Accepting Pain

One of the first steps in dealing with grief and loss is accepting that a feeling of pain or sadness is a natural response to any loss. Whether we lose a loved one, a cherished object, whether a comfortable situation changes and leaves us feeling vulnerable, all forms of loss create a sense of discomfort and each one of us will bring up a different feeling in response to that loss. When I can accept the feeling then I can move on from it rather than suppressing it and avoiding reality.

Transcript

In today's meditation,

I will accept my feelings of pain.

Knowing that I do have a choice in what I feel,

But also not denying and not suppressing what is there right now.

So I sit peacefully,

Quietly with myself and having understood this sense of loss,

I see the effect that that has had on me.

Where there was a feeling of loss,

There was naturally a sense of emptiness,

A sense of insecurity,

Possibly a sense of being left alone.

And these feelings create pain within.

And so I acknowledge what I'm feeling and I don't run away from it.

Because it's only in accepting the pain and then facing that pain with understanding that I can work through it,

That I can create a choice for myself.

So yes,

I know that today I'm not feeling my very best.

And I do understand that this pain is a natural consequence of grief and loss.

In some ways,

Pain can be me resisting the change.

It happens in a very subtle way.

But somewhere inside there's a feeling that I don't want to move on.

It's hard to move on.

My comfort zone has been taken away.

And I've been left feeling quite unsupported.

And as I reflect,

I also understand that part of this mechanism,

Part of this response to loss is actually a reaction that I've probably been taught,

That I've probably learnt from childhood.

That pain is normal,

Is natural whenever there is loss.

And I sit here in silence,

Just watching my thoughts,

Watching my feelings.

And I understand that today I can make a choice,

Even while I accept this response of pain.

I don't have to dwell here.

I can choose not to elongate the sorrow.

I can choose to be thankful for having had the comfort of the past,

Whether it was a situation,

Whether it was a person,

Whatever it was that's been taken away.

But I can be grateful that I had that in my life.

I can be grateful for the memories,

For the beautiful feelings that I have inside me when I think back.

I can also choose to learn what that goodness in the past taught me,

And ask myself how I can be a better person in the future,

How I can hold some of that goodness in my being,

And spread that out in the world.

And once I've understood the transient nature of life,

How temporary everything is,

How clouds come,

And they rain,

And then they go.

Once I've understood all of this,

Then I can look forward to more goodness in the future.

More people in my life will support me.

That's where I will feel safe,

Secure,

Joy,

Peace.

So even though today there is pain in time,

Even that will change.

It just is a gentle choice to focus on the goodness that has been,

And to look forward to more goodness which is on its way.

This is how I work through my feelings of pain,

And gently create a change.

Reviews

Thank you Sona. This is a beautiful practice which I listened to the day after I had to say goodbye to a very old dog that had come into my care after a long working life. I was privileged to give her a final two years of comfort and rest. This practice has helped me greatly to accept the change and ease the pain which which comes with her passing. Namaste

Very calming and serene.

Great meditation, very nice background music!

This was helpful to me. I shall listen to it again. I lost my youngest daughter when she was 12. It’s been a very grief filled world for me for the last 4 years - although I do the work. This felt as if you’ve been there and understand 🙏🏼

Incredible

I am loving your mediation tracks so far. Thank you

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