Judgmental Mind ~Serenity Wellness Rewire To Love 1/4 E104

Learn the fundamentals of mindset, emotions, physical impacts, and where the imprinting began. Gain an understanding of how intergenerational threads impact the now and a plan to break cycles and create something new.

This is week 1 of a 4-part series.

Transcript

Hi everyone,

Welcome to the Rewire to Love training.

I'm so happy to have you here with me and I look forward to offering you wellness tools that are going to help you break cycles in judgment and move more into an integrated sense of self.

One that embodies unconditional love towards yourself and all around you.

Each week I'm going to offer you insight into different aspects of mental health,

How our full body system works together,

And tools that are going to help you do something different.

It's important to try to do the program in a weekly fashion if you're able.

The way that it's designed is set up to rewire your system to get you out of stuck patterns and the way that I have designed it in the weekly format is pretty purposeful for the full body system as you'll start to learn through the series.

For part one today I'm going to help you just see a little bit about your mind,

Emotions,

Physical body,

And how it's kind of all tied together.

Not only in aspects of yourself but also a little about intergenerational threads and how they may also be impacting you in life today.

And then I'm going to offer you a tool to work on this week.

To begin just think about the mind for a moment.

We have over 60,

000 thoughts a day.

That's a lot,

Right?

And every thought,

Every word that we say has a vibrational quality to it.

It impacts how we're feeling,

How we're perceiving and digesting the world around us,

And how we engage with ourself and with others.

The mind,

It can race.

It can get stuck in these auto cycles of thinking,

Judging,

And criticizing.

Comparing ourselves to others instead of connecting to difference.

Getting out of an idea of building one another up and sometimes instead breaking one another down.

The way we think,

The way we talk,

It impacts how we interact and how we feel.

Our emotions can get elevated.

We can get into storytelling mode in our mind and then create a big spike or reaction in our emotions.

Or perhaps we'll actually ignore our emotions,

Completely stepping away from it,

That avoidance,

Letting things build up and creating a lot of secondary situations.

So the way the mind works,

It interacts with everything else.

It impacts how we feel and how we engage,

But it also impacts our physical body.

The adrenals,

Cortisol,

The hormones,

Our heart rate,

The way we're breathing,

Muscle tension and stress,

How you're digesting and how you're sleeping,

All of which impact how you perceive and interact with the world around you,

How you communicate with people in your life,

And how easily you might slip in to judgment,

Criticism,

And comparison.

All those things,

Those auto cycles,

They impact us even if they're just in the mind.

They create an imprinting in the body,

That physical response,

But also the emotion.

We can get so wrapped up and so caught on the hamster wheel that we'll start believing the stories that we're telling ourselves.

We'll still have the anxiety.

We'll still have the stress or the sadness,

Even if it hasn't occurred.

So slowing down and recognizing the impact of how we're talking to ourselves,

How we're thinking towards ourselves,

And how we might be engaging with everything else around us.

So we have our mind,

We have our emotions,

We have our physical body.

We also have intergenerational imprinting.

Epigenetics is a form of science that's looking into that,

And we have known these things in energy therapy for a very long time.

But we can carry on different thoughts as well as different physical things in our body from past generations.

I'm going to give you just two quick examples of some science,

And we'll continue to explore this through the program.

One example was done using mice.

I am trying to remember all the details,

But I don't remember where the research was done.

That's something I can't seem to find in my brain right now.

But what they did was they put the mice in a maze,

And they had them get out doing different things,

Pulling levers,

Doing little tricks and stuff like that to get out of the maze and get some food.

The mice that were able to get out relatively quickly,

They impregnated.

And then they got the baby mice from that group,

And then another group of baby mice who the parents,

If you would,

Were never in the trap.

So they put group one,

The mice that mama and daddy mice got out of the trap,

And then mice that their parents were never in the trap.

And then they put them into the same type of situation.

The baby mice who had the parents who had been in the trap got out relatively fast.

They already knew how.

They showed up with the knowledge,

Learning,

And understanding through the birth cycle that their mommy,

Daddy mice,

Mouse,

Whatever,

Had already known and experienced.

Another one is a little deeper and more about the human cycle.

And that is some of the research that epigenetics is looking at.

And they looked at great-grandchildren of Holocaust victims,

People who had been through the Holocaust,

Survivors,

But they had been through the Holocaust experience.

And the great-grandchildren were born in a body state of trauma or PTSD.

And they looked at protein synthesis as well as the way the brain functions with traumatic cycle and some other things.

But those are just some examples of many.

So the mice,

The learning from parents,

Mice,

Parents,

I don't even know what you call them,

But parent mice,

And the Holocaust survivors and generations later having some physiological imprinting still happening.

Epigenetics is showing us that that imprinting can go back 14 generations.

14 generations.

Just as a little example,

When my mother was pregnant with me,

Every moment she was in,

There were multiple generations being impacted.

I was in her womb,

So me,

Her,

My daughter,

Her egg was in me,

So my daughter as well.

And it can continue to go on.

So this epigenetic intergenerational imprinting,

Again,

Can go through our thoughts,

Through our learning cycles,

But also through our physical body.

The beauty with it is,

Though,

We can change those cycles.

Somewhere along the way,

Someone in the lineage makes movement towards change.

And you being here today with me,

You are one of those people in your own family line.

When we make change,

Things change.

And this training is going to assist you in moving more in alignment with your true nature,

With your connection to your soul,

Which is true love and unconditional positive regard.

