Serenity Wellness Podcast E45: Expectation Dump

As we’ve been working through areas related to acceptance and impermanence, an important aspect to be mindful of is our expectations. We hold expectations in several categories, creating high emotions and chaotic situations. Learn more about our expectations on self, others, and our environment and the impacts in has on our wellness. Put together your tools to create a healthy and balanced way of being.

Reviews

Nicole I really enjoyed this as it spoke to so many ways that our expectations get in the way and cause trouble. I am studying DBT and found this built upon what I'm learning in a very meaningful and easy to understand way. I was curious about the use of the phrase "badgering bully". It was followed by a precaution to pay attention to our use of language so as to not consider a person toxic, but rather that their behavior can be toxic. Can you help me understand why the phrase "badgering bully" would be used, as this does label a person as a bully, vs focusing on their behavior. I do sometimes get hung up on words and am just trying to understand. Thank you. I've bookmarked this and I'm heading to your website now to learn more! With gratitude 🙏💖🙏
Traci

I enjoyed this very much. Thank you. I will be listening to more.

Wow! I could relate to almost every example you gave. I’m happy to share since starting my daily meditation on June 13, 2017 I have overcome most of the obstacles around expectations I placed on others and myself but mostly others. I realized sadly I had been that badgering bully while attempting to communicate with my adult son (by following him room to room trying to have dialogue). Dang that never occurred to me that I was doing that. I haven’t done that in a long time now but it’s good to make that connection to what I was doing at one time.

Daily meditation has helped me tremendously in placing expectations on others. Inevitably I was the only one to get hurt when these expectations were not met. I’m doing much better in this area now too. Still feel disappointment but that’s ok. I don’t obsess with story and assumption any longer so that’s a relief! I will continue to work on my own expectations of myself by realizing I simply can not to what I use to do because of aging and that’s ok!

Your podcasts are great for putting things into perspective and I do appreciate your willingness to help others.

Have a beautiful day Nicole.

I used to get caught up in expectations and story telling a lot but not so much now that I practice mindfulness and use a lot of the tools you've provided. Thank you for your insight as usual!

Peaceful and clear xx thank you