And if that's you,

Then I would encourage you to get some help.

Reach out to somebody like myself or anyone else that can walk you through this path of discovering your purpose.

What is your Dharma archetype?

Are you a teacher,

A visionary,

An entrepreneur,

An artist?

And then within that category,

What is a path,

Whether that's a new career or just a new life orientation that's going to allow you to start heading in that path?

You don't have to quit your job as an accountant in order to start making improvements.

Eventually you're going to want to make that sort of a switch,

But get started by painting on the side,

Taking up guitar and learning how to write and play music.

Whatever it is,

Do what you have to do so you can start feeling the good signals,

The flow and the ease and the inspiration and the upliftment and the joy and the passion and the enthusiasm.

That is what you're after.

Those are the signals that are waiting for you to have these moments of just flow.

On a good day,

When I'm engaged and working on my purpose,

That the time just flies by and I can't get enough.

I have to be careful.

I have to pump the brakes and slow down so I don't overdo it.

Because sometimes it just feels so good.

And that's the whole point,

Guys.

You're after feeling good.

So that's the message I wanted to share today is to pay attention to those signals,

The resistance,

The pain,

The frustration,

And pay attention to what's pulling at you.

Right?

Are you being pulled in the direction of your Dharma?

Because I know you are.

If you're a teacher,

Maybe you find yourself teaching your friends things all the time,

Teaching your family things.

Pay attention to that,

Honor that,

And then move in that direction.

Explore it further.

Get support with getting more clear on an action plan.

And then start taking action.

One day at a time,

One step at a time,

Until one day,

These signals are all positive.

And you're living this new life that is full of inspiration and passion and enthusiasm.

All because you honored the signals and you said no to a life of resistance.

Because that is your alternative,

Is to live a life of resistance.

Many people moan and groan every single morning for their entire lives because they think that's just how life is.

That's not how life is.

Life is just giving you feedback.

Make that switch.

Spare yourself another 40 years of resistance and pain that the doctors can't diagnose.

Make that change today,

Even if it's going to be hard,

Even if it takes you a whole year or whatever.

You'll have the rest of your life to enjoy because of it.

So I wish you all the best.

And yeah,

Start heating those signals today.

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I believe you have a wisdom about finding one’s path in life that is very much in alignment with my own. Thanks for sharing.