Transforming Your Insecurities

This powerful meditation will help you identify, overcome, and transform your insecurities. With Lou's gentle guidance, you will learn how to highlight projections, reclaim your power, and feel more freedom in body and mind.

Transcript

Hello Welcome to this insight timer premium track my name is Lou Redman and today's practice is really powerful and will help you learn how to identify your insecurities and then how to overcome and Transform them now.

We have many many insecurities and in many ways our transformational journey is rooting them out to feel more secure to feel more whole and To highlight the practice that we're gonna do I'm gonna share just a quick Introduction and story into how this showed up in my life I was at a retreat and I was with a group of people and at this retreat The type of people that goes on it tends to be a lot of therapists They're doing their own healing work and this sort of modality this breath work that we do a lot of therapists use for themselves and they also get trained in it and so I was the only coach and I noticed myself when I expressed that I was a coach and I was using this work to continue to do my own work I noticed this insecurity show up and Then there was this one woman who I projected had a lot of status she had been breathing for 18 years and she was around my age and there was the things that happened during the time of our retreat where I felt like she Didn't like me and what I was projecting.

I was projecting this judgment that She thinks I'm less than Because I am a coach She doesn't think that I can really help people or she sees coaching as this Unregulated Wild West and that she is more official.

She is more credentialed She is more wise whatever might be because she is a licensed therapist these were my projections and in sitting with this more I realized that regardless of what she believes or not because I never found out anything of what she believes that There was a part of me that the insecurity is in me that I don't feel fully secure in my own coaching my own training my own practice and There was a part of me Part of me that wasn't okay that I'm just a coach so it wasn't her She was just a mirror for my in Security and so in figuring that out then I can go in and say well,

What's the part of me?

That's not okay with just being a coach What's that about and then that leads me into my own learning and I can transform that part And so that's what we're gonna do in today's Practice you're gonna identify Through someone whom you might imagine doesn't like you you're gonna identify an insecurity And then we're gonna work on Transforming that and just giving you more awareness so you can be more empowered in your life All right So moving into our meditation doing whatever you need to really settle into your body Feel the support beneath you the chair the cushion allow your lower body to get heavy let your hands rest in a place that feels supportive that feels relaxed Bring your shoulders over your hips and let the shoulders drop down Lengthen the back of your neck feeling a supported and grounded lower body and a alert Receptive upper body and inviting a softness inviting relaxation to any parts of your body that Are calling for it and allowing a few moments of awareness on your breath to further slow down drop in to our practice and Before we get into the core of the work today.

I'd like to invite us to Continue this grounding by grounding and gratitude and so simply Bringing the awareness on one thing in your life And you can feel some gratitude for and it might just be gratitude for Showing up in the willingness to do this work or it might be whatever comes family friends opportunities just drop in To your heart and to the center of your being and see if you can let some gratitude Radiate out from there allowing it to grow and then let's take a conscious breath in together letting that go diving into this work today a big part of our journey is rooting out our insecurities and It's often the people whom we don't think like us or are judging us that highlight our insecurities and so Imagine a person in your life who you feel Doesn't like you or who you feel Judges you in some way.

Maybe it creates fear Insecurity when you are around that might be a co-worker a colleague family member It might be someone you only know on social media or might be a close friend to bring them in your awareness And just to note this person may not in fact like you and that's not the point because the issue is You not them and if you have resistance to that I want to encourage you to stay with this There's something to learn here.

And so as you bring them into your awareness notice what that does to your body What sensations do you feel?

Is anything tighten?

Does anything close?

Does your heartbeat change?

What emotion?

Shows up as you imagine this person and just being with whatever's here breathing into it and then what I invite you to do is To list the reasons you think they don't like you and so maybe you say them out loud Maybe you just list them in your head.

Maybe you imagine that you're writing them down somewhere What are the reasons that you think they don't like me and they don't like me because I'm more successful Than them because I have a better relationship than them.

They don't like me because they think I'm too happy Or too sad they don't like me because I hang out with this person more than that person Whatever comes whatever it is for you.

And again,

Whether it's true or not It doesn't matter if it's affecting you.

It's your responsibility and so taking a moment and seeing what are those reasons you think they don't like you and If you're having a tough time finding the exact Narrative,

That's okay.

Maybe you have a few narratives that you identified And so what we're gonna do now is I'm gonna offer You to try on this Phrase that moves it from them to you Just notice how this lands let this wash over you Notice how this lands now what I'm gonna have you do is You're going to say There's a part of me and then after you say there's a part of me You're saying the things that you came up with for the reasons that they don't like you So in the examples that I used it would be There is a part of me That's not okay with being more successful than them.

There is a part of me.

That's not okay with how happy I am There's a part of me.

That's not okay that I hang out with this person more so you get the gist It's there's a part of me and then you insert that thing that you think they're judging you for or the reason that they don't like you and so Take a few moments for you to stay here and just notice What that does there's a part of me that's not okay with And if you go through them just keep Repeating keep coming back.