So those are some things to keep in mind as I give you the first round of tools.

Our mind,

How we engage,

How we talk,

Think,

How it impacts our emotion and our physical body.

And then also being aware,

Are we repeating other people's cycles that maybe we're ready to break?

And that can really go with our language as well.

We can turn our critical language into our own voice,

Even though it is something we don't believe and we know to not be true.

It might have been something we heard along the way.

It might have been things that were said to us that were hurtful.

And then somewhere we're like,

I'll take that on.

And we take those hurtful words and we just turn them into our own voice.

So that would be another example of when we're pulling things and punishing self.

But when we slow down,

We can hear and recognize what that's all about.

And I'm here to help you do that.

So for the first week,

How to begin.

It's first about opening up a lot of awareness.

So I will say that week one can be a bit tricky.

We can start to get a little uncomfortable with what we start seeing and noticing in terms of how we think and how we treat ourself and others in our thoughts.

Try your best to embrace what comes through with an openness of curiosity and compassion.

Recognizing these are just auto cycles sometimes we're stuck in and it's okay that it might seem a little louder at first.

That's part of change.

We want to open the door of awareness.

Change isn't always comfortable,

But opening the awareness is such a pivotal part.

So just know that when you practice these tools this week,

You might just feel a little sandpapery inside like,

Oh my goodness,

There I am judging again.

That's okay.

All part of the process.

So what you will do in week one,

It's a couple different steps ish.

The first is to slow down.

So slowing down,

Not necessarily in silent stillness,

Although that is very beneficial as a practice,

But slowing down in your everyday,

Hearing how you're talking to yourself.

Moving into that observer role,

Observe and notice whenever it is that you notice with non-judgment.

So you might be five minutes into thinking something and then you notice.

Now you've moved into observer instead of participator.

So whenever it is,

Whether it's one minute in,

Five minutes in,

20 minutes in,

There you are.

You've noticed and now you are the observer.

So step one,

Practicing slowing down.

Practice those daily mindfulness methods of just being in the present moment.

And then noticing whenever you notice that you're in a judgmental state and move yourself into the observer role at that moment.

Again,

Whenever you notice,

You have then become the observer.

As you become the observer,

Then you're going to do what I call the one-to-one technique.

Again,

We can get wrapped in that autopilot,

That hamster wheel quite easily.

And the hamster wheel is usually full of critical judgmental thoughts,

Not really kind and loving until we rework the system,

Rewire it into love.

So you're slowing down,

You're observing.

And then the one-to-one technique is whenever you notice,

Whenever you move into that observer role,

You're going to push pause and then you're going to slide in a positive word,

A positive thought or a positive word.

You might then have that negative come right back again,

That judgment.

That's okay.

Whenever you observe,

Maybe instantly pause again and slide in a positive word.

This part can get a bit exhausting initially.

You might be a bit surprised how judgmental our mind can be,

But what we're doing is that hamster wheel,

We're creating a hiccup cycle.

We're sliding in these positives.

And over time,

When we continue to practice this,

You start noticing that there's a little bit more positives running in that hamster wheel.

We have to slow down to rewrite things.

We have to notice in awareness.

And in the awareness that we notice,

We have to feel the discomfort,

The sandpapery abrasive feeling of being unkind to ourself or others.

Otherwise,

We just throw daggers and it's like,

Move on with my day until we slow down and feel.

So you're slowing down,

You're moving into observer,

You're pausing that hamster wheel,

Sliding in a positive.

You might notice a negative come again,

Slide in a positive.

The next step is you can choose to,

If you would like,

Just kind of jot down any words that you might notice really coming through a lot.

And they might be things like the shoulds,

The coulds,

The woulds,

Shoulda,

Coulda,

Woulda.

Often judgment.

When we place it towards ourself,

We feel defeated,

Depleted.

When we place it towards others,

Usually argument cycle,

Condescending nature,

The other person is feeling judged.

You might also notice that language,

The always,

Never,

Evers.

So again,

Depleting,

Depleting,

Depleting,

Making ourselves feel hopeless,

Helpless.

Why try if it's always this way?

We're never going to get better.

And then the labels and the judgments,

Those words,

The things we say that are daggers in our heart or daggers in the hearts of others.

So you might jot down those words if you notice certain ones coming through a lot for you,

Just so they have more awareness.

And again,

This is all about compassion with curiosity and loving kindness.

Some of the way that you think,

Perceive,

And your belief cycles might not really be the things that you believe.

And they might be things that have been running for a long time.

It's not going to help you to further judge yourself when you find what you find.

It's again,

Noticing that you're making a dedication to change.

And I'm so excited to be a part of that journey with you.

I'll throw in one last challenge for you.

If you notice that you have a certain person in your life,

Maybe it's a family member.

It could be a friend.

It could be a,

Oh,

Probably not a friend,

But it could be,

I guess.

It could be a boss,

A work colleague,

A famous person.

I don't know.

It could be whoever.

But if you notice there's someone in your life that you have a hard time stepping out of judgment towards,

Challenge yourself to notice what you appreciate about that person.

You can find one thing.

With that,

That is the information.

And those are the tools to start your practice to rewire to love.

I very much look forward to being a part of this journey with you.

Namaste.

I'll see you soon,

My friends.

Reviews

Hi Nicole! I was so excited to see you in my notifications today!! Oh how I’ve missed you!
This was a great start to the series. I needed this today. I’m always open to improving any areas in my life that need a little nudge in the right direction. Namaste dear one. 💜