Healing The Father Wound (For Men)

This is a guided meditation with an introduction to the Father Wound. This is a powerful healing & transformative guided visualization to change the neurons in your body, heart & mind, so you can develop a healthier relationship with the inner & outer masculine. The journal exercise at the end is only for those who sign up for my email list. You can join using the link on my profile page.

Transcript

Hello and welcome to this meditation on healing and releasing the father wound.

If you're here then you have a father wound or you think you might have a father wound.

The father wound is growing up in some way that caused you to feel hurt,

Disappointed,

Abandoned,

Rejected.

It is being missed by your father,

Not met in the ways that you needed as a boy growing up.

And you may have found that this experience as an adult has left you with some issues.

Maybe in terms of your relationships,

Relationships with women,

Relationships with other men.

Internally,

Emotionally,

Mentally,

The father wound can make you feel like you aren't enough as a man.

You may also find that you have adopted negative harmful habits that your father had.

Being overly critical of yourself,

Being overly critical of others,

Shame,

Fear,

Anger,

Doubt,

You may be afraid to let people in,

To let people love and support you.

You may have anger issues.

Anger may be the only emotion that you know how to express.

Or you may not have access to any of your anger.

You may not trust other men.

Or you may hold resentment towards your father.

All of these can be consequences of carrying a father wound.

In this meditation,

I will guide you through early childhood experiences where you get in touch with memories and emotions that may have come up around your father.

And we will shift this experience so you are no longer relating to this experience to your father from a place of a wounded boy,

A wounded child.

We're going to heal that boy so that he can be free.

So that you can become more of yourself as a man.

So I want you to close your eyes.

Take some deep breaths.

Take three deep breaths.

As we begin to dive into your psyche,

Into your unconscious mind.

And as you take your last breath,

Just feeling your mind relax into your body,

Into the fullness of your body,

Sitting or laying,

Whatever you're doing.

Feel your mind just settle and become one with your body.

Feeling the outer layers of your body,

The boundaries.

Trying to get a sense of your body as a whole experience,

As one experience.

And just breathing in this relaxed state of calm,

Quiet,

Of wholeness,

Of oneness.

And as you do this,

I want you to focus your attention on your heart.

You could even put your hand on your heart,

On your chest.

Just breathing for a moment here.

And as you're in touch,

Connected to your heart,

I want you to have an image of yourself when you were a boy,

Anywhere from ages five to 12 years old.

Whatever the first image that comes up is okay.

Maybe it's a photograph that you have of yourself.

Maybe it's from a video,

A family video.

Or maybe you just have an image of yourself as a child.

Just sit with that image for a second as you're in touch with your heart.

Notice what he's doing.

Notice what his facial expression is.

Is he playing?

Is he alone?

Is he with other people?

Is he riding a bike?

Is he walking along the road?

Maybe on his way home from school?

Is he in the car?

Just notice what he is doing in this image.

Get a sense of the surroundings,

The setting,

The environment,

The people.

Are there any colors?

Are there any smells?

What's the emotion that he is feeling in this image?

Really let yourself be in the experience.

Now that you're in touch with your inner child,

I want you to think of what his relationship to his father is to dad.

Is he happy?

Is he sad?

Is he angry?

Is he confused?

Is he satisfied?

Is he disappointed?

Now I want you to bring in dad into the image.

You can even,

If there is a memory or an old experience you have of being with your dad that you remember as an adult,

Or maybe that's coming up now,

I want you to conjure up that image.

What's happening in that scenario?

Is there anybody else there?

Are you at home?

Church?

School?

Maybe you're on a family trip?

Just notice what's happening in this image.

What is being said to you?

And maybe you want to just see the experience from a distance and that's okay.

Or maybe you are in the experience,

Maybe you are currently identified with the boy.

Either way,

Just notice how you're feeling,

How the boy is feeling in response to what is happening with your dad.

And as you see all this happening,

Just noticing what does he need?

What does little you need from dad?

What does he want from dad in this situation?

Maybe he wants,

Or you wanted dad to be around more.

Maybe you wanted dad to take you on an adventure.

Maybe you wanted your dad to not hit you.

Maybe you wanted him to hug you.

Maybe you wanted him to teach you something.

Maybe you just wanted him to spend time with you.

Empathizing with the boy,

With you.

Not focusing on your dad,

Just focusing on you.

