Build The Confidence That Is Within You

Gain your confidence back with this guided meditation, feel positive and remove any negative blocks holding you back in your own life. Bring your self esteem to the forefront allowing to make clear decisions and being determined in your choices. This guided meditation can also be used at bedtime for sleep and relaxation to allow your body and mind to drift off into any much needed rest.

Transcript

Hello there.

I'm so happy to have the opportunity to guide you.

So let's begin.

You desire to build the confidence that's within you.

You want to be able to meet new people in public.

You want to approach others without being afraid.

And you desire to get back to being truly you.

And to feel valuable and be admired in the community.

And in order to do this,

You must become relaxed and then focus on what it is you really want and need in your life.

It is up to you to dedicate the time and make the necessary efforts towards your goals.

So say firmly to yourself now,

My intent is to be fully confident in social settings.

Approaching new people with ease.

Feeling welcomed by everyone.

I know I am valuable.

So I desire to feel valuable in society.

In order to do this,

I honestly compliment others and admire them.

So that they in turn admire me.

So get into a very comfortable position and make sure you will not be disturbed.

So let's take three big deep breaths together Good.

Begin by slowly blinking your eyes.

And with each number I say,

Blink once.

Ten,

Nine,

Eight,

Seven,

Six,

Five,

Four,

Three,

Two,

One,

And zero.

Allow your eyes to gently close and when you do this you feel a wave of relaxation sweep over you.

Now I'd like for you to focus only on the sensations at the top of your head.

Just notice how the very top of your head feels.

And now let your focus move down to your eyes and in your forehead.

Any little movement in your eyes is called rapid eye movement and it is completely normal.

These small eye movements allow for you to feel calm.

Notice how the back of your head feels right now and the surface that it is touching.

How heavy does your head feel right now?

Let your focus move now to your nose and feel the slight sensations of the air moving in and out with your breath.

When you breathe in,

Imagine that you're being filled with calmness.

And when you breathe out,

Imagine your body feels heavy and deeply relaxed.

Good.

Now focus on your ears and how they feel and what they hear around you.

Try to hear every single noise.

When sounds come into your ears,

They act as little waves of relaxation taking you deeper.

And notice the sound of my voice and how soothing it is.

From here forward,

You can only hear my voice guiding you and all other sounds passing through only take you deeper into a state of calmness.

And now notice your mouth.

What do you notice?

Can you sense the flavor of something you recently tasted?

Or perhaps imagine biting into a fruit and notice how your mouth waters.

Very good.

And move your focus down your neck and if there's any tension there,

Just ask it to release a little and notice how your neck feels and just feel all of the sensations in your neck.

Now focus on your shoulders,

Moving your attention slowly going down each arm,

Down all the way to each fingertip.

What are your fingertips touching right now?

Feel the sensations on your fingertips.

Nice.

Allow your focus to go to your chest and relax this area as well as relaxing your upper back.

And if you notice any tension,

Just ask it nicely to release a little bit.

Now imagine you're focusing on your heart and feeling it beating strongly,

Supporting you.

Relax your heart and notice how good it feels to do so.

And now focusing on your lungs,

Feel them gently expanding and contracting with your breath,

Delivering oxygen to your body,

Allowing your focus to move down to your vital organs and digestive system.

Just notice your belly and how it feels.

Just observe it working and digesting.

Noticing your lower back now and feeling how it presses against the surface you are on.

And if there's any tension there,

Just say,

Please relax a little bit more.

And focus on your pelvis and hips,

Noticing the sensations you're having there.

This takes you deeper into a state of relaxation,

Allowing your focus to move down each leg,

Slowly relaxing those as well.

Your legs have been taking you so many places over the years and they deserve to fully relax.

Notice this wave going over your knees and down your lower legs,

It goes all the way to your feet and to the very tip of each toe.

Good.

Now that you've relaxed your body so well,

I'm going to count down from 10 and with each descending number,

Your conscious mind will relax even more so letting go of any beliefs that hold you back from your goal.

Okay.

10,

9,

8,

7,

6,

Letting go conscious mind.

5,

4,

3,

2,

1,

0.

Good.

It's natural for your conscious mind to give less and less importance to the words that I'm saying,

Allowing your subconscious mind to be present right now.

Good.

Now I'd like for you to just allow your mind to flow and float,

Not thinking about much,

Just letting the thoughts come and go like waves coming in and going out.

I'm going to tell you something very important and you will deeply hear the words that I have to say to you and they will affect your life for the better.

You are completely aware at every level of your mind and even though your body may feel asleep,

These things that I'm going to tell you will build healthy relationships with new people into ones that are fulfilling for you both.

Here are the basics in cultivating a healthy relationship.

It is important to care about yourself,

But others must be cared for as well.

You become to appreciate yourself when you care for others and others care for you for appreciating them.

This is healthy and important in romantic relationships,

But especially in all relationships.

You desire to be fully confident,

So you put in the work necessary to do so.

When you meet someone new and are building a friendship,

The first step in caring for them is to ask them about their day.

Ask them what they like and dislike.

Ask about their concerns and when they tell you these things,

Ask them even more about what they're telling you.

You can say things like,

Oh that's interesting,

Could you tell me more about that?

And look into their eyes and really listen to what they are saying to you.

When you notice something that you value in another,

You compliment them honestly and openly.

Great.

The second step in bringing out your inner confidence is taking action.

Taking action in things you enjoy doing and also finding new things for you to plan and prepare for.

Perhaps you can cook dinner for a new friend or two soon,

Inviting them over and offering some delicious finger foods that you've prepared prior to their arrival.

And then cooking dinner together and sharing the duties of dishes afterwards.

Ask them what their favorite food is and make that.

These new relationships are very important to you and you will do everything you can to value others,

Which makes you feel valuable too.

And lastly,

The third step to having full confidence again is that from now on you think,

Walk,

Act,

And feel genuinely and deeply like you.

Your true inner self shines with your posture,

Your expressions,

And your energy radiates confidence.

Now hear yourself saying,

I have great confidence in social settings and I approach new people with ease.

I have found myself again by fully accepting others and admiring them.

Others admire me because I exude confidence and compliment them honestly.

I am welcomed in new situations and it is easy for me to just go with the social flow.

Others value me because I greatly value myself.

Even though I felt I had lost part of myself,

I know that I am fully whole and complete and that there is nothing to regain.

All I need to do is practice new habits towards my goals.

I am completely confident to approach others and all fears have left me permanently.

And just notice how you feel.

Good.

You did such a good job today.

So let's come back to wakeful awareness and bring back all with you that you have learned today.

One.

Coming back now.

Two.

Feeling refreshed.

Three.

Four.

Five.

Six.

Breathing in good energy.

Seven.

Eight.

Bringing back all that you have learned today.

Nine.

And ten.

Welcome back.

Good job today.

Thank you.

Reviews

Thanks Loula that was really well thought out and helpful.

I used this for sleep and it was very effective. In addition it is powerful in helping with confidence. Thank you.

The perfect meditation to do before social situations when I’m feeling anxious. Thank you Loula 💖💜

Powerful meditation. Thank you so much. 🤗