Step Into Wholeness Through Healing Your Heart - Talk

In todays episode I help you remember who you really are. I help you return to your childlike vulnerability through breaking the barriers that keep you from love, hope, innocence, freedom, joy and expansion.

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Welcome your host Aida with today's topic.

Hello wonderful!

Today we're going to be talking about eight different elements that we inherently possess when we're children and how we either completely lose them or they start to diminish as soon as we start to become adults.

The way that I picture these eight different elements are sort of like little buckets like eight different buckets and each bucket is either full,

Empty,

Or goes up and down.

This is a useful way to visualize them because it'll help you become more aware of where you stand in each one of them and how full your bucket is or how empty your bucket is based on the different elements and also based on where you stand right now in life.

So the eight elements that I'm going to be talking about is love,

Imagination,

Freedom,

Hope,

Dreams,

Joy,

Innocence,

And vulnerability.

These eight elements are within us when we're children and they're like always shining with us and then as we grow up to be adults each one of them is replaced with an adult version of it and it's not usually a positive one.

It actually usually weighs us down.

So I'm going to start with love.

Like whenever we're children our first instinct is to love our parents.

Our first instinct is to love whoever takes care of us,

Whoever is around us,

And whoever we spend time around and we feel nurtured and a sense of belonging and so we just when we come into this world we just we want to love.

That's one of our basic core needs and desires is love.

As we get older and as we start aging the people that we love we feel like they betray us or we're left out and so love starts turning into like resentment and anger.

It seems to me like when the bucket is full then you're in then you're acting out of love and then when the bucket is kind of empty then you're acting out of resentment and anger and so that's the first bucket that I'm gonna cover is love because when we're children when we're young we we're just created to love and then as we age and as we start feeling betrayal and hurt then we start having resentment and anger and so it's the same bucket it's just either full of love or low of love and that leads to resentment and anger.

Moving on to the next bucket we're gonna talk now about imagination.

So when we're young and we're children we're just kind of more carefree and our imagination runs wild and we use our imagination very frequently because we want to imagine a lot of magical things that we believe in and as we start growing older our imagination is replaced with to-do lists like I have to do this I have to do that so imagination is kind of like left in the back burner and so when your bucket of imagination is running low more than likely you have a lot of to-do list and you have a lot to take care of and you're not really taking the time to imagine or dream or believe or anything like that so that's the next bucket is our imagination.

I feel when we're like really young our imagination is at a record high and then as we age it just hits like a record low because it almost feels like we forget how to access it and how that it's within us and we kind of forget about it.

After that I'm gonna talk about freedom.

So when we're children we kind of have a sense of freedom,

We're carefree,

There's not a lot to worry about so we just kind of live life in a carefree way and space to wander,

Space to be flexible,

Space to play so it's like this freedom that comes with being a child and as we get older then all that freedom is replaced by responsibilities.

So now you've got to pay for the rent,

Now you've got to take care of the bills,

You've got to get a job,

All these things and obviously I'm not saying that you are not to take a job and take care of your responsibilities but doing so in a way that you still feel a sense of freedom is something that could be very empowering and finding that harmony between the two and making sure that your bucket is full and that you still feel freedom but you're still taking care of your responsibilities because you don't want to completely run away from responsibilities in order to feel freedom but then at the same time you don't want to completely be locked down by everything you need to do and then not feel freedom.

Moving on to the next one let's talk about hope.

So when you're young and when you're a child you hope a lot.

You have high hopes that when you grow up you're gonna be this and you're gonna be that and as you grow up and become an adult a lot of your hope turns into a dread so your bucket is full of hope and then over time it just kind of diminishes and then now you're like dreading so a lot of the things that you used to hope for you kind of dread now like it used to look shiny and bright and colorful and now it kind of looks dark and black and white and shadowy so we kind of lose our hope and I think some of that is because we encounter failures we encounter challenges in life that feel really heavy and so a lot of our hope starts kind of going away and instead of hoping we dread we dread that this is gonna happen instead of hoping that it's gonna be well and it's gonna bring joy and happiness to our life we kind of dread it and be like oh that's just one more thing that I have to do now.

I think the main challenge with hope is to still believe and still feel like there's magic in the world and in your life and sometimes it seems like there's not but when we completely lose that and we completely lose hope and things to get better then it really puts us in a very very challenging place.

Now hope is very related to the next one which is dreams.

Whenever we're young we just feel like we have so many dreams we have so many aspirations and desires and things we want to strive for and wish to attain and I think over time as we encounter failure and frustration and other negative emotions as we're trying to go towards our dreams then over time our dreams just become like emptiness and brokenness and like almost like broken promises that we try to keep to ourselves but now they're broken and empty so our dreams just become this like barren field with no promises with no hope and the more full that our bucket is about dreams and hope then the happier we'll generally be and then whenever our dream bucket is very low and we feel broken and empty and unfulfilled then that's when the dread comes and that's when we start feeling like life is just dragging us through it instead of us enjoying it and feeling happy and uplifted which brings us to the next part which is joy.

