Hello and welcome to five minutes in nature with me Liz Scott.
In a thick thick white mist up on Dartmoor.
It's not raining at the moment but it has been raining today.
I think there has been rain recorded every day for the past 40 days.
The ground cannot take any more rain and everything that falls just gushes off the land into the streams and rivers.
It's so good to have a respite from the rain albeit I can't see much because of the mist.
And today is the final day as we explore living from love and not fear.
Don't forget there's a course living from love and not fear.
If you wanted to join that and explore this experiment a bit further then go ahead and have a look at that.
But just here in the last few days over the past seven days we've been exploring this idea of living from love and not fear and seeing what turns up daily.
And if you remember when we talk about love I guess a better way to describe it might be that settled peaceful feeling of contentment compassion rather than the emotional romantic love that you might expect that we're talking about.
So love is just feeling settled and fear is not about being scared or frightened.
Fear when we talk about it in this context means that unsettled space and it often will have a feeling of guilt or overwhelm or frustration or agitation,
Annoyance.
There are different agitated feelings that will be relating to a feeling of fear in the context of this experiment.
So ultimately you could say this is about living from peace of mind rather than agitated thought and feeling.
And today's reflection is one of me collaborating with a friend who's very different personality than me.
She is an extrovert.
She is full of ideas and strong with her opinions,
Very talkative.
And I know it's good for me to mix with people like this because I am by nature an introvert.
I'm quite quiet.
I like my own company.
I don't need to speak loudly.
And we are actually working together to create a podcast and she is absolutely on fire wanting things to happen now,
Yesterday,
As quickly as possible.
Whereas I'm like let's just be slow and steady.
Let's just be slow and steady.
And today was interesting.
We've recorded a few episodes.
We just are working out how we upload these episodes.
She said to me,
You know I really like working with you because I'm the kind of person that likes everything done yesterday.
But with you I realize the importance of being slow and steady.
And I was grateful she said that.
And I began to wonder well what is it that I am getting from working with her?
For sure there's something about working with someone who's got energy and ideas that just seem to be popping like popcorn in a pan.
It's a wonderful exciting creative space to be in.
And the other thing I realize when it comes to living from love and not fear is that my ego can be challenged when I work with someone like this.
They work at a different pace than me.
They speak differently than me.
They bat away ideas in a way that can sometimes feel as though I haven't been heard.
So for me what can happen is my ego will pipe up and I will get an unsettled feeling.
A feeling of not being good enough or a feeling of annoyance that I'm not being heard.
Or I feel like I'm being dismissed.
The temptation is always when you or I feel these feelings is to attribute those feelings to the other person.
And that's why this experiment is so good because no one can make you feel anything.
And my friend she can't make me feel these things.
All that's happening is my ego is piping up with a story of how life should be and how I should be treated and how people should behave.
And then my ego is getting annoyed when other people don't respond in the way that it thinks they should.
So living from love and not fear today is a great reminder for me to keep looking within.
To realize that it's going to be good for me to work with this friend for so many creative exciting reasons.
And also it's going to be good because I'm going to be challenged.
I'm going to be challenged when I feel that flare of insecurity to not get annoyed at her but to look within.
To find that steady place within me and to respond from that.
To have my voice heard from an authentic place.
It doesn't mean I let anyone talk over me.
It means that I am different than her and I communicate differently.
And it means not getting lost in my feelings of being put upon or being dismissed.
So that's what I'm learning from today's living from love and not fear.