What is that like?

What is it like to be in touch with your inner child in this experience with your father?

Maybe he's hurt,

Disappointed,

Angry,

Sad.

Maybe he just feels alone.

Maybe he's happy.

Now I want you to imagine that there is a door into this situation or that there is some natural way for someone to enter into this setting.

And I want you as the adult you are now to enter it.

So just imagine yourself walking in.

Maybe it's a room.

Maybe it's outside.

Maybe it's the car.

Just imagine yourself walking into the situation and your father cannot see you.

He's frozen in this moment.

But you,

The younger you,

Sees you,

Doesn't know who you are.

And I want you to introduce yourself to him as you in the future.

Hey,

I'm you in the future.

I'm older you.

And I want you to tell him what he needs to hear in this moment about his father.

I want you to see his confusion.

I want you to empathize with his hurt,

His pain,

His disappointment,

His frustration,

His confusion,

His thinking that something is wrong with him,

That he is unlovable or unworthy.

Whatever he is,

Whatever he's feeling,

Whatever he might be thinking in response to your father that he doesn't get,

He's a child.

He doesn't know what's going on.

Nobody's explaining to him what's going on.

Your father should be the one to explain to him in a clear,

Direct,

Appropriate way for a child.

But if you have a father wound,

That was probably not the case.

So I want you as the adult with your understanding to tell the younger you what he needs to hear,

What you know that you think he needs to hear about his dad,

About his future,

About the boy's future,

About who he is as a boy,

As a man,

As a person.

Maybe it's you are a good person.

Your father has his own issues.

This isn't your fault.

Maybe it's you're going to turn out to be very good despite not having the love and appreciation you deserved as a child.

Maybe it's I see you.

I see your gifts.

I see your talents.

I see your beauty,

Your creativity,

Your intelligence.

I see all the things that you are that your parents didn't see.

It's okay to be you.

Whatever it is,

I want you to speak it to him in this moment.

And I want you to speak it out loud.

And as you do this,

Pay attention to how the younger you is receiving this information.

Is he hearing it?

Is he receptive to you?

Does he trust you?

Does he like you?

How do you feel towards him?

Just notice all the things around this experience as you communicate to him.

And when you said what you've said,

I want you to take a second to see what his response is.

Does he have a response?

Does he want to say anything?

Does he have questions?

Not about you as the future you,

But does he just have questions about the current situation?

If you want to talk with him about future you at some point later,

You could do that.

But for now,

Just addressing what's happening.

And based on his response,

You can give another response if you want.

Just make sure to communicate to him in a way that he could understand and appreciate.

And when you've said what you've said,

You can give him a hug.

And with this hug,

You let him know that he's never alone.

That you were always with him.

That you will always be with him now.

And for you,

As the adult you,

You can also know that he is always with you.

He is always in your heart.

And he is happy to be with you now.

And notice how you feel now that he is with you.

So when you're done,

You can let go of the hug and leave the way you came.

And I want you to see the image slowly just get smaller and smaller in your mind.

Until it vanishes.

Maybe it's in your heart,

In your body,

Or maybe it's just in your mind.

And now take three deep breaths.

Maybe you want to move your arms or your legs around.

Keep your eyes closed just for a few more minutes.

Maybe putting your hands on your heart if they are not on your heart.

Or you can just take them,

Put them by your side or put them on your lap.

But just noticing what you feel in this moment.

Maybe you feel some tears.

Maybe you feel some joy.

Maybe you feel some happiness.

Maybe you feel some confusion,

Some pain,

Some sorrow,

Some grief.

Whatever you notice,

Just notice it with compassion.

This is where you are right now.

This is a valid response to whatever you just experienced.

It is also important for your integration process.

This is you reconnecting to yourself,

To your heart,

To your inner child,

And especially with love.

This is you coming home to yourself and sometimes there's pain,

Sometimes there's hurt and disappointment,

Frustration,

Confusion in our hearts.

But know that this will subside as you continue to heal,

As you continue to reconnect and establish a relationship with your inner child,

With your heart.

Now thanking yourself for doing this meditation.

Thanking your inner child for showing up.

And whenever you're ready you can slowly open your eyes.

And I have some journal prompts for you to write about your experience,

To integrate,

To process it.

I'm going to go to that now.

Reviews

Nameste 🙏

Great! Thank you.