People Pleasing Is A Survival Response

Just like fight/ flight/ freeze, fawning is a survival response. It is not an indication of our worth.
We please and appease to protect ourselves and also because we feel we can’t take the risk or afford to be rejected. There can be serious consequences if we stand up to a bully. A fawning response is intimately linked with social, financial, emotional and other types of power. Women fawn more than men and are harshly criticized and condemned when they are not compliant. We feel disgust and contempt for people who fawn. Others shame us and we shame ourselves for being weak and manipulative. We feel humiliated. When I catch myself people pleasing or being compliant, I know I feel a threat and have gone into a survival response. I fawn because of my past experience. I feel compassion for myself and offer myself support and caring

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I found this very insightful however for me it was a talk not a meditation. Thank you all the same 🙏🏻

It was a little difficult for me to settle into because of the "talking;" I wondered if I accidentally selected a talk instead of a meditation. But, once the meditation really began and I settled in..... I am looking forward to putting this meditation on repeat this month.

This was amazing. So much valuable information here. Thank you.

Listen to Stephen Schettini also. Growth occurs at the fringes… a small shift always helps

This is eye-opening. Fight, flight, freeze or fawn. Fawning is something I've done throughout my life and in most of my relationships. It's definitely my way to avoid conflict but it gets to be very frustrating and exhausting at times. Thank you for bringing me the awareness of what my lifelong "people pleasing" actually means.