Boundary Bullies

Welcome to Day 4 of the 10-Day Boundary Challenge. Today’s session focuses on raising your awareness about those around you who are violating your boundaries. Knowing who your biggest offenders are and bringing mindful awareness to the issue when you’re not in the heat of the moment is a great place to start building your boundary resilience.

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Hi there! I plan to listen to you’re other guides on boundaries. Ty so much for posting them.

I think I’m dealing with an in between boundary repeat offender and boundary bully.

Over the past few years with help from therapy and insight timer I’ve become better at setting boundaries and attempting to hold them. I still have a lot of work to do when it comes to feeling the need to explain myself and my boundaries, though.

Logically I know my boundaries are set for my protection and i don’t need to justify them for them to be real. Yet, I feel criticized for protecting myself when communicating with others. I attempted for my first time to write for help on a Reddit thread but so far no real engagement.

I wonder if I could link it here and get help deciding if this is a repeat offender or boundary bully?

Link isn’t working. Guess I’ll do more research to determine which they are to help me decide engagement moving forward!

Thanks so much for posting on boundary work. It is a hard process personally but when you look at it in relations to others as well it becomes even tougher!

Found some useful information to help me decide my next step. Definitely a boundary Bully. Before I listened to this talk I had begun to limit my time with her. Now I need to tell her why and what consequence there will be if she continues her current behaviour. Thank you.

There is a coworker who rarely lets me get a word in when we are discussing any topic. I realize she needs to one up herself because she is very insecure and has social anxiety. The idea of being strong and saying " Hey I have something to contribute to" makes me feel tense. I will be brave and attempt it anyway.

boundary bullies … I love this term. And my last comment I use the phrase, don’t poke the bear. And the bear feels like a boundary bully. Thank you for the insights on your talk. As I listen to your boundary talks, I feel more empowered to speak up and exercise self-care, especially around boundary bullies, and repeat offenders 🙏✨♥️🙏✨♥️🙏✨♥️🙏✨♥️

Incredibly helpful and puts into context what I need to do. Distance is my new respect and boundary.