All right,
Please let me formally invite you both to get comfortable,
Maybe seated side by side,
And to allow yourselves to make any adjustments in how you're sitting to maximize relaxation and to slowly close your eyes.
Let's begin to develop a deeper level of comfort,
Focusing on your breath as it goes in and goes out.
Breathe into yourself more relaxation with the awareness that your partner is sitting next to you,
Having a similar but different experience.
You are sitting here separately and together,
Wondering how to set feelings of upset aside and reconnect to the loving,
Compassionate,
And passionate emotions that reside within.
The conscious mind may question this,
But as each of you have said,
You still have great commitment to the relationship.
And that fact alone will get you one step closer to having a more profound experience in your life journey.
And as you are here beside one another,
You can allow yourselves to move deeper into calmness and allow that calm to pervade your whole body.
You may become aware of a longing in you to connect with your partner like you did in the past.
Perhaps you can remember a time when there was an easiness between you,
An effortless flow that was natural,
So natural that being together was what you wanted to do when you came home.
You might remember how you delighted in your partner's smile and your experience that they wanted to be with just you.
Perhaps you can remember a time when your partner was so engaged with you when you talked with them about something,
How they doted on every word and thought you were simply brilliant.
The sense of respect and appreciation danced between you and you experienced a vibrant love in your body and mind.
So your minds may tell you what you either need to forgive or let go of to recover those warm feelings.
When you calm your mind and breathe more easily,
A perspective shifts.
You begin to remember your connection heart to heart.
It is only a habit of mind to suffer and blame the other.
When you feel afraid,
The mind begins to run.
But when you are calm,
Your nervous system,
Something profound occurs,
You begin to remember,
You begin to wonder.
Can you have more fluidity in the relationship?
Can you expand your awareness and consciousness into greater acceptance of yourself?
Can you slow the movies in the mind and focus on space in just a moment as I instruct how to accomplish that process?
Can you,
In fact,
Forgive the other and begin to appreciate again why you are together and what you receive from one another?
So just now,
Allow yourself to move into a deeper place of mind down beneath any worry and know that your unconscious mind has the ability to problem solve without your conscious activity now.
Focus on a deeper comfort that you both have the ability to achieve together and separately.
In fact,
There is a pool of self-compassion deeper inside you.
When you reach this place inside,
You may want to dip your toes into it or jump completely in and enjoy this place of inner sanctuary that regenerates and replenishes.
Take a moment and,
With your eyes closed,
Focus on the imaginary space between your eyes and your head.
And slowly shift and focus on the imaginary space between your ears and your head.
Now move your attention outside yourself and focus on the space between the walls in this room.
Gently move the attention to the space above the building you are sitting in.
Now move your attention to the space between Earth and the moon.
Move your attention to the imaginary space in the galaxy and now the universe.
Can you begin to let go of the idea that there should be no tension,
Conflict,
Or trouble ever in your relationship,
But that whatever comes up is merely an expression of a need in the moment that deserves a different kind of attention,
A wider focus?
Allow yourself to remember a time in the past when you looked at each other and saw the best in your partner.
What did you notice then?
And please understand those qualities are still there.
It is like noticing a tree growing in the yard.
The tree expands its roots deep into the soil over time and grows almost imperceptibly.
Noticing from time to time the amazing beauty of this gift,
Of nature,
While feeling more calm and relaxed as this can and will be a ritual that you both can develop.
And then when you begin feeling upset about something,
Your mind can gently ask,
Why is this a problem?
Your partner very well may be a legitimate complaint that needs a different behavior by the other,
But everything can be negotiated if you still have deep feelings and sparks for each other.
And you can re-spark your relationship when you move into a deeper space of appreciation for the person you deeply love.
And when you understand the vulnerabilities that your partner brings into the relationship,
You can focus on the genuine,
Pleasant aspects of your partner while you have this time together.
Is it the way they look at you?
Is it the way they laugh at your jokes or listen to your deepest dreams and desires?
And as you contemplate these ideas,
It is nice to be reminded,
Is it not?
It is expansive to renew the mind,
To remind your mind that you can reconnect.
You can set upset aside.
You can work things out with kindness and place your relationship,
Once again,
First.
And perhaps you both can imagine your most optimal mental state.
That state might be calm,
Courage,
Connected,
Confidence,
Or persistence.
Invite your mind to enter this state now.
And being in your optimal mental states together,
I wonder if you can begin to feel a flow between you.
I don't know exactly how you might experience the flow and balance,
But you can notice it now.
And in a moment,
Allow yourselves to return to the room.
As you come back,
You can realize how both of you are sitting here together,
Having had an experience together.
And perhaps you would find it interesting to understand what it was like for your partner.
And in your own time,
Slowly allow your consciousness to return to the space where you began,
Wriggling your toes and fingers,
Your neck and your head and shoulders,
Feeling your body back in this place,
And slowly opening your eyes.
