Hello and welcome to day 13 of a 30-day experiment where I live from a place of love rather than fear.
My name's Liz Scott.
So the idea is that for each day,
The 30 days on the trot,
I intentionally bring my awareness back to a place of love rather than fear.
And then what I do is I write about it.
I write a journal and from the journal I pick a particular nugget of wisdom that I want to share with you each day.
And the invitation is that you join me on this experiment.
I'd love to know how you're getting on when you bring your awareness back to love rather than living from a place of fear.
Today I've learnt about the power of saying yes rather than saying no.
So what I'm really finding helpful is slowing my mind down.
So when I notice that I'm living from a slightly unsettled place,
Because I'm doing the experiment,
I bring my awareness back to that settled,
Peaceful place.
That's really helped me in picking up things that maybe day to day I wouldn't usually notice.
So today I had an offer of help from my sister.
If you've been following this experiment,
You'll know that I'm actually doing a bit of decorating and moving things around in my house.
Things are a little bit of a mess and chaotic.
And my sister sent me a message this morning and said that she would be really up for coming over to help me out today.
Would that be useful?
And the context of this is I've actually been helping her out recently.
So this was her expression of saying thank you in a way.
But the funny thing is that she sent me the message and my automatic response was no.
Like,
No thanks,
I can do this myself.
I think it's really worth just checking yourself.
I mean,
For me,
This is going to be helpful in the future.
But checking yourself,
Do you automatically say no when somebody offers to help?
I think it's a really useful one to look at.
Anyway,
So I got the message from my sister.
I automatically said,
No thanks,
I don't need your help,
Started to get on with my day.
And then I noticed I didn't feel comfortable with that response.
And I sat with it for a while and I realised that actually rather than say no,
I wanted to say yes.
So I got back to her and said,
Yes,
Please,
Would you come over and help me?
So what I've noticed here is that the automatic,
Habitual way of responding with a no felt a little bit like me just closing things down.
It felt like I was shutting a door.
So in this instance,
Fear turned up with a no,
With a closing down.
And yes,
When I reflected and I realised that that hadn't been my answer,
Yes turned up.
And the yes felt much more like an opening,
A softening,
A sense of abundance,
A sense of wanting connection.
My sister came over and we had the most wonderful afternoon.
It was really interesting for me to be reminded of how good it is to have someone with you when you're doing something like gardening,
For example,
Or in this instance,
A bit of cleaning and moving of furniture.
Having somebody with you makes time go so much more quickly.
And my husband,
Who was working in a different room,
He commented on how good it was to hear me and my sister chatting and laughing and hanging out and just being in each other's company and enjoying each other's company.
Today then has been so useful.
It's been useful because it's reminded me I have the propensity and the habitual way of just saying no to things.
It's just an automatic response.
And actually I realised that it's good for me to go inside and to be intuitive about whether I say yes or no.
And what I've learned today is that when I say yes rather than no,
It can really open up an experience that I wasn't expecting.
So for me today,
Fear turned up in an automatic,
Insecure no,
And love turned up by me realising that that wasn't the right answer.
I could feel a slight discomfort that I had said no.
And then love turned up and helped me reconsider and send another message to say,
Actually I would like some help.
It's so good to say yes and to allow help into your life.
And what I'm loving about the experiment is that I am slowing down with my decision making and if I make a mistake like I did today,
I give myself time to check out whether that was the right response.
And if it wasn't the right response,
Then I'm getting back to someone and saying,
Can I change my mind?
I'm so enjoying living intentionally from love and I'm finding even in these small little nuggets of experience,
I feel like I'm learning so much.
And I wonder how you're getting on.
If you've experimented today or you've been following the experiment and taking time each day to live from a place of love rather than fear,
Just let me know how you're getting on.
It would mean so much to me to hear how you're getting on and what's showing up for you.