Whenever we're younger we feel joy and I'm just saying younger as in like when you're a child and joy is one of the most full buckets because you have joy because joy comes naturally when you have love and imagination and hope and dreams and freedom like joy is just like gonna come naturally but whenever those things are taken away or the buckets are really low then joy is really challenging to experience because you're so defensive so joy is really replaced by defensiveness and protecting ourselves protecting ourselves from losing love protecting ourselves from losing our freedom protecting ourselves from losing all the other things that we really value instead of experiencing joy we experience defensiveness we experience reluctance because we're too blocked up we have so many walls against everything that we feel that we've lost or haven't attained that our just our defensiveness builds all these walls against everything we want and so whenever you are open you can feel joy but whenever there's a lot of blockage a lot of walls a lot of different defensive mechanisms then those things keep us from joy and all the other great exciting things in our life along with joy I feel that a part of that is we lose our sense of innocence so whenever we're younger we were children and we feel like we're protected and taken care of then then we don't really have a sense to like protect ourselves so there's a sense of innocence of pureness our intentions are clean and pure and we're not out to get anyone because no one's out to get us either so our innocence is there and we're more in a sense of coming out of our truth and our deeper self because we haven't really been hurt to the degree that we don't have that innocence and so we're a little bit naive we're a little bit blind to the negative and the evil and the darkness that is in the world because we really haven't experienced very much of it so we're really coming from a place of innocence but as we grow older and as we face challenges and fail and encounter people that try to hurt us then our intentions are not innocent anymore when they're not really clean anymore now we're doing it from a different place and it's more deceit I feel like the innocence is replaced by deceit but not the deceit towards other people but like self-deceit we deceive ourselves we feel that our intentions need a change in order for us to get what we want and so we don't act from a sense of innocence anymore we kind of act from a sense of deceit to ourselves and to other people because now we're trying to protect ourselves and prevent getting hurt or things taken away from us so when our bucket is full we're more innocent and we feel more joy and when our bucket is lower there's more deceit and lies and defensiveness whenever we're low on these seven buckets love imagination freedom hope dreams joy and innocence we really harden like we become hard to protect ourselves from further loss and so the bucket that I feel is impacted the most is our vulnerability we're not vulnerable anymore as we as we get older because we've become so hard to try to protect ourselves so our vulnerability is replaced by hardening and blockage and walls and we build these different layers of hardening around ourselves to protect us to keep ourselves safe and to feel that we have some control over the chaos of the world because we feel very threatened we feel like taking all these things that we love and enjoy they've all been taken away from us and it's not like the world decides to take these away from you purposely it's the world is testing you to see how much adversity does it take for you to give up on your on love how much adversity does it take for you to give up on your dreams how much adversity does it take for you to give up on your hope and your joy and your imagination and your freedom because it fits a lot then you're gonna still be hanging on strong and as you're getting older you're still gonna be like a child at heart but if you give up easily and things just knock you down pretty quickly then all of your buckets are gonna be really really empty or really really low and then you'll feel so dragged down and like life is just this struggle and when all your buckets are like halfway full or even fuller than that then you feel more uplifted and you feel that life is more enjoyable so I would encourage you to get a piece of paper and write each of these down write love imagination freedom hope dreams joy innocence and vulnerability and I would rate where you are on a scale of one through ten so for example I'm love how is your love bucket is your love bucket really full like are you experiencing wonderful relationships and a sense of belonging and community and everything is free-flowing or are you more on the lower end where you're feeling like a two or three because you have a lot of anger and resentment and judgment towards people that you love but have also hurt you so do that for each of the buckets all the different ones and kind of see where you're at on all the different ones and you'll start to notice a certain pattern and see wait my hope is really low my freedom is really low and so is my innocence or vulnerability how can I bring those buckets to a higher level so that it can lift me up and I can feel more uplifted and joyful and happy instead of feel like dragged down and frustrated by life I hope this gives you some insight on where you are on where you stand and how you can reconnect with your inner child because you already have all these things and they're already inside of you and you can access them but you have so many blockages and so much hardening that it doesn't feel like they're easy to access anymore but they're still there everyone has love in their in their heart everyone has imagination everyone has the capacity to feel freedom and hope and dream and feel joy and innocence and vulnerability everybody has these already within themselves that we can access but not being aware of whether they're high or low will keep us wondering what's wrong and why we don't feel happy or fulfilled so I encourage you to rate yourself and to see where you're standing and this could give you a little bit of insight on what you need to work on and what you need to let go of and what kind of blockages you need to start releasing so you don't live so defensive and a life of resentment and responsibilities and dread and brokenness and blockage and hardening and you start living more out of the inner child of yourself and who you really truly are that has been kind of like suppressed and hidden for so long thank you so much for tuning in today I hope that these eight different elements can help you elevate your life and state of being and state of feeling and hoping and loving and dreaming and all that wonderful exciting stuff have a fabulous wonderful day and I'll see you again next time thank you for joining us today don't forget to subscribe 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Reviews

Need to repeat- good basis Integral Cleaning Up. Gentle examination of 8 childhood aspects and how they show up altered in adults. Time to Unshield

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Such useful information. Thank you so much for sharing your insight and wisdom x

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