Keep saying them over and over again and just noticing its effects noticing if it connects if it highlights something and Also noticing if it doesn't and that's okay,

Too.

There's a part of me.

That's not okay with What you're practicing is owning a projection Bringing what the outer is bringing up through feeling that rejection or judgment or separation From that person and instead of making it the truth you stand on Making it about them You are pulling it inside and making it about you and when you do that,

That's how you transform That's really how you change.

And so can you offer?

Acceptance and Compassion for the parts of you that are not okay that are projecting out just recognize how human that this is Giving yourself some of that Self-acceptance and compassion and then we're gonna dig a little bit deeper because often other people when they stir up insecurities at the root of that insecurity is likely a Childhood imprint and so we're gonna ask what's at the root of the part of you.

That's not okay with whatever it is What does that feeling remind you of for me?

It felt like rejection or separation and Maybe you feel a younger child who was bullied or left out or was rejected And so maybe you're able to connect to a specific time in your life That this feeling is similar to and if you're not able to connect with a time I invite you to simply connect with the child within whatever age shows up as you do it and then asking that child inside Asking that younger part of you.

What does it need from you right now?

Maybe it's and I love you.

I'm here for you You're safe here.

And so just take a moment to give it anything that it needs from you right now And then letting that awareness go taking a breath with me and this last part is another way to come at transforming the insecurities that show up especially when it's around another person and that is to Offer them some loving-kindness offer them some well wishes and so imagine that person again and Reconnect with your body notice if anything's changed since the first time I had you imagine them and then Really taking your power back Maybe even proclaiming to the imagined person that this is your work to transform And you recognize that and again,

Sometimes the best way to root out those insecurities is to just give what we wish to receive And so holding that person in your awareness and then speaking these words to them.

You can say it out loud or silently or you can Just feel the energy of these words sending out to them.

May you feel fulfillment and joy may you feel love and Acceptance may you feel freedom in mind and spirit?

May you feel at home in your body?

May you feel everlasting peace do that one more may you feel fulfillment and joy?

May you feel love and acceptance?

May you feel freedom in mind and spirit?

May you feel at home in your body?

May you feel ever lasting peace and just go ahead and send that energy maybe one of those phrases or just the energy of Joy,

Whatever it is that you want to send out to them to stay with it for a few moments longer and letting it go Just taking another moment to just be in your body Notice the effects of that practice Notice what feels connected notice what feels off just welcome whatever your experience is right now Right here.

You're welcome to pause the recording and stay silent for as long as you'd like but if you're ready to come back and gently starting to Invite maybe some movement in your body opening your eyes Coming back orienting yourself to your space I thank you so much for practicing with me and being willing to explore your insecurities most people Wouldn't be willing to do that So I honor you and your willingness for this work and I'd love to hear what are the insecurities that popped up What did you notice that you think someone's judging you for but it's really something you're still judging yourself For how was this practice for you?

Leave a comment.

Let me know.

I love hearing from you if You are here on inside timer Please check out my circle lose circle.

It's a great way to stay in touch with new practices that come out new meditations Events that I'm doing and so would love to to see you there say hi And if you're interested in hearing the full version of little story that I shared in the beginning You can check out my talk learning from your triggers,

Which is another insight timer Premium track.

So thank you again.

I look forward to connecting with you very soon as always Lots of love and namaste

Reviews

Wonderful, I'm coming back to this!

I was skeptical about this practice at the beginning because I felt just in having this anger towards this other person who’s much older than I am. However as the exercise progressed I felt more at peace with the fact that this person was mirroring for me my tendency to hide my true self, my happiness, my zest for life, and my sensuality to protect others from seeing me that way. They trigger me to want to be down play how happy, sensual and feminine I feel in my body because that is something that I was always punished for as a child, adolescent and young adult. So, this practice helpful to see the root cause of that suffering. I feel a less emotional charge in my body when I think of this person after practicing the exercise. I feel compassion for them because I see how my youthfulness, happiness and positivity is triggering them because they’re not feeling that way. My deep wish is for them to feel good about themselves too no matter their age. For them to own their feminity and sensuality.

Jeez lewis

Such a powerful technique, and just what I needed this morning! Thank you for providing a tool to honor insecurities and to provide them love and kindness

So supportive. I gained real clarity during this practice.

Wow!!! Thank you! I'm loving how free I feel right now!

I dug up so much gunk: the need to forgive myself, to educate myself, to see the need to notice when the other person is actually accountable for the very thing he's judging me for, to allow myself to celebrate my successes, and to acknowledge the worth of what I have worked hard to build.

Each of the four phases you take us through in this meditation is gold. So grateful! I rarely rate meditations with 5 stars, but this one I do wholeheartedly. 🙏 🕊 💚