Sacred Endings

When love ends, it's all the little things that go along with that loss. There is no one to send the small things to or the funny thing you saw, the song that reminded you of a memory you shared. You are fluent in a language you created with them that feels like you can no longer speak. I know this place, I have stood in it myself, in more than one version of my life. The grief is not something to distract yourself from. Your grief is your guide. After a breakup, there can be so much energy expended trying to outrun heartbreak. Along with so many extremes, maybe eating badly or eating nothing at all. We call friends at midnight and tell the story again, slightly differently, hoping this time it will make sense. We download apps with a zest to begin life differently this time. We read books that confirm our hurts. We make lists of everything that was wrong with them. Filling time, very busy not feeling what we are actually feeling. Underneath all of that, something quiet and important is waiting. Sacred Endings is an invitation to spinning, analyzing or ruminating over the heartbreak. This is not a course about getting over it faster, as if there was a way to do that. What you want, underneath the wanting it to stop hurting, is to understand what went wrong. To understand what you need in your loving connections, to reveal what you learned about yourself in loving this person. To explore what patterns are being asked to finally put down. What I have learned, from my own heartbreaks and from watching countless others move through theirs. Every ending is also a revelation. If you are willing to shine light on what the grief leads you to and actually feel it, you will find something underneath it that has been waiting your entire life for your attention. This course will support you there, with a great deal of compassion for how hard this actually is. The love story isn't over. It is just becoming something different now, something that belongs entirely to you.