Unpacking Perfectionism

While it's natural to want to do our best, perfectionism causes us to be overly self-critical and can hold us back from what we truly want.

Perfectionism is exhausting, impossible, unsustainable, and, driven by the fear of not being good enough, is detrimental to your sense of worth.

Listen to this episode to learn about:

1. The root causes of perfectionism

2. Practical steps you can take to overcome it

3. How to reframe perfectionist thoughts

Reviews

Very thought provoking. I’ve never considered myself a perfectionist because my family always told me i failed so i would try even harder. Now I don’t know how to feel my emotions and enjoy myself. I feel like I need to explain myself to them.
My brother and I are trying to take care of my Mom (94) and yet we were both raised by alcoholic parents. My brother denies it but I’m in Al-Anon. I think he’s terrified that he would then have to face that he’s an alcoholic too because he was quite a drinker until he hit me several times in a drunken rage, and after I called the cops, they took him away. I had the wherewithal to record on my phone part of his rant so I won’t dismiss it because they are superior at gaslighting me.
Since my youth, my family always said I did everything wrong. With your program, it’s not all my fault. I look forward to the rest of your episodes.
Blessings to you.
Warmly, Anne

You explained this topic so well. I learned a lot. Thank you.

Incredibly insightful, and I appreciate the self talk tips. Thank you for this!🌸

Alghough I was aware of this, now it mskes more senss than ever. Thank you!

Thank you. I am struggling with this. I had never seen it as a problem before but now I have to learn a language and it's suddenly very clear I have a big issue to address. I study but cannot speak then I give up. Then start again and hit the wall again because I can't speak. The shame is excruciating and everyone around me is saying Oh just get on with it. This was a helpful talk, I will listen again. I didn't have a safe childhood so know the source but just can't break free. Thank you for this, at least now I understand what the issue is and that I could stop sabotaging myself with a bit more self love and compassion.