In our modern world we often struggle to find the middle path between loving someone unconditionally and protecting our own well-being.
Today I invite you to listen to these words with an open heart.
It is true that when we start being with someone we begin to understand their patterns and can often assess the likelihood of a bond in the long run.
However in today's world even after spending considerable time together relationships are turning weak and unstable.
This is certainly due to the nature of the mind which is inherently unpredictable.
This is one of the areas where the concept of marriage holds especially true and reliable.
If someone sincerely sticks to the oaths and vows taken during the rituals their subconscious reminds them from time to time that they must stand by their words and act accordingly during tough phases.
It reinforces the presence of a commitment something to regulate oneself around.
These vows act as guiding anchors in life.
It is true that we need to have sensible practicality irrespective of those rituals but there are certain ancient and spiritual reasons for performing them which are undeniable and at times they transcend logic.
Also we must admit that not everyone possesses the immediate skill or experience to weigh things out and balance them perfectly.
Intelligence and maturity levels vary often refining only with time.
In that case a strong faith in those rituals and the innocence in following them as taught indirectly helps one to be sincere and pious.
This in turn has an overall positive effect on the relationship.
Sometimes innocence or deep trust in a time-tested or specious path works in our favor more than intellectual analysis.
Intellect often tends to dissect and rationalize whereas faith simply holds on.
Nevertheless one of the challenges in society today is that these rituals are often performed without proper awareness or engagement with their deeper meaning.
Rituals are not random sequences of actions.
They carry immense significance and power.
Much of the previous generation was taught to value and adhere to these core principles.
In many ways they strengthen their will to stay resilient though some also endured suffering due to rigid rules and lack of flexibility.
Today marriage has largely become more outward-facing and performative with people-pleasing and excessive events taking precedence over understanding and preserving its core values.
Unfortunately there is a growing number of early divorces following all this commotion reflecting a failure to honor these values.
It is not wrong to part ways if a relationship causes genuine suffering or harm to the self.
However in many cases bonds are being abandoned even for relatively small inconveniences.
At its core it suggests a weakening belief in the depth and weight of love itself.
Love is devotion toward another often involving giving oneself wholly,
Uncalculatedly and unconditionally.
It requires a degree of sacrifice and compromise for the sake of the beloved.
In its purest sense it also implies self-dissolution at an elemental level.
Yet this truth is frequently misunderstood or dismissed.
At the same time we are worldly beings with inherent limitations.
Our tolerance,
Patience and emotional resources are finite.
When such love is directed toward someone who does not value or protect it it can lead to self-depletion,
Erasure or the slow growth of resentment.
As long as we are worldly and practical by nature this idealized definition of love cannot function in isolation.
With practicality comes the inevitability of boundaries,
The necessary measures that regulate and protect love from being undermined or exploited.
However self boundaries today appear increasingly exaggerated.
Minor discomforts are often labeled as violations which can foster excessive self-importance and self-centeredness.
True boundaries exist to protect the authentic self from real disturbance or harm,
Not to erase selflessness altogether.
It is natural when we love someone to idealize and idolize them without analyzing whether they are truly worthy of that love.
This is the nature of love itself.
But as practicality enters logic awakens and we realize that partnership is essential for sustaining life in the world.
Ultimately the best way to preserve both the purity of love and the sanctity of the self is to cultivate a devotional heart guided by a wise conscience,
One that knows when to surrender and when to protect,
Thereby sustaining a relationship with balance and depth.
Thank you for listening.
Have a great day.
