Thank you for joining me.
I'm Michelle Bradley,
Certified exercise physiologist and health coach.
I'd like to share with you a very effective form of communication that allows someone to let you know exactly how best to communicate with them.
You can also let others know how best to communicate with you.
The word LET is an acronym for Listen,
Empathy,
And Thoughts.
If you are suffering or see someone suffering,
It is difficult to know how best to be there for that person and provide comfort.
Saying the words LET me know how best to communicate with you or LET me tell you what I need right now,
This can clarify and provide space for understanding.
L stands for Listen,
Just Listen.
With your whole body paying attention and hearing the other person's words,
Listening to understand and comprehend what is being said,
You do not say anything.
You convey how much you care with your body language,
Your eyes,
And your demeanor.
You are fully present with the person and they can see that you are open to what they are saying.
Uncross your arms,
Lean forward,
Make comfortable eye contact.
There is no need to comment.
Your presence and paying attention is enough.
You are providing a safe space for that person to share with you and feel heard.
Sometimes that is all that is required for the suffering to ease.
There may be a desire for more than just listening and that is E,
Which stands for empathy.
This is setting aside judgment and finding ways for the person to know you understand,
You are hearing them,
And you care.
This can be saying words like,
I see that you are hurting.
Would you like a hug?
I believe in you.
I care.
I'm sorry you are experiencing this.
You can repeat what they have told you with understanding.
I would be sad too if that happened to me.
Show them with your body language and your words that you care.
You do not need to solve the problem or find solutions.
You are just a loving presence that is with them in their low moment.
Finally,
There may be a desire for sharing and that is T,
Which stands for thoughts.
First,
Ask permission.
Would you like me to share my thoughts on this?
We all have some valuable life experiences that have helped us overcome difficulty in our lives.
Sharing your experience and how you made it to the other side can be helpful.
Lessons you have learned or ways you have found to ease difficult times are valuable insights.
Try to come across not as an expert but as someone who understands,
Who can be supportive and encouraging,
And offer up some thoughts on what might ease the suffering.
If this is done with a compassionate heart,
Your sharing will be well received.
Just knowing the acronym LET,
Listen,
Empathy,
Thoughts,
And keeping it in mind when you are having a conversation will put people at ease and welcome your company.
Because everyone wants for someone to listen fully,
Show empathy,
And compassionately share their thoughts that could bring comfort or demonstrate understanding.
This communication style can be used with your partner,
Your kids,
Family,
Friends,
And anyone you come in contact with.
Say the words,
Let me know how best to communicate with you.
Would you like me to just listen,
Show empathy,
Or share my thoughts,
Or any combination?
I want to be here for you in whatever way you need.
Or,
Let me share with you how best to be with me right now.
And then share with them the LET acronym.
Having those around you know the acronym will provide an environment where you can be present in a way that is desired by the person suffering or know that others can be there for you in a way that is supportive and welcome.
I'm Michelle Bradley and I appreciate that you have taken the time to listen.
I wish you wellness.
