Separating Yourself From Others

This is a grounding meditation that guides you to gently separate your energy from others, helping you come back to your own center. By releasing what isn’t yours to carry, this practice supports nervous system regulation, clarity, and a deeper sense of internal safety.

Transcript

Welcome to Day 10 of the Mid-Year Reset here on Insight Timer,

Your daily moment to pause,

Reflect,

And return to yourself.

Consistency is where real change begins.

Enjoy today's session.

Hello.

My name is Mark Groves,

And I am an expert in the space of relationships and human connection.

And so,

As you arrive to the sound of my voice,

Just find yourself settling in your seat or laying on your back and just feeling your body connected to the earth,

Closing your eyes,

Taking a deep breath in.

Yeah,

And just arriving here in this moment.

This meditation is about separating yourself from others,

About taking your energy back and also giving other people theirs back.

Our nervous system is constantly surveying for safety,

For security,

And that comes from a really beautiful place.

Maybe the world hasn't been safe for you.

Maybe you've had relationship experiences that have left you both over-pursuing other people and leaving your own center.

Deep breath into that.

Or becoming hyper-attuned to the feelings,

Thoughts,

And emotional states of other people and not allowing yourself your own experience.

And breathing into that truth,

Too.

And as you hear my voice,

Feeling your energy stirring in your being,

Maybe putting a hand on your heart and one on your gut.

Just breathing into your hands.

And feeling the world happening around you,

Feeling the noise,

The to-do lists,

The conversations that need to happen or have happened.

Just letting all of that exist as you imagine a green orb existing around your body.

And inside that orb is only what you allow.

It's only things that bring your body peace.

And as you imagine that orb surrounding your body,

That you can see the people who hook into you,

The tasks that you have,

The addictions you may have.

Maybe it's notifications on your phone.

But you can see them outside of the green orb and inside this space is peace.

And you can feel yourself wanting to reach out of it,

To leave it.

And other people wanting to reach in.

Maybe it's to-do lists and just this constant momentum of doing,

Doing,

Doing.

And not trying to change any of that because it exists,

But rather breathing deeply into the acknowledgement of these things.

When was the last time you let yourself exist without these things hooked into you?

When was the last time that you got to keep your hypersensitivity and hypervigilance in your own being?

Recognizing that every time that you have to figure out what other people want and need,

You've put your own wants and needs second,

Third,

Or fourth.

Just breathing into that.

Recognizing the grief of that.

That as you sit or lay here with your eyes closed,

That you call your energy back.

That you could feel it like a fishing rod with the lure hooked into other people.

That you take it out and you reel it back in.

That you can feel your energy start to restore back into your body.

That as you recognize that you've let other people decide how you feel,

What you think,

What you're going to do with your life,

That you feel those recoil and move outside of the green protective layer.

That in this space,

There's a recognition of a stand that you are taking for yourself.

For the way you love,

For the way you want to live,

For the passions and dreams that you have,

For the purpose you want to step into or deepen your commitment to.

That in this space,

You can feel the ways in which that you have made your life about other people.

And as you acknowledge that,

You say,

I have so much compassion for where that comes from.

But I am ready to take my energy back.

That in some ways,

I have to mind my own business.

That in the pursuit of taking care of everyone,

I have forgotten about me.

Or even the identity that there's something wrong with me that needs to be fixed,

Resolved.

Just breathing into that.

That is your turn to take up space,

To stand in your power,

To stand in your sovereignty.

And recognizing that today,

You're going to make your way through the world as you.

Carrying this green orb around you,

Noticing the feeling in your body when someone tries to penetrate it or does.

Or when you reach outside of yourself into others.

That you become a master of balancing your own energy.

You become a master of feeling into the ways in which you violate your own values to maintain connection or you sabotage connection.

In order to protect yourself.

And recognizing that all of those things are perfect as they are.

Yet,

You desire different.

Today is the beginning of different.

Today,

You will remember yourself.

Taking a deep breath in.

Feeling the support of the earth and the energy moving up through your feet,

Through the back of your body,

Up through the top of your head.

Feeling whole,

Feeling complete.

Your body feeling enlivened,

Energized,

Vital.

Trusting you to protect and preserve your life force.

Take a deep breath in.

And just coming back to this moment.

Ready to take on this day.

Letting everyone have their energy back and you taking yours back.

Have a beautiful day.

Reviews

I love this thinking about the giving of energy and how one can become hyper vigilant about others feels so very pertinent . You offer lots to think about and be aware of. Thank you.

This helped me immensely! I feel like I’ve got my power back on

What I needed to hear

I love this meditation! It is such an easy, and so very helpful method! Thank you! 🙏✨🦋✨

Awesome 😎

Excellent — soothing, eye-opening, relaxing, and centering. Thank you! I just listened to this short meditation again and intend to return to it every now and then.

Listened to this and thought of my wife. Nine minutes of simple truth and wisdom, all the more so in the social media/iPhone world. Brilliant. Wife signed up to I.T. after listening to it. 🤙🙏

Amazing

Done in such a beautiful and honoring way! Thank you.

This appeared in the Challenge right when I needed it to be. It could not have been written into my script any better. I’m doing this one on repeat for awhile to lay down new neural pathways that promote Peace. Thank you. 💝

I so needed that. Thank you.🙏🏾

This is very supportive. Thank you! 🙏😀

Engaging!

I've been thinking about this a lot lately. I realised that I've spent my entire life living this way. I keep hoping I'll get the courage to be authentic. I'll definitely be revisiting this. Thank you.

Thank you 🙏

I love this meditation. I did it twice to soak in the beauty of it my first time. Thank you! 🙏💖

It struck me your comment on doing doing doing , early in recovery a continuous journey since 1988, that once again I need to be “A human being not a human doing. Thanks for your gentle reminder.

New follower here. Will be anxiously awaiting further content. Love my self love green orb. I got this meditation loud & clear. Thank you again. Setting my intention now.

Thank you 🙏 for sharing ❤️

Thank you for this. I found it very grounding and remembering the peace within 🧡