Safe To Feel Your Emotions

A healthy human feels so strongly. When going through server trauma, this can feel like too much and a protection mechanism must be found. Often this can look like projection and stories that allow us to vent our emotions towards other people and outwards. This is a coping mechanism and a habit that will not serve our relationships, mind, and body if this continues. Creating the safety and space to safely witness and feel your way through emotions is critical and something that is very powerful.

Transcript

Often on this journey of PTSD,

We can actually start to limit the ability for us to feel a healthy human feel so strongly.

When on me returning from war,

I remember how closed off I was in my heart,

My compassion and my empathy and I was really struggling to feel myself or anyone around me.

And this led to me creating a life that looked like how I felt.

And when we're going through severe trauma,

This can feel like too much and often we find a protection mechanism must be found to limit how much pain we're feeling.

Often these protection mechanisms can look like stories that allow us to bend our emotions towards other people and outwards.

This is a coping mechanism and a habit that will not serve our relationship,

Our mind and body if this continues.

Creating the safety in space to safely witness and feel your way through emotions is critical and something that is very powerful for you removing your story of PTSD.

You can create the safety and trust in your own body and nervous system to see you move through all emotions.

And as we disconnect from sadness and pain,

We also disconnect from joy and laughter.

This is just the fact of the human body and how emotions work.

So are you disconnecting from all of these painful emotions?

If that's stopping you from tapping into all of the amazing feelings that you could have in your life also.

I'd just like to ask you to close your eyes,

Place your hand on your belly and start to just breathe into your belly.

We want to set a new intention here,

A new intention that we feel safe and grounded to feel into all of our emotions.

It may not be in this present moment,

But we're setting an intention that we're going to create a new behaviour that allows us to feel our emotions safely,

Internally and then we don't need to project them outwards and we don't need to follow our current disconnection methods.

So I'm just going to allow you to breathe here for a minute and for you to undergo some dialogue around you changing your story,

Around how you're going to cope with your emotions and the behaviours you allow yourself to be inward and knowing that you can actually feel safe.

Often we can hold so much emotional charge from past incidents and these past incidents can even show up in our current environment,

But really the charge and the attachment is to something within the past and really all we need to do is create a safe container for that emotion to be safely felt and metabolised by the body.

Often we have felt something that's been too traumatic for our nervous system or our emotional body to cope with which allowed us to create a protection mechanism which is normally a story that warps our perception of our outside world.

So as we lay here and become more acquainted with our body and we know that it is safe for us to feel our own emotions,

We don't actually have to allow ourselves to come up into our head and into the story.

Often we drag in other characters and people within our relationships or working dynamics and we start to vent our anger and our frustration onto them,

But really that anger and frustration is just a sign that we're not grounded in our body and we're feeling anything less than amazing.

So I'm just going to invite you to take another couple of deep breaths into your body and I want you to picture the last time that you had a strong setback or strong emotion come up.

I want you to picture what your behaviour was at that time that really stopped you from going inward into your body and feeling what the emotion could have been.

It's okay if you vented and projected your anger or worry onto other people,

But maybe you could have got below the story.

Maybe you could have come back into your body and you could have breathed and you could have actually found what that emotion was and in you feeling that emotion in the present moment you allow yourself to become free.

You allow the story to disappear.

You allow the mind to realise that it doesn't have to protect you from that emotion anymore and it doesn't have to protect you from the attachment that you have to the past.

This doesn't have to be done all at once and removing the label of PTSD is definitely not a race.

So I invite you to go inward into your body and take a few deep breaths and I would like you to scan your body and find somewhere that finds light and nourishing.

This could be somewhere where you feel safe or expansive and this could change every day.

So this could be the tip of your crown,

Your heart,

Your breath,

Your right elbow,

Anywhere that just feels more light and less dense than some of the other parts within your body.

What we're doing is we're finding a place of resource or a place of safety.

So when you do go inward into your body you do have the opportunity to find a level of safety out of your home base,

Somewhere that you feel safe.

And then when we feel this level of safety within our own body we can then venture out,

Venture into the unknown and start to explore those parts of our body that we may have disconnected from.

And as we explore those parts of our body we may have disconnected from we may experience some strong emotions.

As we start to explore the unknowns in our body we can experience strong emotional reactions.

So this is where the breath is extremely powerful at allowing you to feel safe and allowing you to anchor into your own body.

So breathing through your mouth and breathing into your belly sounding something like this.

This is quite powerful at allowing us to have the new awareness of dropping into our body and exploring our body and connecting into our body.

Should we start to feel unsafe or feel a strong emotional reaction come on we can just simply return our breathing to normal and we can actually just go back to our place of resource.

This is something that should not be done all at once and something that you should just explore a little bit at a time.

My recommendation would be to take a practice of exploring your body and your emotions for 30 seconds to a minute each day.

Once you become more acquainted at exploring your body and feel more comfortable in feeling your emotions this is really powerful.

We're now creating new behaviors and new habits around us feeling safe in our body and our breath and safe to explore our emotions.

Should you feel a story come up during the day or should you feel an emotion of anger or worry or sadness I really invite you to take a moment to remove yourself from the trigger or from your environment.

Sit down in a nice comfortable place just allow yourself to go inward on the emotion.

A lot of the time your mind will tell you to not go inward and it will give you a story and a reason for you to be frustrated.

Maybe you want to go back to the place of trigger or back to your environment versus you actually just staying grounded in who you are and feeling your emotions and allowing yourself to move through that emotion.

Once we feel that emotion,

Once we allow that emotion to be metabolized we can actually move ahead in leaps and bounds.

Once we create a healthy relationship with our emotions,

Once we create a healthy relationship with our body and our breath and allowing ourselves to feel safe in all aspects of ourselves again this is the key to healing our nervous system.

This is the key to integrating our body and our mind and this is the key for us to be able to move through any environment and move through the label of PTSD.

This is very,

Very exciting.

So there was a lot of information in today's audio so please take your time to read over it but just to recap,

Create a healthy dynamic and healthy relationship with your emotions.

Don't shame your emotions.

Create a healthy relationship with your breath and your ability to explore all parts of your body with your breath.

Include some touch in there if you need to.

If you have a strong emotional reaction or a trigger,

Remove yourself from the situation and go inward.

Allow your body to feel what's there.

Allow your body to metabolize the memory or the emotion.

And most of all,

Enjoy this.

Create a positive story.

Create a powerful story around this being something that you can do and something that you do enjoy and this is moving you towards your blueprint and moving you towards the person that you want to be.

Otherwise we can just sometimes feel stuck in this big washing machine of emotions and going around and around and around.

But we have to remember that this is giving us direction.

This is giving us new skills and though it might seem a little bit difficult at first to go inward on some of these tough emotions,

I promise you this is going to allow you to feel your joy and all other emotions in so much more heightened state and bring you back to life and allow you to move through the label of PTSD.

So I hope you've really enjoyed today's audio.

I hope you've got a lot out of it.

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Thanks for listening,

Matt.

Reviews

Thank you for guiding me through that inner journey!! Transformative!

I listened to this to check it out for my partner who suffers from CPTSD and I think it will be helpful to him. Thank you!

Thanks so much! This meditation helped me to get in touch with and release some difficult emotions. Much love

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Thank you. I would love to connect with you about breathwork facilitators in my area.❤️

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Thank you so much for this pratice! PTSD has been really kicking my butt, but now I know it’s because I haven’t been feeling my emotions and keep believing it’s scary not to. Now I know that is not the truth and feeling my emotions will help me heal!

I love all of these that you've released. the explanations of what, why and how is so helpful. thank you.