
Return To Self Love
by Sarah Oben
This practice is an invitation to return to self-love, to let ourselves feel and to accept and love ourselves as we are. It is a meeting with our own heart, and a space to love ourselves here and now.
Transcript
Today on Wholehearted,
Return to self-love.
Number one,
Breathe.
Welcome home.
It's been said that our first love and our last love is self-love.
We move through life and we often neglect ourselves,
Neglect our needs,
Our wishes,
Putting other priorities higher than ourselves.
We often turn outside to the people in our lives to feel loved,
Appreciated,
Accepted,
To feel whole.
We often look to our accomplishments,
The roles that we play,
Our to-do lists,
Our circumstances,
And the life we have built for ourselves.
We're a sense of peace,
A sense that we are enough,
That we are okay because of the way that we exist in the world.
We often reject the pieces of ourselves that we deem unworthy of love,
Of compassion,
Of grace,
The parts we are uncomfortable to see,
To sit with,
And to be with.
We often go through life striving for our light and rejecting our dark,
Scared of what we might find if we sit with ourselves and embrace whatever shows itself to us to be loved.
We often refuse to love ourselves here and now as if admitting our imperfect perfection would crash our determined plans for growth.
Of improvement,
Of our becoming.
What would happen if you were to give yourself space,
To rest,
To let go,
To embrace?
Going through life can feel like an endless loop,
A search for the deep satisfaction of being held,
By life,
By love.
Going through life can feel like an endless striving,
Like turning our wheels for a future at which we are certain we will find what we are looking for.
Our own infinite love.
How have you been treating yourself?
When was the last time you felt love for you?
From you.
When was the last time you simply sat with yourself?
Just to be with you and allowed yourself to see whatever comes up for you,
Allowed yourself to feel,
Without looking to change it or fix it?
When was the last time that you held space for your wholeness,
Your light and your dark,
Your process and your unfolding?
When was the last time you listened for the lessons in you?
When was the last time you felt loved from your own heart,
Free of any requirements that make you worthy of love?
What reservations saved for another moment,
When you are more put together,
More desirable or deserving?
What would it feel like to unconditionally love you?
I invite you to place one hand on your heart and another on your abdomen.
Breathe.
Notice your inhale and your exhale.
Feel your heartbeat.
What does it say?
Keep breathing at your natural pace and I invite you to consider and open your heart to the vastness of who you are.
Feel the rising and falling of your breath.
Notice the texture of your inhale,
The relaxation of your exhale.
What have you been carrying around?
What emotion have you been avoiding feeling?
What is it that you've been unwilling to accept about yourself?
What do you notice in your body?
What do you feel?
Where do you feel it?
Can you allow it to be there?
Notice whatever sensations occur and notice what it would be like to be the observer of whatever it is you are feeling.
In holding space,
What if you allowed it to stay?
What if you held it as sacred,
As beautiful?
What if you treated it like you would treat a child who simply is looking for your love?
What if you held it with love and grace?
What if you were to love that which is there for you to love?
For no other reason than it is there.
Take a deep breath in and notice the fullness and stillness in your being.
This space.
You are beautiful.
You are infinite.
Feel your hand on your heart.
Here is your love,
Your powerful heart.
The one that doesn't run dry,
The one that doesn't leave you,
The one that sees you in your greatness and your weakness,
Your vulnerability and your strength.
The one whose only aim is to cherish you,
To guide you to your joy.
Who is forgiveness,
Compassion,
Peace.
Who is joy,
Passion,
Admiration.
Whose strength is deep and wide.
Whose power is fierce and gentle.
This love is the open space for all that you are.
Dear one,
Breathe.
Feel your inhale.
Feel your exhale.
Release.
Breathe.
I love you.
Can you say these words and allow them to be true?
I love you.
Feel the power in these words,
The grace and nourishment.
I love you.
Be with yourself in the way you have been most longing for.
I love you.
Feel your own heart and share the words you get to share with you.
Words of forgiveness,
Healing,
Tenderness,
Words of appreciation,
Acknowledgement,
Joy.
Here is your heart,
Ready to fuel you and sustain you.
Ready to love you from beginning to end,
From the inside out.
Our first love and our last love is self-love.
Welcome home.
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Recent Reviews
Shana
December 18, 2025
"Our first love and last love is self love" Absolutely beautiful π₯°β€οΈ With soooo much gratitude, Thank you.
Destiny
January 17, 2025
I really enjoy this meditation. I have listened to it multiple times now and every time I feel a sense of inner peace, self love, acceptance and mental clarity. Thank you so much for this offering ππΎ
Maureen
November 14, 2024
Thank you for the beautiful reminder that was so perfect on this difficult time for me. Namaste π
Irene
November 3, 2024
Thank you I so needed to hear this at this time πβοΈ
Donna
October 9, 2024
What a self-nourishing meditation! Thank you very much. Everything you said even, hit the nail on the head in my life right now.π
Martin
September 16, 2024
This resonated with me reminding us to love ourselves. So simple but easily neglected. Really well put together with the music being there at the right moments while not getting in the way of the sincerely delivered message. Many thanks Sarah ππ»ππΆπ
Linda
September 10, 2024
Such a fabulous and well needed message. Thank you so much for this embrace of love. πππ
Terry
September 8, 2024
Wow. This deeply resonated for me. Thank you for sharing π
Don
August 27, 2024
I needed this meditation this morning! Feeling blessed to have chosen it.
Danielle
August 3, 2024
Listen to this often. It really helps me to have more self compassion. Very grateful for this teaching.
Sharon
August 1, 2024
That was such a great way to begin my day. Thank you π
Davy
July 1, 2024
Iβm home! π³ Iβm safe! π¦ Iβm free to love myself again! π₯
Teresa
February 25, 2024
Very powerful! Thank you π the music at the beginning 4 minutes and the end 2 minutes was very moving π₯°
Hanna
February 18, 2024
Lovely. I also liked the change of music and silence.
Lizzy
February 9, 2024
This meditation brought such a deep and gentle warmth
Mike
January 24, 2024
Self love is my number one priority. Beautifully written meditation.
Jen
October 30, 2023
Perfectly delivered! Thank you for this inspirational meditation. My heart feels happy. π
Silke
October 14, 2023
Spot on. Intense. Condensed. Wonderful. Thank you so much
Deborah
October 5, 2023
Powerful. I will return to this and let your words sink deeper and deeper each time thank you. π
Melodie
August 29, 2023
OMG, my inner child needed these reminders that self love comes first and last in my life. Thank you, thank you!
