Hello and welcome to Five Minutes in Nature and this is probably going to be my final recording from Spain.
As you can hear I'm still by the Mediterranean Sea,
The waves are coming in,
There's people swimming,
Building sandcastles,
Playing football,
There's a seagull strutting its way through the waves as they lap in onto the shore.
You'll probably hear cars,
People go by,
Just the general noise of people at a seaside and of course it's very warm here in Spain but here I am in the sunshine just feeling warm from my skin and what I want to reflect on with you today is the difference between coming from your head and coming from your heart.
There's something very different about coming from your heart when you engage and communicate with someone.
I might,
Another word I might use for that is when you come from your grounding and when you come from your head and you come from your intellect and one of the participants on the retreat that we've been at here in Spain,
She was talking about being in an office full of academics and how she found it really hard to engage with them or communicate with them because she knew something deeply about herself and if you remember what we were talking about yesterday,
This aspect of you,
Which is you're deeply,
Deeply okay,
You're not broken,
Not at the level of soul,
It's impossible,
So she knows this but when she tries to explain it to her academic colleagues or when they say something that she disagrees with because she knows something different,
She finds it really hard,
As she put it,
To stay grounded.
She gets lost in her head and her thinking and this lady reflecting on what was so,
For her,
Made it really helpful to understand what also reminds me in my life about the way I connect and communicate and there are people in my life that don't really want to know what I know about mental well-being,
That it's innate,
That we are,
In essence,
We are truly well,
Healthy,
Strong,
Wise and compassionate at our core and soul.
There are people that don't want to know that,
They believe their own stuff,
They don't want to hear what I have to say and I no longer try and convince them otherwise.
Instead,
I feel as though I just stay really grounded myself and I shine as best as I can,
I just shine what I feel out into the world without trying to engage anybody's intellect or trying to convince or change anybody's mind.
And I've noticed that people change around me,
Often and not all of the time,
But people often seek me out,
People when they feel more settled might come to me and say,
Can you tell me what you see about this particular situation?
And they come to me because they know that I have the sense of calmness and settledness that I am in the world.
So for me,
Rather than try and convince anybody of anything,
For me it's just a really good reminder to come from my heart.
When I come from my heart,
I feel rock-solid and I feel as though I'm speaking from my own experience.
I'm not trying to convince anybody or give my opinion,
I am speaking from my own experience and I'm sharing what feels absolutely right in whatever way I want to articulate or communicate it.
And when I come from my head and I feel a bit off and I'm lost in insecure thought,
Well then I don't come from the same place and that's when it might be that my communication is off and I'm trying to convince people,
Trying to change their minds.
We don't change people's minds,
That's not how it works.
What actually works is when we see and feel that well-being within us and we see and feel that well-being in someone else,
Well that to me is the kind of communication I want to engage with.
Communicating soul to soul,
From well-being to well-being,
From love to love,
That seems to be the way that we can all communicate with such grounding and power in the world.
And that's what I want to be about,
Communicating from my heart rather than my head.
